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TTC First Baby - Thread 16!!

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Fivebyfive2 · 19/04/2019 08:39

Hi all, thought as it's Bank Holiday and thread 15 was 900 plus I'd start a new one, hope that's OK??

Copying tags from when @starkid updated them all the other day.

Hope this works as I've not created a thread before!!

@Jessikka - 28 Cycle 4
@starkid - 29 Cycle 8
@MrsAW2018 - 24 Cycle 10
@TTC34 - 34 Cycle 3
@19Bee2 - 27 Cycle 2
@MrsH497 - 32 Cycle 5
@MrsR16 - 26 Cycle 9
@Lola871 - 31 Cycle 3
@ValidUser - 29 Cycle 1
@DayDreamer1707 - 28 Cycle 6
@Flapjackered - 31 Cycle 10
@DuchessofPemberley - 32 Cycle 7
@KittieKath - 34 Cycle 6
@KatBeCool - 40 Cycle 11
@MrsMcNtobe - Cycle 6
@BabySquid - 29 Cycle 11
@Sleepyquest - 28 Cycle 2
@Granddesigns - 32 cycle 5
@Catlady31 - 31 cycle 1
@LikeTheFruit - 30 cycle 4
@Jooloo11 - 32 Cycle 3
@Daisiesandpeonies - Cycle 11
@LuckyPenguin - 34 Cycle 3
@Lizzie198 - 30 Cycle 2
@Rachel59pink - 26 Cycle 1
@Orangeloo - 31 Cycle 4
@Lemonysherbet - 31 Cycle ?
@NKB88 - Cycle 2
@Wildrabbit - Cycle 2
@Essjayycee - Cycle 1
@Hannah192 - Cycle 4
@LoMoon - Cycle 6
@Hiddenfigure - Cycle 1
@Jc88146 - Cycle 18
@Kay98 - Cycle 16
@Lottiepink - 29 Cycle 13
@Bec18x - Cycle 4
@Soda123x - 32 Cycle 2
@Aimingfor2019 - 28 Cycle 3
@Lifesforlivingandloving - 32 Cycle 1
@MotherOfShihTzus - 33 Cycle 14
@Cupcakesandglitter - 23 cycle 11
@Baby01988 - 30 Cycle 5
@Pinksunset1 - 28 cycle 4
@TonightJosephine - cycle 1
@Toobies1 - 30 Cycle 5
@Blackfriars - Cycle 4
@rosehm 28 - Cycle 1
@SophWolf - Cycle 1
@Thosethreewords - Cycle 4
@Fivebyfive2 - 30 Cycle 9
@SunnyL88 - 30 Cycle 9
@rose555 - 32 Cycle 4
@Chembecky - 32 Cycle 2
@AysLon - 31 Cycle 2
@SunStruck - 35 Cycle 2
@dahlia123 - 32 Cycle 4
@LokiCat - 28 Cycle 6
@TrulyMiss - 30 Cycle 1
@SSC92 - Cycle 1
@Bacchant - Cycle 2
@Headswim - 36 Cycle 4
@Lemurville - 32 Cycle 5
@Tropicana1 - 28 Cycle 1
@McHelenz - 30 Cycle 1

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Dollywilde · 08/05/2019 09:03

@mirana love your description - so bloody true!

@lokicat only my first go with OPKs so I’m no expert, but looks positive to me Smile

I’ve officially gone mad - just caught myself symptom spotting (achey loser back). Then had to remind myself I haven’t even ovulated yet this cycle Blush 🙄😂

Dollywilde · 08/05/2019 09:03

*lower back.. ffs this phone hates me!

Bettythecat · 08/05/2019 09:17

@Dollywilde 😂😂😂 I know the feeling. I've been thinking the same even though I've literally just finished my period. TTC Sends us all mad!

@LokiCat looks positive to me too!!

@MrsEG probably yes but a bit hard to tell. Basically the project I am working on is either going to go ahead to a particular timeline or not. If it does then it will likely be manic but if it doesn't and I still go then it will be a lot more relaxed 🤷‍♀️. I am really cross with myself for not wanting to go as I know I should and should be pushing myself career wise too but my mind is elsewhere really now... 👶🏼. What CD are you now? Any symptoms? X

Jessikka · 08/05/2019 09:32

Hello Everyone 👋🏻

Congratulations to the BFPs further down the thread 💗 also so sorry to read that a few ladies are back with us. 💐

I'm having a bad week! First my batch of OPKs are bad and aren't detecting even the slightest bit of LH (usually there's a faint line) and they seem to be put together rubbish.
I can't remember if they usually look like this? They seem to be open at the bottom by the bit you dip?

Also I'm in my FW i think. I usually ovulate cd12/13 of a 25/26day cycle and that's tomorrow, but im sick and don't want to be jiggled around later 😂

Can we just fast forward this week please?

Jessikka · 08/05/2019 09:33

It would probably help if I attached a picture whilst asking your advice wouldn't it 😫😂

Go back to sleep woman.

