TTC 2021-lets keep it fun and interesting (sex talk)

[Emmav2020]

So i thought i would start a thread for anyone who is on the TTC 2021 journey. I was thinking more lighthearted fun and interesting. Having had a recent MMC my OH said if we were to TTC again soon we need to have fun with it more and not turn it into a chore when i was ovulating. So if you are also TTC or recently pregnant what are your tips to spicing it up, places you have DTD or even convieved. Also tips on how long it took you to concieve or help improve fertility x

Hi @Emmav2020!! So sorry about your MMC. That must have been awful for you. Hope you are doing ok.

I'm with you, it can become a bit of a chore when TTC is the goal!! On Saturday, I suggested we sleep in the spare room (lol!). Surprised OH with some lacy underwear and lit some candles, oils etc. Was good fun! Would definitely recommend. Alllllmost (not quite..!) felt as though we were on holiday. Have you had any ideas?

@Emmav2020 Hi again! We’re both working from home so sneaking off for a quicky mid day absolutely isn’t the norm for us! Plus makes it feel a little naughty that we should be working 😂 Also my husband is normally leaving for work at 5am, so morning delight it is! I usually lock myself away in the shower but I’m going to start leaving the door unlocked in the hope he will sneak in to join me!

We’ve both agreed to dry January and sticking to a healthy diet together to see if this helps TTC! I’ve also stopped smoking and take pregnacare.

Like you we’ve recently suffered a loss and this is our first month of TTC again. Period is due 25th Jan x x

@Nellieee Yes i am doing ok thanks. bleeding slowing down thank god.
I think if you dont have fun with it it gets boring and turns into a job and i know my OH will be sick of me telling him its now time to DTD haha.
I wish we had a spare room i would have suggested that. If we werent in lockdown i would have looked at staying over somewhere for a few nights just to get away. My OH gets a brand new van this week so hes suggested we go on a night drive out somewhere haha.

@TTCBaby1 Wish we were both working from home, I am at the min but would be hard with an 11year old about the house bored. My OH loves it in the morning whereas im more of a night time person but normally give in to him in the mornings.

Im trying to eat health aswell and exercise more. Also taking pregnacare. did you have sex between miscarriage bleeding and before your next period? xx

@Emmav2020 Haha I loved the van comment 😆 Would absolutely love a few nights away if it weren’t for lockdown! I’m trying to walk 3 mile everyday to get out and about. We didn’t have any sex at ALL until after my first period, I’m glad as I think I needed that bit time xx

Hi Girls, can I join?

Also finding it hard keeping it interesting! Usually I have quite a low sex drive so I'm happy with once a week, DH is definitely suspicious now I'm wanting it every 2 days or so.

It doesn't help that our bed has suddenly become really squeaky!! Its like a comedy.

I think we might try some massaging on Thursday, or maybe a bath together with candles etc.

@Emmav2020 haha the van, go for it!

@TTCBaby1 i said to him can you imagine someone driving past and the vans rocking omg hahaha!! i was looking at log cabin with hot tubs but theres just no point at the min. I did Joe wicks yday and can barely move today.

Its hard to keep it interesting as were not aloud to go anywhere at all. doesnt help becuase im no 100% body confident and need to be drunk if i am.

@Toastedsesame our bed is the same haha.

I think we should definitely have fun with it and enjoy ourselves as once babies come along there wont be any time haha. valentines day in a month need to try plan something romantic at home. x

Can I join We're on month 2 of ttc number 3. I love fun in the bedroom, I hate the pressure of ttc. Xx

Haha everyone’s out walking at the min what a sight to see 😆

We’ve done it in some strange places when drunk - toilets in a bar, out the back of the main strip on holiday whilst walking home, absolutely no shame!!!

Can u imagine if you conceived in the van and your child asks where they were conceived? Hahaha

I’m on cycle day 16 now so may have had our wack of trying this month, might try and see if we can get one more try for good measure 😆

X x

😂 my first was conceived in a travel lodge because me and oh where both still living with parents! Oh the romance! OH always wants for the sex that makes our baby to be meaningful... I think the dirt, bend me over ones are probably better for baby making!

@TTCBaby1 weve done it in some weird placed aswell. Last year we were on a walk near manc airport in the middle of a field and was half way then reaslied a plane was really low and we were at the field at the end of the runway.

