TTC after miscarriage - April 2020 part 2

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I've created us all another thread as we filled the last one!

@mommybear05 I had no idea how long I'd feed for. I never thought I'm definitely going to bf, once he was born though, all I wanted was to get bf right. Every time he woke in the hospital i buzzed for the midwives to check we had got the latch right.

He's already asked more today than he did yesterday and has been difficult to distract!

Morning ladies , I hope
You are all well and sorry for those getting BFNS , but it's not over until AF shows .

I'm feeling a little better today , I have accepted the fact I feel that this month will be another BFN and prepared myself for AF to arrive

I've got back ache which is a sign AF is on the way so I'm pretty certain I'm out this month .

I will test again tomorrow when I'm 12DPO and then just wait for AF XX

@VP91x I know it was horrendous having to gove birth knowing we wouldnt be taking her home, but we are strong and people might think wow how are u trying again straight away but we want a baby, thats the end goal...she was born exactly 4 months too soon on 7th feb and she was due 7th June. Shes our guardian angel now. We called her Bonnie and she looked exactly like her dad it was crazy cos i didnt realise how she would look and i was terrified and she had all her features formed she was just tiny, i cant believe abortions are allowed up until 24 weeks its insane xx

@Hayleylou89 yeah I'll feel like that next time round , that I wont feel through it until baby in my arms . I actually work in the world of clinical negligence in hospitals. So work on horrible cases where you see losses so late and as soon as I found out I was pg not gonna lie they all got to me and worried me. But like you I'm such a laid back person too. I hate feeling up tight or stressed so normally avoid it but once you've been through something you cant help it . Only human ay 💞 dont apologise for long post ! Xx glad you have finished your treatment and sounds like next time you and the hospital will be extra prepared and you know what extra things they can do to help you xx

@Hayleylou89 wow so strong ! And only you know how you feel everyones different but I think a lot of us here know how you feel that TTC again straight away helps you emotionally in a way and you'll never forget your first baby xx I know itll happen for you soon 😘 you deserve it xx tbh I think you've had some good signs this cycle ! Hope AF stays away next week xx

Sorry you're joining here again @ktl1a I dont know anything about aspirin tbh . I thought it may be beneficial for those who miscarriage naturally by bleeding rather than MMC , I had a MMC no bleeding , as it's to do with bleeding isnt it ? Maybe you could speak to someone in EPU and ask them I'm sure they would be happy to help xx xxx

@Hayleylou89 I do understand that you would want to try for another baby straight away. She definitely is your guardian angel she will be looking after you always xxx

@ktl1a I spoke to my doctor about this as due to my age I would be given aspirin from 12 week so I asked if I should take it now but she said not to as she couldn't see any benefits more me after having only one miscarriage and that is was also a missed miscarriage so I'm taking her advice on that just hoping that if I do get pregnant then it doesn't happen again.
I've been spotting since last Monday I thought it was AF but I woke up today in absolute agony with a very heavy flow so I'm now counting today as CD1 my cycle seems so messed up at the minute I thought I'd already had my first AF post miscarriage but I'm starting to think this is it and I haven't ovulated this month. Fingers crossed my cycle goes back to normal and I can get my BFP soon.
I went crazy this month in the TWW and used most of my cheapie tests too !!

@Dipsy77 sorry to hear AF arrived xx I think I didnt ovulate straight after my MC either tbh as didnt pick up on ovulation on opks. I've had my first AF now and did find a peak this time.. and got a dip and rise on temping to suggest I did ovulate... although I'm pretty rubbish at temping so who knows. But hopefully now your cycle is resetting and can start a fresh on this cycle 😘🤞 xx x

Thanks Girls hope ur all having s nice weekend!

@ktl1a my friend who is ttc was told she might need aspirin to help as soon as she is pregnant i dont know what its supposed to do would it be to help it stick as she has had a few mc's? X

My beautiful baby boy is just over 3 years old now. I am so lucky to have him. 2 miscarriages & numerous chemical pregnancies later over the last 30 months I’m sitting staring at a one line FRER @ 10 DPO again. I’m not sure on my post as I know, again this cycle I am out & no fear of experiencing that unrewarding pain again but I want to hear success stories from you who thought the TTC#2 game was long gone & over but eventually happened.

@MiracleRainbowDreams 10DPO is still early , I tested at 10DPO which was yesterday and got a BFN . But I know what you mean sometimes you just know it's not your month AGAIN.

I'm testing again tomorrow as I will be 12 DPO but I know I won't get the answer I long for .

We've been trying now for 12 months and it seems like a life time I've got backache etc and that's a usual AF symptom for me so I just know .

