First month TTC

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Hi ladies,

I’m new to this and would really appreciate your help. This is my first month TTC. I’m currently on CD4 so still middle of my period. Just wondering what helped you all conceive in your first month of trying and any tips you have. I have clearblue OPK ready and have been tracking my cycles for a which vary from 27-34 day cycles with 2 random 45 day cycles one of them being my last cycle.

Anyone else TTC this month?

Thanks in advance x

Wowsers, AF has well and truly arrived! I'm out for this month, so on to cycle two me. On the plus side, this has only been a 30 day cycle for me which is a bit of a record!

Baby dust to everyone still in the game this month ✨

Welcome to all the new ladies, this is a lovely group to be in.

@Kittysw @shannonl26 have you had any more spotting, has AF properly arrived or could it be implantation bleeding?

@RadDarwazeh and @Eaststreet best of luck for tomorrow, give us an update asap!

@melissa112, confession time, my bmi is higher than yours, another reason I was so surprised to see it happen so soon and why i'm cautious about getting too excited so soon. There is a good NHS page about being overweight in pregnancy - yes you do need a higher dose of folic acid, you'll be given a prescription for it.
The NHS page will give you all the facts and ultimately its up to you whether you feel you have the time to lose some weight and then however long it could take to conceive or do it in tandem. We decided to just start, thinking it could take a year, I had a major panic about this on Saturday night but part of me thinks if my body wasn't healthy enough to conceive, I wouldn't have.

@FieldView I cried over a fork yesterday..

A recommendation for when there are more BFPs, the Ovia pregnancy app is really good, you can fanny about saving baby names and comparing your embryo to french pastries and fruit for hours.

Thank you for the advice ladies. I think we will give it a go this month then and see what happens. I've messaged the GP to ask for a higher dose of folic acid.

@PineappleSun yes that's a really good point about your body clearly being healthy enough to conceive, and I did read that there will be close monitoring to ensure any risks are reduced so that's a relief. Huge congratulations to you. Did the GP give you the prescription once you discovered you were pregnant? I second the Ovia app. I used it during my first pregnancy and it was really helpful

Good luck to anyone testing soon. Sorry to see AFs arrival @FieldView but good news on the 30 day cycle!

@melissa112 Yes, i've heard people say that it means you get to see your baby more than usual. I haven't actually phoned the GP yet, that's a job I will do before lunch though, my friend was in a similar position and talked me through what will happen. It might also be a factor in birth choices apparently, for example you might not get the option of a water birth or home birth.

@PineappleSun nope no AF, had another TINY bit of brown tinge this morning, still got lower belly cramps & bad back though so I’m just waiting for the full arrival now! How are you feeling?

@PineappleSun I'm still the same as well tiny bit of brown tinge as @shannonl26 said. This is completely not normal for me. I never normally have any spotting before AF I normally have cramps the day/evening before and then there she appears the next day. Its so odd, I doubt its implantation though as its a little late I would of thought. Just still awaiting the arrival of AF.

@melissa112 My BMI is also over 30 classed in the Obese range. I honestly wouldn't pin much onto BMI. I personally don't anyway. Working in the fitness profession there are so many other factors to think about. Personally I swim for around 5 hours a week high intensity training and have an active job (this has changed due to lockdown) but have been this was for some time. Like I think it was Pineapple said if your body is ready then its ready. I would just make some positive changed to your routine rather than anything drastic. As for the folic acid prescription I wouldn't have a clue with trying for our first.

Who are the next people to start testing?

Hi all! Late in the month but room for a newbie?

@PositiveParrot

Hi all! Late in the month but room for a newbie?

Hi @PositiveParrot how are you?

@PositiveParrot Hi and welcome to the chat :) Where about are you in your TTC journey?

@PositiveParrot welcome!

I’ve just done a frer and BFN ! I don’t know why I even did it, I was literally telling myself not to as I was doing it 🙈😂. I’m 9DPO so probably too early but also starting to think the cramps are AF. Probably out this month but we’ll see.

Hello! ☺️

@DizSquiz I am good thank you, how are you? I also feel completely out of my depth if I’m honest!

@Kittysw I am very, very early days, I came off the pill yesterday! What about you?

@Eaststreet thank you! Nice to meet you!

@PositiveParrot

Hello! ☺️

@DizSquiz I am good thank you, how are you? I also feel completely out of my depth if I’m honest!

@Kittysw I am very, very early days, I came off the pill yesterday! What about you?

@Eaststreet thank you! Nice to meet you!

@PositiveParrot I'm good thank you, and yeah same I'm completely out my depth 😅

@PositiveParrot I also feel out of my depth but we will all be muddling our way through together. :) I came off my pill October last year and this is our first month properly TTC so it's still all very new.

Lets hope for a good first month for you :)

Afternoon ladies.

Feeling a bit mopey today for entirely selfish reasons.

