First time TTC - second cycle

[Sarah1253]

I was wondering if anyone else is in the same position as me?
I’m 29, it’s my first time ttc and we started trying last month. I quickly become obsessed with symptom spotting and testing like a maniac but other than taking folic acid and using the clue app to track fertile window and ovulation we didn’t do anything extra.
It’s now my second month ttc and I want to give it a better shot this month! Today is my first day in my fertile window, I’ve got pre-seed lube, I’ve cut coffee down to 1-2 cups a day, I’m making a conscious effort to eat healthily and I’ve ordered vitamin d for me and wellman for Hubby.

I would love to speak to anyone else at the same point as me, or hear any tips and tricks for getting that beautiful BFP!!

Sarah x

well defo no BFP for me this month! AF today...here we go again!!
ha yeah sure he's delighted with every 2nd day!!!
first month killed us of trying so often haha - but think we need up our game from this month! hes always shattered when gets into bed, and goes straight to sleep but then if he wants it in the morn i always need a wee and then get up...! doesnt work so well this! hmmm
good luck and enjoy anyway :)

oh sorry @Sip123, welcome! your message only showed up after i posted mine. Ah still early days for sure, but yeah defo know what u mean with being disappointed. i'm already get rowed because i then had a stressout about why hasnt happened already, and OH is like we've only just started chill out!! easier said than done tho...! good that you are LH testing and BBT- all helps give us the best shot doesnt it :)

@leftitlate37 Oooh, every other day sounds good! We've been DTD 5 times during my FW and it's exhausting. 😅 Sorry to hear AF is here - hopefully this new cycle is the one!

@Sip123 Welcome! 😊 Sorry to hear your first cycle wasn't successful. Of course it's disappointing. I'm taking calc fluor between ovulation and AF arriving - also supposed to help with stress but no idea if that's true 😅

Thanks for your lovely comments and it is so lovely to have other to talk to. OH had been amazing but there’s that feeling of blooming yourself, I had a bit of a cry this eve but will pick myself up. Find it interesting on how often people suggest to dtd...
I’ve never heard of calc Fluor

Hi @Sip123, so sorry to hear you had a BFN. It's horrible when you're waiting for it to be positive and so hard to not stress out about it. Sounds like you're doing everything right so hopefully wont be too long.
I went to the doctors and she said to do it every 2-3 days for the full cycle so we'll see. Her words were 'you and your husband just need to get at it as much as you can' 😂
@leftitlate37 sorry to hear about AF arriving, fingers crossed itll happen this cycle!

@Laurenemma13 I’ve read a few people have had this suggested, I guess once you know things seem to be in order of ovulating etc it makes sense to do the every other day and take the stress out as we know that doesn’t help.., mind you in this heat!!!

Af arrived this morning so at least I know by Monday should be able to try this doctors advice!!!🤣🤣🤣

hey @Sip123 we will have to just encourage each other come Monday hahah - i'll be in same boat, be like right, had a week off - cmon now! sorry you had a cry - its so hard isnt it when whilst we can do what we can to help, its just so out of our control. as u say, its gr8 hearing from other people too as know u arent alone!
@LeopardLover we couldnt manage every other day haha - far too old!!every other day for about 6 days maybe ;) @Laurenemma13 is the one with the stamina haha

Hi guys I am also TTC my first baby and now on cycle approx 5. Had a chemical just last week so that was awful after getting BFP but back on the trying bandwagon now in hope for some good news soon! We have been using OPKs they are a life saver and I just use the cheap easy @ home ones from Amazon, they will tell you when you are approaching your peak and then when you get your peak you know you will ovulate in around a day or two so you can DTD every day for 3 days - think it's called the SMEP plan. Without them I would have no idea when I am ovulating. Also a tip of you start using opks, download the premom app - it allows you to take a pic of your ovulation strips and it will read the level and keep a record of it for you. It also tells you when you are "low, "high" and "peak" and on what day you ovulated so it is good to keep a record of your cycles and so you know when you can test etc.