Conceiving a baby in the van calling it transit 🤣🤣
@marcella64 yes thats exactly how i am. Were not romantic at all. Are you taking any supplements? X

@Emmav2020 😂😂 Best way to be!! I've started vitamin b this month and seven seas. I had 5 miscarriages years ago, looking back I think I had trouble getting them to stick because of my vitamin levels. Got to be worth a go, I'm hoping to be pregnant by Xmas, that would be amazing. How about you, any vitamins or tracking? X

@marcella64 omg 5 misscarriages, bet that was hard. Did the nhs do any investigating? I had my 2nd misscarriage last week, still bleeding slighty at the min. Ive got any 11 year old. Both misscarriages i never took any supplements before but we werent really trying to get pg. So when ive had a period were going to try, ive got pregnacare, DHA and cod liver oil. Xx

Omg you guys are way more daring than me! I think we only ever do it in our bed perhaps we'll be wild and do it in the spare room! We do have an almost 3 year old tho, so thats our excuse.

@marcella64 @Emmav2020 I am so sorry to hear of your miscarriages. That sounds awful.

Where is everybody at in their cycle? I think I'm about to ovulate any day now.

I’m in my two week wait now, due on period 25th Jan - I don’t think we’ve tried as much as we should have but have been taken my time getting back to reality following the miscarriage in Nov, going to try the no pressure approach and enjoy the ‘trying’ as much as possible 🤞

@Toastedsesame tbh for at least 18 months was just in the bedroom but i said we need to have bit more fun. Think its coz we have been stuck in for last year nearly im getting bored of it.

I have no idea where im at, still slightly bleeding feom MC so im guessing ill be ovulating before a period?! X

@Emmav2020 I had 3 before DD who is 9years and 2 before DS 6years. They went to investigate after number 3 but I found out I was pregnant. My first was a missed mc at 12 weeks. I'm already prepping myself for a mc if I do fall pregnant.

I'm 3dpo, not symptom spotting this month just playing it cool lol.
Oh had the Covid vaccine yesterday... he has a dead arm so looks like I'm on top tonight 💪

Hi ladies I am intruiged by this different take on a conception thread we are in cycle 3 of TTC no.2. I'm like PP who said they have a low sex drive and once a week is enough me, I struggle with fatigue too partly because I sleep badly. DH would probs be an 'almost every day' type fella if he could get it poor love . Deffo want to find ways that it doesn't feel like such a chore or a pressure. I'm not v adventurous though must admit DH had the covid jab last week and we did the same @marcella64 .

I'm also due my period around the 25th according to Fertility friend btw @TTCBaby1 so we are roughly in the same place cycle wise. My cycles vary in length from 23-29 days though so who knows exactly.

@MeadowHay it's defo good to have a light hearted thread!! See I'm the every night girl, think I was born horny (I'm a red head) lol OH was a 2/3 times a week guy when we met, safe to say I soon changed that lol. I always think some kinky pics and txts through the day spices it up for the evening if your not that great at bring adventurous xx

Hey I'm also in my 2 week wait. Fingers crossed for everyone

@marcella64 Sorry about the misscarriages, im so glad you have 2 kids now and hopfully a healthy baby this year fingers crossed. Hope you had a good night last night haha.

@MeadowHay glad you joined. Hope you 2 had a good night last night haha. my cycles are a little like yours aswell 25-32 days.

Think my OH getting little impatient now and wants a bit ha.

how has your partners found the vaccine?

Also just a question, one i stop bleeding would you just crack on or wait till after my first period?? xx

@Emmav2020 yes I'm lucky to have my 2 if I get blessed with one more that would be amazing!

Oh had a bad day the day after the vaccine, he's been fine since. Think he milked it a bit!

Hi guys, been lurking here but thought I'd shout up. 2nd cycle TTC#1, I don't think I ovulate on the 1st last month - currently CD14 and predicted to ovulate on Sunday so I'm hoping to ramp up activities! My partner is always up for it but very chill at the same time... sometimes difficult to distract him from PlayStation 🙄.
OPK's read very low at the moment though.

Meant to say I'm at CD12... today is the 14th and I get scrambled far too easily!

Hi @glow92 my tests where low at cd12, by cd16 they ramped right up, I got my peak at 17dpo. Xx