A friend announced they are pregnant today (kept it quiet for a while as they already know the gender!) which is the third or fourth pregnancy announcement in what feels like two weeks (but probably isn't). Also, my BFF is in labour!

Meanwhile, I've got mega AF cramps and waiting for the moody b!%$h to turn up any second.

Obviously I'm really happy for everyone and super excited to meet my goddaughter. Butt... I'm a little sad, too.

Silly little problems, I know.

Hey everyone!

I got my first flashing smiley on the clearblue ovulation tests today!
Going forward what's my best plan of action as in do I keep testing.. when is the best time to dtd?
Never used these sticks before 🙈

Girls I'm testing tomorrow. Please help me stay calm. Eek.

Yay for flashing smile @emilyylouise

Dtd every day of flashing smile esp on the day(s) it's a static smiley.

This is what I think is right?

@annabelle0852 you aren't being silly. It's a lot to take. Like everyone and anything is announcing pregnancy lately. We will help support you here. Sending a virtual cuddle to you.

I'll give you all a laugh...

Today's the first day of my "fertile week" and we've done the deed 4 times prior to today in this cycle but I'm only cycle day 9.

My OH goes "it's been a few days, can you find out if you're pregnant now?" 😂 I think he skipped biology.

Can I join please? I have an 18 month old and we've decided today to start trying for our second. Nervous but excited

@Hallie91

I'll give you all a laugh...

Today's the first day of my "fertile week" and we've done the deed 4 times prior to today in this cycle but I'm only cycle day 9.

My OH goes "it's been a few days, can you find out if you're pregnant now?" 😂 I think he skipped biology.

Aww bless him aha my partner is the same, he seemed to think that after first attempt I'd be 🤰🏼 he's too excited

@Annabelle0852 I completely get that feeling. One of my friends just announced too. It's like your so happy for them but you can't help but feel a little sad for yourself too. I think that is a completely normal feeling though tbh.

@Hallie91 If only that was the case... We wouldn't be over here stressing about the smallest change and symptom spotting on this longest two weeks of every cycle.

@EllisRoses Hi, welcome to our lovely group :)

So... I still have no AF and I have just done my usual workout and the warm up of jogging and jumping and all sorts my boobs were so so sore. I have the exact same sports bra on and have done the exact same warm up for weeks and these boobs have never hurt. omg they were so bad. I had to hold onto them. Just picture that whilst leading the exercise group with a 9yo in it. I couldn't do anything but laugh at myself.

@RadDarwazeh

Okay thanks! This is the first time I've got the smiley face so clearly didn't ovulate last month.. only came of the pill in November so was slightly worried how long it would take to come back! Relieved it's come back sooner than I thought 😀

Hello everyone, this is mega late but wondering if I could join? Have been lurking for a while but feeling pretty lonely today so finally made an account!

I'm first month TTC and no idea what I'm doing but have learnt loads from reading MN and starting to get the hang of my cycle I think. I got a peak fertility on the Clear Blue OPK yesterday afternoon but temp is still low so don't think I've ovulated yet. Am CD 18 (easy to remember as got AF on 1st Jan!), a bit worried that I ovulate quite late relative to my cycle :/

I have quite an obsessive personality and like a lot of you I'm a planner so I'm enjoying reading lots and trying to feel a but more in control of something that is largely out of our control. But finding it hard to talk to anyone about it as I keep just being told that stress makes it hard to conceive. Which I'm sure is true, but I don't feel stressed about it (I feel stressed about other things, yes), I feel mostly excited and I just want to talk about it!

Would love a reminder of where everyone is this month, anyone else ovulating?

@PineappleSun massive congratulations, this has made me feel really optimistic!

@emilyylouise I kept testing 2-3 times a day until I got the static smiley as I heard the LH spike can only last a few hours and I didn't want to miss it- not sure if that was overkill!

@RadDarwazeh you can do it! Have you got anything to distract yourself with this evening?

Evening ladies and welcome @Aprilfox, @EllisRoses and @PositiveParrot!

@melissa112 I definitely echo what the other girls have said - lots and lots of people have successful and healthy pregnancies with BMI over 30, just needs some extra care - so if you did get BFP straight away, you'd be OK - but why not see if you can lose some lbs while TTC? I've had some good success with Slimming world before and am thinking of doing it again over these first few months of TTC just to get that BMI down a bit. Good luck!

@Kittysw - these symptoms do sound v different to your usual cycle! Remind me, have you tested and when is AF due?

@RedDarwazah oh gosh I can't imagine, you must be nervous and excited - totally need a distraction though! (and good luck in the morning)

Ridiculous how excited I'm getting over all of your prospects for the month!
I'm much earlier on - CD10 - but that means I'm just getting into the actual fun week of all this! Have warned DH that I'd like to spend lots of time together this week and he's grinning like a Cheshire cat - afraid we're usually a once at the weekend sort of couple