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Missing ttc a month to avoid a Christmas due date?

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HazyDays81 · 15/03/2017 12:09

Just wondered if anyone is missing ttc for a month to avoid a Christmas due date? My DH isn't keen on a Christmas baby & truthfully I would prefer to avoid that time (potential due date would be 17 December) & I was one week late with both my DS so it could be right on top of Christmas. So we've agreed to miss a month but it feels a long time to wait! I have been ttc for 6 months (age 35). Had 2 chemicals in that time. I know there is never a perfect time but can't help thinking I might be missing the month it could happen!

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Littlemisssugarplum88 · 15/03/2017 12:15

I used to think exactly the same as you but after ttc for 18 months and having a miscarriage I really couldn't care less when my EDD would be; the most important thing to me is having a family, not their birthday.
Each to their own though. Good luck whatever you decide xx

HbH04 · 15/03/2017 12:23

If i could have a baby in any month it wouldn't be December but im far too impatient to skip a month TTC! I'm only on cycle one but at only 20/25% chance on conceiving every month they all seem precious!

Good luck to allSmile

peaceloveandbiscuits · 15/03/2017 12:30

Hahaha yeah. I was born at Christmas and always said I wouldn't do it to my child. TTC for 9 long months and more or less gave up when I was suddenly pregnant. EDD? 25th December.

catlover1987 · 15/03/2017 12:34

I have a similar dilemma. The industry I work in means I work crazy hours in January and not allowed to take holidays then so would never be around for a child's birthday (and would be starting mat leave at a crap time.) Wondering whether to take a couple of months off but really don't want to...

HeadDreamer · 15/03/2017 12:36

After many months of TTC, I couldn't have cared less when the baby was born either.

AyeAmarok · 15/03/2017 12:38

No point planning based on due date. If you do that trying to dodge Christmas, Sod's Law says that the baby will be early/late and born close to Christmas anyway.

Chinnygirl · 15/03/2017 12:41

After more than three years of fertility treatments I wouldn't care if the baby was born on christmas, the popes birthday and the kings inaugeration combined. But if it is very important to you then you don't need my blessing to skip a month. I'm just a stranger on the internet.

DoubleR · 15/03/2017 12:44

If you're that worried about it OP then you'd better miss two months in case baby comes early. DS has an early January birthday despite a February due date. January birthdays are less desirable than December ones IMO as no one is interested after the Christmas/New Year fuss is over. But I was just happy to have healthy babies after problems TTC.

OrlandoTheCat · 15/03/2017 12:49

noooo, don't miss a month!

DS's birthday is around Christmas. It hadn't even entered my head when the baby might be born if we conceived at a particular time. In retrospect, would I have done things differently? no. absolutely not.

I really, really wanted a baby and when he/she arrived was so far down the list of considerations after the question of whether he/she would arrive!

this could be the month it happens and just imagine your delight when it does!

Nightneverchanges · 15/03/2017 12:49

I did it to avoid an august birthday for school purposes.

Fell pregnant anyway, whoops.

Flashinthepan · 15/03/2017 12:53

There is very little about this process you can control. I lost a baby which should have been born mid December and I can truly say that now I'm ttc again I would not miss any month for any reason. It's up to you of course what you prefer to do, but this will be the first in a long line of things about ttc, pregnancy, birth and parenthood that you have no control over. Good luck whatever you decide.

Sazwest · 15/03/2017 12:54

When I was trying for my 3rd child I was trying for 3 month and said to my hubby I didn't want to fall pregnant and be due Xmas low and behold I fell pregnant and she was due Xmas eve lol. But I had to be induced 3 weeks early. Xx

GreedyDuck · 15/03/2017 13:10

I have a December baby, it's not ideal, but it's really not the worst thing in the world. I'd be more likely to try and avoid August so that they aren't the very youngest in their class (if you're in England that is), but ultimately it doesn't really matter at all.

user1471496670 · 15/03/2017 13:11

There is no way on earth I would miss a month...we want a baby more than anything and after 5 failed cycles now I couldn't care a less when baby was due if I got to actually have one!

