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TTC First Baby - Thread 16!!

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Fivebyfive2 · 19/04/2019 08:39

Hi all, thought as it's Bank Holiday and thread 15 was 900 plus I'd start a new one, hope that's OK??

Copying tags from when @starkid updated them all the other day.

Hope this works as I've not created a thread before!!

@Jessikka - 28 Cycle 4
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Lozzlepop · 07/05/2019 08:09

@Bettythecat I know it’s been a rough ride, I’m glad I went medical and only bled for about 5-6 days so just need to wait for AF to decide when she wants to come back now! That’s really interesting about the fertility acupuncture, I didn’t even know such a thing existed, will need to see if it’s available in my area!

@Lottiepink thanks hun, we are getting there ❤️

MrsEG · 07/05/2019 08:15

@ValidUser Good luck with your TWW and FX!

@Lozzlepop Sadly it really is, we’ve also had plenty of people around us tell us they have been through the same. Almost all of them went on to have healthy babies (one currently 16 weeks and one recently born!) so it will happen for us too :)

@Bettythecat I’m so interested in acupuncture but the fertility specialists near me have such long waiting lists! If I don’t get lucky this month though I think I’ll look in to it next month!

@PippaPug Welcome and enjoy your first cycle!

@PinkFizz19 I’m so sorry to hear it, my cycles were a little longer post MMC (I had a D&C so don’t know whether this affected it) but only by a few days. Really frustrating though!

@Lottiepink I am 8DPO today; not looking for symptoms at all but I have to say at the gym yesterday my nipples were really hurting!! Could literally just be nothing though, who knows!

@Hopefulmum2be Welcome! FX for your tests if you’ve had a faint positive already, do you have a pic?

@Mirana Welcome! Wow that does sound really tough - when DH is home is he able to stay for a little while? Sounds like you have DTD at the right times this month though so FX!

@Dollywilde I use Clear Blue digital OPKs as I just find them so much clearer/easier to know where I am. Good luck!

starkid · 07/05/2019 08:48

@PinkFizz19 - sorry to hear about your mc xx

Hi newbies and welcome!

Lozzlepop · 07/05/2019 09:43

@MrsEG I know, we went to my OHs friends on Sunday and they told us they had a MC prior to having their son (and currently pregnant with #2) I am quite anxious about getting back on the 🐎 so to speak 😂

Bettythecat · 07/05/2019 11:36

@MrsEG I paid for it at a yoga studio that also does treatments- I'm sure there are some private ones near you maybe if you fancied giving it a try. I really enjoyed it even if it doesn't do much!!

Af arrived Thursday and lasted 3 days but I have had brown spotting since then. What do others get in terms of spotting after "proper" bleeding has finished? This is not very normal for me.

MotherOfShihTzus · 07/05/2019 12:33

Hello all. Hope everyone is well? Has there been any positive news?

I'm back on; 7dpo but we were rubbish at ddt this cycle :( upset me as it was my first in the soy isoflavones so I guess we won't know if they are any good!

MrsEG · 07/05/2019 14:41

@Bettythecat Oh fab thank you, I’ll have a proper search for it! Do they say when in your cycle it is best to have it done?
I never normally have spotting post AF but in my two cycles post-MMC I did, and apparently it’s common, it’s just your body re-regulating itself. Annoying though - last month I thought I was done, put on some really nice undies... ruined!

@MotherOfShihTzus I’m 8DPO today, we’re practically cycle twins :) Remember all it takes is one sperm to get through! FX for you!

@Lozzlepop I find myself getting really anxious about it too but a friend said to me you have to remember each pregnancy is different, it will be a completely different sperm and egg next time and there’s no reason to suggest it won’t all be fine :) I also try and stay really distracted at the moment so I don’t find myself sat thinking / worrying about it during my TWW!

starkid · 07/05/2019 15:30

Am also quite interested in acupuncture, although am scared of needles haha!

@MrsEG - that's a good thing to remember- different egg, different sperm each time, and only takes 1 to succeed.

I feel quite confident about this cycle with regards to catching ovulation - i had another positive opk yesterday, so am guessing today's the day for ovulating, and if we dtd again tomorrow, we'll have had 4 times in the fertile window - a first for us! Grin Of course, that means nothing if the route is blocked, but hey ho, the scan will confirm that so no use worrying.

Bettythecat · 07/05/2019 15:50

@MrsEG I don't think it matters when in your cycle you have it but they will ask you about your cycle and where you are in it etc (or mine did anyway but she was a specialist for fertility so you would expect that!) @starkid sounds very positive well done for hitting the right days! I'm also crap with needles but weirdly was ok with accupuncture as she was so lovely but I did feel a bit odd when she put one in my head!!

