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TTC First Baby - Thread 16!!

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Fivebyfive2 · 19/04/2019 08:39

Hi all, thought as it's Bank Holiday and thread 15 was 900 plus I'd start a new one, hope that's OK??

Copying tags from when @starkid updated them all the other day.

Hope this works as I've not created a thread before!!

@Jessikka - 28 Cycle 4
@starkid - 29 Cycle 8
@MrsAW2018 - 24 Cycle 10
@TTC34 - 34 Cycle 3
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@MrsH497 - 32 Cycle 5
@MrsR16 - 26 Cycle 9
@Lola871 - 31 Cycle 3
@ValidUser - 29 Cycle 1
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@Flapjackered - 31 Cycle 10
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@BabySquid - 29 Cycle 11
@Sleepyquest - 28 Cycle 2
@Granddesigns - 32 cycle 5
@Catlady31 - 31 cycle 1
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ValidUser · 01/05/2019 21:50

@Crossfitgirl any name ideas yet? Ovulating now. I have long term name plans. But still interested!

Bettythecat · 02/05/2019 06:40

Hi ladies, can I join you here again please? I was on this thread a few months ago for a while. My TTC journey so far is that I came off birth control last August and we started properly trying last October. I got pregnant in January of this year but sadly was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage when I was 8 weeks but the baby had stopped developing at 6. I had a D&C at around 10 weeks which was about two months ago now. We decided to try again straight away and I hoped it would happen quickly but I have woken up to a massive temperature drop today after a drop yesterday so I know af is coming Saturday as planned. I do all the TTC fun stuff- OPKs, pre-seed, vitamins and am also using OvuSense now as the oral thermometer stressed me out so made me not sleep!

My first question for the group is- for those who have paid for fertility tests to be done at home- where did you get them from and would you recommend them?

Lots of love to you all on this crappy journey!

Xxx

Marleym28 · 02/05/2019 06:47

Sorry to hear your journey @Bettythecat

Last night I had the weirdest dream. I got a BFP for myself haha
Woke up and was like what?! I think it must have been off the back of yesterday's thread. Lol

Hopefully it's a sign ;)

Is there anyone due to test soon?

McHelenz · 02/05/2019 06:54

I'm due to test Mon or Tues. I go from feeling hopeful to not good 😔.

MrsEG · 02/05/2019 07:06

@Bettythecat So sorry to hear this. I’d say we’re almost the same - I had my D&C at the very end of January this year, when I should have been 10 weeks. I’ve had two (very weird) AFs since, and it is only this cycle I’ve dared to try again - currently 2DPO, so anything could happen I guess. I’ll keep every thing crossed for you for your next cycle.

@McHelenz It will be Monday before you know it! Try to relax about the outcome - someone once told me that there’s absolutely nothing you can do to change it at this stage and worrying will do you absolutely no good. Try and have a nice fun weekend to make the time fly :)

FlapJackered · 02/05/2019 08:07

@Bettythecat so sorry again about your mc it is heartbreaking and it is so hard going back to ttc again. ❤️
I went to the doctors yesterday and apparently my mc puts me back to square one with regards to being eligible for a referral to a fertility specialist. I would now have to wait 2 years which seems very unfair. So I have booked an appointment privately with a fertility clinic and they will do all the tests again and I am hoping will let me try clomid.
I think there are certain tests you can get online (is that what you mean?), there is Thriva which might be worth a google? X

@Marleym28 Weird I had pregnancy dreams last night too! Must be 7dpo!

Bettythecat · 02/05/2019 08:17

@MrsEG I know what you know about weird af. My last one was super light and sort of mixed with what looked like fertile CM which is very odd. I also got pre af spotting which I never get. Sorry to hear about your D&C- the whole thing was just awful wasn't it.

@FlapJackered I had actually been wondering about that so thank you for the information. How brutal and also how stupid since having got pregnant once is not always a sign you can get pregnant again soon and so they shouldn't be taking that as a good sign! I've just ordered a female fertility test on Forth with Life which seems to measure a full range of things. You had to do it on CD 3 though which will be Monday for me so I'm really hoping it arrives soon. Do you know which clinic you will go through privately? I feel like choosing that is so confusing!

rose555 · 02/05/2019 08:20

Morning everyone. I’ve been quiet for a few weeks but just checked in to see so many BFPs!!! Amazing. Huge congratulations to you all. Let’s hope this is a lucky thread.

@bettythecat so sorry to hear about your MC. That must be so hard. Hopefully it won’t take long for you to fall pregnant again.

@flapjackered I can’t believe your doctor said that! I agree it seems totally unfair. Great you have booked to go privately. I would be interested to hear how those tests go as I am half thinking about having some done myself.

I’ve been using the Ava bracelet for the first time this cycle, and really enjoying having something to read each morning - although I’m not 100% sure I know what I’m looking for yet as I have never charted BBT before. I woke up this morning to a temperate dip 7DPO and felt so sad as I thought my temp was supposed to remain raised, but now I have been reading a 1 Day dip can happen at this time and not mean anything. Do other people experience that? Fingers crossed it goes back up tomorrow.