TTC First Baby - Thread 16!!
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LokiCat · 08/05/2019 09:45

Thanks @MrsEG @Dollywilde @Bettythecat - may have to try and escape early!! Hopefully DH is up for it, he's usually pretty grumpy before a night shift 😂 maybe some sexing will do him some good!

@MrsEG ah sorry it's got you down! Hopefully it doesn't mean much and you still get positive news. Got my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏽🤞🏽

@Dollywilde I've been doing that all week, especially as I've been so bloated because that was my first symptom last time. It's clearly just all the pasta I've eaten 🙈

@Jessikka my OPKs sometimes look like that. No wonder they're so cheap! If this isn't our cycle, I may switch to the digital ones.. The 'is it darker or not' malarkey is too stressful!
Sorry you're feeling sick! Fingers crossed you get better ready to start DTD!

MrsEG · 08/05/2019 10:59

@Bettythecat Ha, my mind is the same! I’m being asked about a meeting in october and wondering how to get out of it as of COURSE I’ll be up the duff by then?! I’m 9DPO today, my right boob is really sore and I have a cold but that’s it! Not testing til Monday if AF doesnt show.

@Jessikka Oh bless you hope you feel better soon!

@LokiCat I know, I’m annoyed it’s annoyed me really as I know at 9DPO it means nothing really but I get so hopeful every morning to see my chart and it’s so shit to see it go down instead of up! FX it’ll start to climb tomorrow! Definitely try and leave early - I’ve done the same at work before! They must think I’m having some serious dental work done haha!!

Meenabeena · 08/05/2019 11:17

Hi everyone. Been away for a week and came back to find AF :( so it's back to TTC. Used ovulation sticks last month and I have 5 left from the pack. Honestly I can't be bothered anymore. I feel like I've read everything there is to read about the how and why. Now I just wanna pray and hope for the best :(

purplefig · 08/05/2019 12:08

Hey ladies!

I've been on and off this thread since last year. I hope you don't mind a part-timer like me rejoining? I feel like I use somewhere to vent!

I'm 28 and now on cycle 9. I never in a million years thought it would take this long! So naive. I got my period yesterday and had a big fat cry, then had a hot bath and nap on the sofa with the pets. Felt much better. Every time I get my period I think: I can't keep doing this. And then I realise: what's the alternative? So here's to another month.

Coincidentally,, it also was my first fertility acupuncture session yesterday evening. I didn't want to go, but it was actually amazing. It's so nice to speak with someone about the stress of TTC and it feels positive, like I'm doing something. Has anybody else tried acupuncture? I'd be interested to hear your thoughts. I really enjoyed the experience and like @Bettythecat , found it super relaxing. @starkid the needles are so tiny and honestly felt like nothing more than a slight pin prick. She also reassured me that in the grand scheme of things, 8 months is really not much at all and that it's very likely a result of stress (various life things going on).

So this month I'm going to start exercising again (the best way for me to process stress), stick with acupuncture and I'm also going to try temping for the firs time ever this month. I've ordered a thermometer and am going to download FF.

@Lozzlepop so sorry to hear about your MMC. That must be absolutely heartbreaking. I hope you're taking care of yourself and have some solid support around you.

Bettythecat · 08/05/2019 12:53

Also thought I would update you all on the at home fertility test from Forth With Life...well I tried to collect the blood but could get nowhere near enough via my finger despite having my husbands help in stabbing me and doing all the things it recommended. Have now got 3 rather sore pin pricks in my fingers and didn't manage to submit my test 😂🤦‍♀️. Also ended up being a very stressful start to a Tuesday morning especially as the whole process made me feel really light headed and sick to the point I had to lie down!! HOWEVER Forth with Life themselves have been sooo helpful and have been responding to my emails and have said I can upgrade to the at home blood test where someone takes it for you via a vein so all is not lost. I do have to wait until the beginning of next cycle though which is annoying. Also on a related note my husband did an at home fertility test that is apparently 93% accurate- anyone's husband done this or have any info about how accurate they are??

Jessikka · 08/05/2019 13:29

Well, my day is improving.

Dodgy belly had passed meaning I can DTD tonight and my OPKs have started playing ball - maybe only some are dodgy! woohoo!

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starkid · 08/05/2019 13:47

@Jessikka - That's good they're getting darker :)
To be fair, I have them where only the control line appear, I don't think it necessarily means it's defective if there's only 1 line.

Dollywilde · 08/05/2019 14:03

@starkid @jessikka so glad you’re both talking about this! Just did my second OPK and was v confused as there was a faint line on yesterday’s (cd10) but really nothing there on today’s (cd11) - has bummed me out a bit. Good to know sometimes they do go blank and it’s not a dodgy one.

I always knew I had no patience but despite having a few nice things coming up I would happily fast forward the next few days to get to FW! Just want to feel like I’m doing something!

Dollywilde · 08/05/2019 14:09

Also how are you all managing to test if you’re at work? At the moment my solution is keeping an egg cup in my handbag but our lips are by reception and I’m paranoid about our receptionist clocking that I’m in there at the same time each day for 10 minutes 😂

Dollywilde · 08/05/2019 14:09

*loos, not lips...