But still I hold on to that little bit of hope to keep me going until AF arrives

Big hugs to you xxx

@donnat89 Sending bigger hugs right back at you xxx and all my baby making energies go to you & that your get your BFP tomorrow. 10dpo is when I normally get that second line that you don’t question but this is the first month I’m really bummed about it. Just tired of trying I guess. I’m just so thankful that you read & listened & responded so a big thank you ❤️

@Hayleylou89 thank you for sharing your story. I found that so incredibly upsetting to just read and I can’t even begin to imagine what that was like for you. There really is nothing worse. I’m so sorry for your loss. I really do hope that you have your rainbow soon and I completely understand why you don’t want to wait before trying. Massive hugs xxxxx

@MiracleRainbowDreams your welcome , and don't loose hope yet as every pregnancy is different . X

@MiracleRainbowDreams big hugs. Sorry you are feeling down about ttc. I sometimes go through old forums looking for success stories when I want hope. It’s so hard to keep positive sometimes. You’ve had a lot of heartache I can tell. I hope you get some good news soon. I know you’ve probably heard before but every pg is different and maybe 10 days p o is early? But if not then you join me in the wait for next month. We’re in this together and this is a safe space if you need to talk

@Hayleylou89 I'm so sorry for what you went through but you definitely sound very strong and are doing all the right things getting answers & being as prepared as possible for when you get that BFP, could definitely still happen this month 🤞 hope you're having a nice weekend x

@Renna I'm sure our bodies know when we get a bit excited, I was actually thinking this morning maybe this is a sign but then I started spotting a bit of brown blood when I wiped so AF is definitely on her way over the next few days. I'm CD31 and normal cycle is 28 days but think I ovulated about 5 days late so expecting AF Monday next week. When are you going to test?

@Mommybear05 well I'm guessing the weaning will be easier after lockdown so maybe ambitious for him to take to it when you're there all the time. It'll happen when you're both ready. And yeah DP is always up for it, actually don't think I'm going to ovulate now as started spotting which makes me think AF is coming, but will probs DTD tonight anyway before I'm out of commission for a week 😂 glad to hear that yours was a normal AF hopefully they indicates cycles returning and with less tracking this month the lack of structure might be exactly what you need x

I'm glad you are feeling better today @Donnat89 hot bath and a good nights sleep is sometimes all we need x

@MiracleRainbowDreams sorry that i don't have any success stories, although I'm sure there are loads out there... be kind to yourself and remember that next month will come around soon and when you get your BFP this will all be worth it x

@Hayleylou89 thank you for sharing your story I'm so sorry you went through all that I can't begin to imagine what it must of been like for you. You seem like a strong person and I can totally understand the want to try again, I really hope you get to hold your baby in your arms soon 😊. X

After my MMC I had bleeding for 2 weeks then a 4 week cycle. AF was 6 weeks exactly after I had the MMC .

Cycles took a couple of months to get back to what's normal for me.

I also had accupunture once a month which really helps. Sorry that information isn't any help ATM. I had a session booked for 3rd April but obviously that couldnt happen! Highly recommended if you haven't tried it- I find it helps with anxiety and overthinking too xx.

@Hayleylou89 on the sofa with those pringles again I am .. dont tell me you are too ? 😂 xx

Hope you've all had a good day x .

@SmileyT aw sorry you've been spotting . All seemed like pretty good signs .. you still never know 🤞🤞 but we all know our bodies and know when AF is coming I guess . You just know dont you 🙄😓 well.. I haven't set a day that I'm going to test... AF due next Sunday maybe even Monday so still have over a week. I'd like to just wait to see If AF comes as thats what I did when TTC before MC. But I think I'll see how I feel a day or so before AF due next weekend . If I feel like I'm getting symptoms and I feel like I can mentally hack seeing a negative I'll test over the weekend .

I've been checking CP /CM etc and tbh I've been checking it the last month and its never really coincided with what they say it should be ... but right now it's kinda high and firm ish, not really soft . And it says when u get pg it goes soft but this can happen at any point even after getting a BFP... so I keep checking my CP etc but I dont even know why as I've not had any real signals from it or if it really helps 🙄 I never checked that before MC so it's not really helping me and then googling things doesnt help 🙄

@minibow I did one session of acupuncture before lockdown then couldnt carry on which I was gutted about as deffo think it would help. Xx

@Renna I agree with you with CP it is bloody confusing in there, haha! Sometimes in the morning I will think it feels firmer and then it is softer by the evening. Mostly doing it out of curiosity but it is just weird to try and figure out x

@vp91x omg same . It changes throughout the day. It felt a bit lower this morning. And we DTD today and then it's gone much higher again... I'm like if DTD makes it move then what else does and then how am I supposed to rely on it .. it never really felt that soft over ovulation week. And it was high when I had AF .. when it's supposed to be low ..I think I may have to give up with trying with checking it as a method of knowing what's going on haha not helping me at all. But I'm the same I keep checking out of curiosity like I'm gonna get some revelation.. 🙄 xx

@Renna 😂😂😂😂 we definitely aren't going to find the answers we want by rummaging up there. Too tempting to not check though. Honestly the things we do. I keep reading that it is mwant to feel like lips if it is soft and the tip of a nose if it is firm, but I can hardly ever properly differentiate. X

@vp91x ... i know its redic isnt It haha .. one hand one the cervix one hand checking what my nose or lips feels like 🙄 crazy haha ... when I'm now in TWW so should just be patiently waiting for AF to show or not .. I think CP is helpful to know if you're ovulating as it helps knowing when to DTD but when you're in TWW feels like I'm just winding myself up and doesnt actually help 🙄

@Renna and @VP91x I started checking CP la set couple of months and I'm
So glad you guys bought this up i thought i was weird 😅😅

Like you guys I don't find it very helpful as it doesn't seem to change for me and can feel different and different times of the day

I read about it staying high and feeling softer and was wondering when this would be , this has now been answered buy you guys !

Hope everyone is ok x

@Donnat89 @VP91x well it's also made me feel better it's not just me 😂 think I'm gonna try and not check it so much or at all if im starting to realise it's pointless and giving me something else to second guess. Xx