Also tried acupuncture for the first time ever on Monday and hoping it works some magic!!!! It was interesting to try it at least... I’ve always been a bit curious!

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FlapJackered · 02/05/2019 08:23

@Bettythecat I found a clinic on the HFEA website it shows all the fertility clinics and their reviews etc. Obviously a lot of it is to do with iVF but my doctor said that with a specialised clinic they will have more experience in fertility than a solo endocrinologist or gynaecologist.
Fingers crossed the test arrives in time! I would be interested to hear how it works! X

FlapJackered · 02/05/2019 08:26

@rose555 I will let you know, I think they are going to be horribly expensive though 😬
That's interesting about Ava I am so close to getting one! It doesn't look like a big enough drop to be af yet, keeping fingers crossed it's just an implantation dip!

McHelenz · 02/05/2019 08:39

I'm a bit emotional today. Don't know if I'm just a bit hormonal l 😔

MrsH497 · 02/05/2019 08:39

Oh @Bettythecat so sorry to hear that always welcome here. Be kind to yourself. Xx

Fivebyfive2 · 02/05/2019 08:40

@bettythecat, hi sweet! It's good to hear from you, I always still thought about you and hoped you were OK, we were on the same track all the way through pretty much. Wishing you all the luck in the world that you get your bfp soon xxx

@flapjackered, that is so unfair about being back to square one, I don't blame you for going privately.

Right, dh is on at me to get cracking, we leave soon! Will check back in when we're back on Sat. Hopefully they'll be some more bfps 😀🤞

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MrsEG · 02/05/2019 08:44

@rose555 I’ve been using Ava for the first time this month too! I am only 3DPO today but my chart seems as I’d hope at the mo, with the drops for ovulation and now climbing back up. I have heard you can get an ‘implantation dip’ in temp, so as you say it doesn’t necessarily mean bad news!

@Bettythecat It’s horrible, the most awful thing I’ve ever experienced, I have actually been in counselling since which has really helped. Hope you are feeling better soon x

@flapjackered How awful they put you back to square one - I was told similar that as I had 2MCs they won’t do fertility tests on the NHS. It’s bloody ridiculous. If we get to June we’re going to go private too.

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Bettythecat · 02/05/2019 09:18

@MrsEG yes it really was the worst thing. A couple of days after the news I just couldn't get out of bed I was so upset and the D&C itself was also completely traumatic. I was seeing a therapist for general anxiety before but when I told her about my anxiety over TTC she basically said I just needed to chill out and relax and it would happen which as you know is not a helpful thing to say to someone TTC so I have kind of given up on her!

@Fivebyfive2 hello lovely one I wondered if it was you but with a slightly different name?? I was secretly hoping your BFP might be a good omen for me too since we tracked each other last time but sadly not. Huge congratulations to you I hope it all goes perfectly for you this time. How have your symptoms been?

@FlapJackered that sounds useful and agree you need someone who is a bit of an all rounder. I've had a look at Zita West before who kind of takes a holistic approach with diet, accupuncture, therapy etc which sounds intriguing. Have you had any tests already? Sorry I'm sure you've said this lots before.

@rose555 thanks lovely 💜. How did you find your acupuncturist if you don't mind me asking? Can you tell I'm willing to throw a load of money at the issue at this point 😂. I told DH I was thinking of trying it last night and he looked at me like I'd gone mad. I know a lot of people who have used it for TTC and other things and loved it so worth a try I reckon.

rose555 · 02/05/2019 09:31

@bettythecat I’m the same... I’ve thrown so much more money at it this month and my DH looks at me funny 😂 this month I have upped the ante and bought Ava, Pre-Seed, Acupuncture, Massage and Wild Nutrition Food Grown Fertility supplements. A fortune all in all!!!!! But worth it if it works. The acupuncture was interesting. She put needles in lots of different places - hands, arms, feet, legs, forehead and three across my uterus area with a warm lamp on it. She asked me lots about diet, cycles etc too and suggested I might want to have some tests done due to my periods having become much more painful over past 5 or 6 months. The process itself was odd. Some needles and some areas of my body didn’t hurt at all, or feel anything. Others (my left arm in particulate) felt really pulled / tight and mildly painful while the needles were in. She left me for 20 mins or so to relax once the needles were all in. I felt like I could feel something in the right side of my pelvis but honestly I couldn’t tell if that was placebo / or just because I was given the time and peace and quiet to listen so hard to my body that I was hearing things that happen all the time and that I normally just ignore. I did feel very relaxed by the end of it and kind of floated home 😂 my next session is the Monday after next, and she said I should come weekly for a couple of cycles at first. So all in all, I think it’s probably too early to tell anything right now, but the more I read about it the more acupuncture seems to be recommended by so many sources... so I’m going to stick with it for a while.

FlapJackered · 02/05/2019 09:35

@Bettythecat I can't believe your therapist said that! I went to one counselling session after my mc and while it was helpful in some ways, but she told me did I know that stress can affect fertility and I went onto argue with her that there are no significant studies which show stress affects it at all 😂 She also said I only mc'd at 8 weeks and some people mc at 20+ and that putting into perspective would help 🤦🏼‍♀️
My sister has had some treatments at Zita west apparently they are amazing, just a bit pricier than others apparently.
I have had day 3 and day 21 tests and DH has had a SA too. Nothing major showed up but I ovulate quite late in my cycle so I think there may be an issue there. Hopefully they will find it at the private clinic.