KatBeCool · 08/05/2019 14:26

@Bettythecat at home SA is not accurate at all and it doesn't test for anything but the sperm count. Those are absolutely not worth it. You're better off paying for a real fast privately. And it hurt my finger just thinking of you trying to squeeze some blood out of yourself.

Bettythecat · 08/05/2019 14:27

@KatBeCool this particular one tests for count and mobility but I have to admit I'm sceptical about the idea. The finger prick was awful!! I have no idea how people manage to get enough for the sample! 😮

KatBeCool · 08/05/2019 14:38

@Bettythecat those two aren't even enough. Morphology is very important, and a regular test checks a few other things too.

starkid · 08/05/2019 14:42

@Dollywilde - oh god, testing at work is a nightmare. We've got a bathroom with cubicles in it, and I tentatively sneak in with a test and my 'receptacle' under my arm or in a pocket, but panic every time about someone coming in while i'm putting it in the bin or washing the receptacle out!!
I prefer to do it as soon as I get home from work instead

ELW85 · 08/05/2019 14:43

Hi Ladies - do you mind if I join in?
This is our 2nd cycle TTC and time would be great to chat to you all for support!

We started using OPKs and an OvaCue from last cycle (which went weird as I was jet lagged and it delayed O by about a week).

I was wondering if you guys start DTD before a positive OPK (but in the week you expect a positive) or if you just wait until then?

Thanks in advance!!

Dollywilde · 08/05/2019 15:03

@starkid Glad it's not just me! I don't get in until gone 6.30pm so I'd be worried about missing the LH surge if I waited until I got home. Thinking about ramping up to twice a day OPK tests during FW so testing at work at about 1pm and then either just before I leave at 5.30pm or when I get in at 6.30ish, but don't want to risk getting the wrong time... sigh

Welcome @ELW85! I'm also on cycle 2. Whereabouts in your cycle are you? Last month was our honeymoon so we were pretty much every other day throughout the cycle. This month I'm loosely following the Sperm Meets Egg Plan so every other day from cd10 - I'm hoping DH has the stamina to keep up if we get a positive OPK and we ramp up to every day for three days! When not TTC we usually manage twice a week, sometimes three times a week which is obviously good, but I'm keen to try and make sure our attempts are as 'targeted' as possible IYSWIM...

ELW85 · 08/05/2019 15:19

@Dollywilde thank you so much for the welcome!
I’m on CD8 but I have a 25 day cycle usually, and a luteal phase of about 13-14days, so O should be CD11 or 12 for me.
I’m getting negative OPKs at the moment, but we’re going to start DTD from tonight on an every other day basis.
I’m so curious; what’s the Sperm Meets Egg plan?!

I’ve just read something really interesting that said DTD every day might be detrimental depending on sperm count, and apparently DTD every other day compared to daily only reduces the chances of conceiving by 2% BUT I feel like I don’t know enough about it, and there is a lot of conflicting info!

It’s so weird that I spent the majority of my life trying to not get pregnant, and now it’s the one thing I’m impatient to do?!
I’m sure I’m not alone though :)

starkid · 08/05/2019 15:24

@Dollywilde - 5.30pm is probably a pretty decent time to do it :)

@ELW85 - I've got an idea of when my fertile week usually is now, as my cycles don't usually differ much asides from a couple of days, so we start dtd once AF is over every few days just in case the positive comes a bit earlier than expected (what happened this month!), with me doing OPKs from maybe CD8. Then will start every other day when my fertile week usually is, and make sure to do it the day of the positive opk and the following day especially :)
We're not usually as often as that, so takes a bit of planning/reminding to stick to it haha, us managing 4 times in the fertile week this month was an achievement.

ELW85 · 08/05/2019 15:40

@starkid We’re totally in the same boat! Doing it 3 times in the fertile week last cycle was definitely an achievement for us, haha!
Are you in your TWW now?

Fingers crossed for us all that we get a BFP soon!

@Dollywilde - meant to ask where you were in your cycle?

MrsEG · 08/05/2019 15:44

@Meenabeena So sorry AF arrived and you’re feeling down, it happens to us all. Just think the next cycle starts now; I really need hope it’s a lucky one for you.

@purplefig A cuddle with the pets is the best medicine! My dog always cheers me up :) I’m also cycle 9, but two losses in that time also. Can’t believe it either - who knew it could be this hard?! I’ve gotten massively back in to exercise for my overall health but mental health too, it’s done me wonders.

Everyone discussing OPKs - this is exactly why I prefer the Clear Blue digital! So much easier to just wait for those smiley faces. You can test with FMU, too. So damn expensive though (my god, the money I’ve spent TTC... doesn’t bear thinking about)

@ELW85 Welcome! The sperm meets egg plan you can find if you google ‘SMEP’ - we actually did it this cycle (but ended up doing 5 days in a row at the end rather than 3, my poor DH was a broken man by the end of it all!) - you basically start with every other day from around CD8 I think. Always best to get a good reserve of sperm in there before ov day, as it can survive a good 5 days!

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