@MrsEG thanks for the info on spotting. It's annoying but actually I'm taking it as maybe being a good sign. After coming off the coil my periods were only 2 days long and pretty light and then the first one after the mmc was also really light so at least this one seems more like a "proper" period if that's even a thing!!

MrsEG · 07/05/2019 17:01

@starkid Ah Great news! I think it really helps mentally to get through the TWW when you know you’ve timed the BDing just right! Keeping FX for you.

@Bettythecat Totally agree - it’s nice just to know your periods are getting back to normal! It’s just nice thinking your body is ‘working’! I’m googling local acupuncture as we speak!

Is anyone planning to test this week at all? I’m 8DPO so slap bang in the middle but at least this time next week I’ll know one way or another!

Fivebyfive2 · 07/05/2019 17:56

@MrsEG, I'll be popping in here on the regular to see if it's your month!! Just read your post about your cycles getting slightly longer following your mc, as mine got slightly shorter... It is all so weird how it affects everyone different!

I got my booking apt today, for 3rd of June! I have tentatively decided Not to have an early scan. I kept mulling it over and my thoughts are: either it's good news, but there's still a month where is could easily go wrong, or it will be bad news, in which case I'll find out at the 12 week one anyway. Tbf, my hospital were really good when I went in with just the spotting they scanned me the next day, so if anything is amiss before 12 weeks, I'll just show up there again like I did last time!

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Marleym28 · 07/05/2019 18:07

@MrsEG I'm 12dpo with AF due Thursday.
BUT I keep getting twinges today and that 'any minute' feeling, yesterday I was a zombie too which usually is my pre period thing so I'm just going to wait for her to arrive. On the off chance she doesn't (fingers crossed) then I'll test.
I'm not being negative but I've had little symptoms this cycle and we didn't DTD much as DH was away a bit.

MrsEG · 07/05/2019 18:23

@Fivebyfive2 Ahh that’s so nice! At this stage I honestly can’t tell either way. DH has my FRERs though so I won’t be testing any earlier haha!
I think you’ve made a really good decision there; and as you say, should you have any issues before your scan the EPU will see you right away anyway. I know so many people who have real ‘scan anxiety’ so the idea of an earlier one never appealed at all - I think it’s such a personal decision to make! How are you feeling, has it all sunk in yet?

MrsEG · 07/05/2019 18:24

@Marleym28 It’s so difficult getting all the timings right with DTD some cycles. I’ll keep my FX for you this week anyway - you’re not out til AF shows x

orangeloo · 07/05/2019 18:25

Hi ladies and welcome all the newbies.

I'm CD AF starting to trail off. I have bought seven seas trying for a baby - prev just taken Folic acid and vit d but they were on offer and willing to try anything now. I'm cycle 5 (6 including a non OPK month). Trying to get OH to go docs this month to ask for Sperm analysis but easier said than done. My GP said it's worth going for him due to family history and childhood illness. Anyone else almost dread the fertile week coming? I get nervous at the pressure to DTD at the right time.

Hope you all had a good weekend and first day back not too bad.

Bettythecat · 07/05/2019 18:40

@Fivebyfive2 i think next time I'm pg I'll go for an early scan but will make sure they don't show me the screen- the yawning great black hole where a baby should have been is a sight I'll never forget! Have you had any symptoms yet? I know we were in a similar boat with them last time...

@orangeloo i know the feeling...I might have to go to New York with work Sunday until the following Saturday which will be CD 12-16 and DH is away this weekend on a stag so I am desperately hoping it gets cancelled. I should be wanting to go for my career but all I want to do is be at home so I don't miss my window!!

Fivebyfive2 · 07/05/2019 19:08

@MrsEG, @bettythecat, I've had some queasy feelings, but no sickness, although that come later! Had my first 'taste' of that metalic/blood type taste in the mouth earlier, yuck!! Other than that all is OK. I'm on the boots pregnancy plus vitamins with the omega 3 capsule and have got the hang of taking them now, thankfully! It's definitely more real now! But I'm doing much better this time of distracting myself, so it's not constantly on my mind! @bettythecat, for me the early scan option just doesn't feel like it will really help, but that's just me, like @MrsEG says, it's so personal. I've surprised myself with the decision to be honest! Xx

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Bettythecat · 07/05/2019 19:22

@Fivebyfive2 oh that's good- a reassuring level of symptoms but nothing too awful just yet! Totally agree on the scan front- I'll probably change my mind again when it happens for me- I think you've just got to go with what feels right for you at the time don't you 😊. I'm sure all will go perfectly with you this time round though 💜

orangeloo · 07/05/2019 21:50

@Bettythecat I had that in March we missed the whole fertile window due to working abroad at first I was very annoyed but then it was actually so nice to have a break from ttc but that depends how long you've been trying I guess. Just dtd whenever you can either side and what will be will be. I also don't OPK that month as I didn't want to add to disappointment if missing it.