@MrsEG it it so unfair isn't it, it just feels like a kick while you're already on the floor. 😢
I burst into tears at the doctor so she threw some routine bloods at me to stop me crying! 😂 so I have another thyroid etc test next week, which is something I suppose as I feel my hypothyroid symptoms creeping back. What cd are you on now?

Bettythecat · 02/05/2019 10:00

@FlapJackered I've actually just got off the phone to my mum and she said exactly the same thing about trying not to stress! I told her very politely that actually it's an old wives tale and there have been zero studies linking the two things 🤦‍♀️. I ovulated quite late this month too (CD 23)...I didn't realise that was an issue. What's the story there? 👀 Pre-MC I have tended to ovulate more like CD 13-20 though but had sort of thought later was better since the egg has more time to mature?! That's probably rubbish though.

Bettythecat · 02/05/2019 10:02

@FlapJackered p.s. that counsellor sounds hopeless- comparing different levels of mc is seriously not helpful 🙄. It's mad all the things people say when you are TTC with no awareness of how it feels. It's like the classic "when are you thinking of trying" when you're like "well actually we have been desperately trying for months and I've just had a miscarriage" and actually you say "oh I don't know, sometime 😬".

MrsEG · 02/05/2019 10:17

@Bettythecat @FlapJackered what dreadful therapists!! I think I must have gotten lucky with mine as she just lets me sit and ramble - she also told me she had a MC herself a few years ago and I think this helps enormously as she knows how it feels. I also hate when people ask if you’re trying - especially given that we have actually been quite open about our MCs. So people who know what we’ve been through still think it’s okay to say ‘So are you trying again?’ Like It’s not a sprained ankle!! @FlapJackered I’m 3DPO today, usually have a 28 day cycle so just playing the waiting game! Won’t be getting my hopes up, just trying to while the time away and see what happens.

@rose555 The acupuncture sounds great - I tried to book some but the waiting lists near me for a fertility specialty were crazy! If this cycle is unsuccessful though I’ll be looking in to it again. I have tried the pineapple core and Brazil nut theory this month though!! Like you say - i’ll Try anything at this stage!!

rose555 · 02/05/2019 10:29

@MrsEG me too! Forgot to mention that one - I’ve been on the pineapple core and Brazil nuts too.... fingers crossed for us!

Pinksunset1 · 02/05/2019 10:39

@sophwolf @mrsH497 @fivebyfive2 @mrspandigital huge congrats to you all I’m so happy for you what a day!x

@dahlia123 @cupcakesandglitter thank you both I’m nervous for lap but need answers. Hope you both doing ok x

@hannah192 thank you I’m so glad to have someone in similar situation will be good to chat through our journey good luck x

@keyboard91 sorry you got a bfn x

starkid · 02/05/2019 11:58

@Bettythecat - Glad to see you back, but not in the circumstances of course. What cycle would you like me to put you down as on the list?

@FlapJackered - good idea going private if it really is a 2 year wait! Good luck xx

Tropicana1 · 02/05/2019 13:25

@FlapJackered that's such a bullshit response from your doctor!! Seems so unnecessarily harsh to make you wait 2 years from your MC and ignore all the time and heartache it took to get to that pregnancy!

Crossfitgirl · 02/05/2019 13:34

@fivebyfive2 I'm doing good thanks, feel like I'm having far less pregnancy related problems that lots of others so I'm v grateful. Had a scare the other night with no movements for half a day, had to go to maternity Assessment at 10pm on my own as DH is away! Luckily all was fine, and they said naughty little madam was laid completely sideways, hip to hip, prob why I couldnt feel her legs kicking!

@validuser it's a secret but mumsnet doesn't count. We love Olivia, so top names is Olivia Anne (Anne is both our mums middle names), but got an agreement with DH that if baby comes on his late father's birthday her middle name will be Ronnie after him, so it would be Jessica Ronnie. (but I prefer Olivia but it doesn't go as well with Ronnie!) I'm gonna try shortlist a few more, and a boys one just in case!!

@flapjackered @bettythecat those therapists sound positively terrible!!! Imagine comparing to people worse off. Who gives a fuck. Your problems are your own and it makes it no less painful hearing that some other poor sod is worse off.
@flapjackered sorry the doc said its back to square one, that must have been hard to hear. Think positive though, if a BFP means no fertility clinic then I'm sure it must be a positive sign that successful pregnancy is possible for you naturally, maybe it was just very bad luck that it took a while and this time wasnt meant to be. Good on you for booking privately though, it must feel great to have some control back and have some experts look into everything for you, hopefully they can give you the absolute best chance possible and give you the best advice, even if it's to support the pregnancy once you've got there yourself! I think I'd be doing the same in your situation.
@rose555 I loved complimentary therapies when ttc, it was so nice to just have some you time. I had fertility reflexology and it was lovely and relaxing. Xxx

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