Flashinthepan · 15/03/2017 13:13

Apologies. Didn't see that you already have children.

HeyJupiter · 15/03/2017 13:13

DH and I were discussing this a few weeks ago and he was keen to skip a month to avoid a due date of around last week of December. I ended up getting my BFP yesterday so (fingers crossed) won't have to make that decision but to be honest would have hated the idea of delaying it... the stats are against us so think we would have just pushed on. Good luck!

Chattycat78 · 15/03/2017 13:15

Sorry yeah but this really is out of your control- Mother Nature decides. I wouldn't miss a month if it was me. It can take a long time to get pregnant sometimes and you just don't know.

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HazyDays81 · 15/03/2017 14:56

Thank you so much for all your replies it really helps to see different opinions. Deep down I really want this baby & don't want to miss a month ttc. After 2 chemicals I was so disappointed over what could have been. I was lucky to fall pregnant after 3 months with my 1st DS & in the first month of trying with my 2nd DS so naively thought I'd be lucky again (though appreciate I've only been trying 6 months which is nothing compared to some). Think I'll speak to DH & suggest we just go for it, if it's meant to be it will be. Otherwise another 6 months down the line I'll always be wondering what could have been.

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 15/03/2017 15:00

I wouldn't miss a month for Christmas, but I would have missed a few months to avoid my child being young in the year. Actually my DS is a May baby and is the second youngest in his class of 26 so I think a few other people had the same idea.

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HazyDays81 · 15/03/2017 15:13

Congrats HeyJupiter on getting your BFP yesterday!
I hadn't even thought about avoiding summer months so it wasn't the youngest in the class. I have an August birthday & have always loved a summer birthday, with memories of parties in the garden when I was younger.
Perhaps I'll let Mother Nature decide on this one. If I skip a month then like DoubleR said a baby due in Jan could be early & arrive at Christmas. The list then goes on as DH's birthday is in Jan & DS1's birthday in Feb...if I avoid those too thats 3 months gone by! I'm not patient enough for that.

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GreedyDuck · 15/03/2017 16:04

Personally I think a January birthday is worse (as an adult) everyone on post Christmas detoxes and skint! At least in December everyone is feeling a bit festive.

Emma2803 · 15/03/2017 16:33

I'm actively trying for a December baby, my next ovulation is due around 8th April which would make Edd 30th December! It will be our first month of trying having stopped pill in Feb so I would be delighted to get pregnant!! Both me and hubby have birthdays two weeks either side of Christmas and to be honest it has never cost us a second thought.

Bumpy4me · 15/03/2017 17:00

I'm a Christmas baby. 20th December and I know how hard it came be to have a birthday so close to Christmas but we're still going to ttc as if it is a Christmas baby for one the surname is very fitting and I'd make sure they had a good birthday each year x

chugchugchugchuggington · 15/03/2017 19:18

My son was due in January but arrived early on Xmas day! Great present and after years TTC I didn't mind, plus I love Christmas and it makes it even more special.
I have friends who's birthdays are in January and they hate it, and would prefer a December as at least people are excited and want to celebrate.
I know my DS my hate it when his older but we will always try to make it even more special

Leeannb · 15/03/2017 19:23

I'm a December baby, the 11th to be precise. It's only annoying as an adult. Kids think 2 sets of gifts at Christmas time is great! As an adult though it's not ideal. You can't have a birthday night out with friends/colleagues because they're all too skint/have plans already for the weekends in the lead upto Christmas. I haven't had a night out since my 21st and that was just a farce! I worked in a huge department store and invited all my colleagues. The excuse was that they're too skint, but they neglected to tell me that the works night out was that night and I saw them all out! Angry Was glad when I left.

dont put off ttc just for the sake of birthdays though. My sons is overlooked by my family. He was the 22nd February birthday in my family. I was due the 28th which is my mums birthday but he came 5 days early so doesn't share. My little girl is due in June, just before her uncle and grandads.

Good lucky whatever you decide ☺️