Anyone heard any good things about reflexology for ttc?

Bettythecat · 07/05/2019 21:53

@orangeloo yes I'm trying to see it that way and just look forward to not having the dreaded TWW. I'm not pushing to go to NYC and so sort of leaving it to chance really! We might still hit ovulation day even if I go as I don't ovulate at the same time every month (obviously!) so let's see! 😊

dahlia123 · 07/05/2019 23:03

Hi @Lozzlepop - hoping there's a BFP not far off for you.

@PinkFizz19 - sorry to hear about your MC. Fingers crossed for you that your cycles settle quickly.

Hello @PippaPug @Hopefulmum2be @Mirana

Good luck to everyone, no matter which stick they are peeing on!

Re acupuncture - I'm having it and I do find it relaxing. It may also be due to being able to chat to someone impartial openly about fertility and fears -I feel i can be honest in a different way with the practitioner than with anyone in my life.

Having a timing issue around O too @Bettythecat

A question for all you ladies - I'm currently away from my partner until Sunday morning but due to ovulate in a couple of days (was hoping I'd be a bit delayed).
This morning (Tuesday) we DTD and I noticed EWCM in my pants this afternoon and evening (first time this cycle). I'd like to think we're still in with a chance this month but perhaps the action was too early, and we'll have missed the window by Sunday.
Anyone have any idea about how long it takes EWCM to get 'made' and then appear in pants?
(I'm adding that to a growing list of 'things I'd never have thought of before TTC')

Mirana · 08/05/2019 03:32

Thanks for the warm welcomes!

@MrsEG Kind of. We've been "long distance" since we met, although we've spent probably 75% of the time together. It's not the ideal time to try, "The Plan" was to start trying next summer, however our specialist really drummed in that time is of the essence and we can't really wait. Also my area would offer us IVF, his wouldn't, so we're trying to figure things out whilst in limbo. Super fun and definitely not stressful at all Grin Grin Grin The blessing of fairly regular cycles means that we can plan a month in advance when we'll see each other so fingers crossed. Unless I have a freak ovulation or just don't ovulate again, it's a fertility lottery right now lol.

Woken up and now can't get back to sleep. I'm only 3DPO now so in the utterly boring bit where nothing will start happening for another week. I hate this part of the 2WW??? I feel like at least when anticipating ovulation you're testing, charting, preparing. Around ovulation you get to dtd loads. 10DPO+ you get to start testing and symptom spotting. But what the hell are these 10 days between?? If life was a movie, these 10 days would be a quick 5 second scene transition with some kind of background jazz music.

LokiCat · 08/05/2019 07:03

Morning and welcome to the new ladies!

I haven't had a chance to catch up with the thread, sorry. Just wanted to ask whether you ladies think this is a positive OPK from this morning? Glow seems to say yes and I'll be ovulating tomorrow..
Last two days I've tested with fmu and it seems that's when I get my surge.. (the second photo is a comparison from yesterday morning and evening).

If so, I'll have to catch DH when I get back from work and before he leaves for his night shift.. so we'll have 30 minutes providing the trains behave 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

TTC First Baby - Thread 16!!
TTC First Baby - Thread 16!!
MrsEG · 08/05/2019 08:01

@Fivebyfive2 It could be the calm before the storm, I don’t think the sickness really kicks in until about 6-7 weeks! Really hope these next few weeks pass quickly for you to get you to the 12 week scan! Your booking in appt is on my birthday ha! It’s a very lucky day :)

@Bettythecat How annoying - I travel a lot with work and missed a full week / window in September last year. I was so irritated at the time but as you say it was actually nice to have a month off from it in the end! At least the pay off is a few days in NYC - would you get any downtime while there?

@dahlia123 I honestly don’t know - I don’t really get much EWCM (I’m heavily reliant on Preseed!!) but I think once you notice it, it’s time to get to it. FX for you and you’ve done all you can! Re: being open with your acupuncture lady - I feel the same with the counsellor I see, she had a MC too so it feels so nice to open up to her. I know that’s kinda her job... but it’s lovely! Such a weight off my shoulders afterwards.

@Mirana Ha! The movie montage thing is SO true!! I’m at 9DPO today so still far too early to test, yet still 5 solid days away from d-day. Time never moves quite so slow!!

@LokiCat I am absolutely hopeless with normal OPKs but I’d say that looks pretty positive! Could you try and leave work a bit early - book in a last min ‘doctors

Feeling a little disheartened this morning - my temps are heading in the wrong direction on my Ava at 9DPO. It’s not massive drops by any means but I think I’d be happier if they were heading the other way! Oh well, nothing I can do about it other than keep my 🤞🏻

MrsEG · 08/05/2019 08:02

@LokiCat That was supposed to say last min ‘doctors appointment’ - stupid fat thumbs!