Hopefully we will all be getting our first baby's soon

😂😂😂

@Mamainmaking1 oh im so sorry to hear that, that's horrible. Glad to hear you are doing okay and trying!
I've bot used any OPKs this month but I can normally tell when im ovulating so we'll see if it's the same this month but good to know about the app!
Yeah we can only hope we will all have our babies soon!

@Mamainmaking1 sorry to hear about chemical pregnancy. Hoping for better news soon for you.

@Laurenemma13 I can get what you mean about not using opk.

I will temp and lh test again this month once af is done and dusted! as I just want to just do two full months to check all seems to follow as should and if it does and we get another negative will just have a month of enjoying the trying shall we say, rather than stressing! As I can see all this testing adds stress at the same time as allowing you to know what’s going on

@leftitlate37 Hahaha sorry I mixed you up 🙈 @Laurenemma13 - I bow to your energy 😉

@Sip123 I hope you're feeling a little better? Probably a coincidence but this was my first cycle using Calc Fluor and it worked.

@Mamainmaking1 Sorry to hear about your loss 😔 I agree OPKs are a real game changer along with tracking apps! Hopefully this will be your lucky cycle.

I received my BFP yesterday! I was taken by surprise because I had AF symptoms with cramping etc, but I was 3 days late and my BBT remained high and so I took a FRER. Fingers crossed we see more BFPs on this thread. 💜

@LeopardLover firstly congratulations secondly what is calc Fluor.
Think I’m on last day of af so anything I need I need to get ordering

@Sip123 Thank you! 😊 Just tissue salts, I read online they can help to support implantation (you take them between ovulation and AF) and I bought them from Holland and Barratt - even kids can take them, so no idea if they did anything 😅

@LeopardLover congrats on your BFP! Thata fab news!!

9 times in 13 days, DH is loving it but i'd be lying if I said I wasnt already obsessed and sitting bolt upright this morning crying convincing myself I havent ovulated 😭🙈

@Laurenemma13 sorry to hear you are upset, what makes you think you haven’t ovulated

@Sip123 thankyou. Juat being silly getting upset.
I had a health scare before we started TTC. For the past few months there has been a day or two where I always have quite a bit of watery stuff and my sex drive is a lot higher than normal. This month I'm not sure now that I'm waiting for it as it doesnt seem to be as obvious as normal and dont know if its just cos we are dtd everyday or every 2nd day! I also ended up doing a few opks which was silly anyway as I only done 3 and they were negative but I might have already ovulated or not at all yet ...

@Laurenemma13 nothing silly about emotions.
Have you tried doing bbt alongside opk. I did both last month but reading more I realised I didn’t do opk enough and still missed ovulation as bbt showed I did ovulate. We did dtd over the right time but last month unsuccessful, hooping for better luck this month just finishing af.

Yeah, I'm going to keep going with dtd every second day and that'll hopefully catch it when it does happen regardless but thinking if I dont get a bfp this month I'll maybe start doing opks or baby as well!
Fingers crossed af leaves you soon and we get that bfp 🤞

@Laurenemma13 how you getting on?

@Sip123 not too bad thanks! Had spotting yesterday and today with some cramps and af due in 10 days so potentially ovulation spotting ...
How you getting on?

@Laurenemma13 sounds promising, how many dpo are you?
I finished af a few days ago so due to ovulate somewhere around the end of this will. Going to opk again this month then if still no positive at the end of this month just go with and enjoy it next month as I will have done a few months to know what’s going on

@Sip123 I hope so as only 1-2 dpo I think so hoping it is ovulation spotting!
Oh thats good news 😊 that sounds like a good plan. Always worth enjoying it but it's so hard as well cos you just want to male sure the timing is spot on without just waving a pee stick at OH 😂

yaaaaaay! Congrats @LeopardLover!!!this is amazing news!!!! didnt come on here at weekend so only just seen this :):)
u must be over the moon! hopefully the start of more BFPs!!!

@Laurenemma13 Thank you! Hopefully ovulation is on its way for you. 😊

@leftitlate37 Haha thanks! 💖 Yes, I took a CB digital test this morning and got 3+ weeks (I didn't realise you measure pregnancy weeks from the first day of your last period) which brings me to 5 weeks today. I'm not ready to call the GP yet but I'll get there 😉 xx