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Missing ttc a month to avoid a Christmas due date?

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HazyDays81 · 15/03/2017 12:09

Just wondered if anyone is missing ttc for a month to avoid a Christmas due date? My DH isn't keen on a Christmas baby & truthfully I would prefer to avoid that time (potential due date would be 17 December) & I was one week late with both my DS so it could be right on top of Christmas. So we've agreed to miss a month but it feels a long time to wait! I have been ttc for 6 months (age 35). Had 2 chemicals in that time. I know there is never a perfect time but can't help thinking I might be missing the month it could happen!

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Unmarriedhousewife · 15/03/2017 19:36

Xmas day baby here, was going to avoid ttc March time but like a pp after months I thought it wouldn't happen and yup Edd 1st Jan - he was 2 weeks early

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 15/03/2017 21:00

Nice time to be starting Mat leave though. 😉

FurryFox · 15/03/2017 21:04

My dd2 is the 23rd December and it really isn't an issue, in actual fact I almost make more of a big deal of it because it's so close to Christmas, she's 9 now and isn't really bothered by it.

Dd1 is an August baby and to be honest that's never been an issue either, now at secondary school she loves being one of the youngest and it certainly hasn't affected her academically.

Good luck either way.

Funnyfarmer · 15/03/2017 21:42

I've got 2 christmas dd's one was born 22nd Dec and the other 27th. And my dp's is on the 17th. Never planned it that way it just happened I also work in retail so getting time off for there birthdays is a real ball ache. But we manage they have a great birthday every year but it isn't without problems trying to book venues for partys and meals. Especially now dd1 is a little older trying to get a table for a family birthday meal is not very easy and if we do manage to get a table somewhere deesant it's full of roudy Xmas partys. If they have class partys not alot of people turn up because there away and doing things with there families. There's 10 years between them as well so not as of I can do then joint party's. Also there that close to christmas and each others birthdays it's not like we can do something ie the weekend before /after their actual birthdays. Plus everyone is skint. I do insist that they get separate presents for Christmas and birthdays and not one for both but sometimes I do feel that people just don't spend as much on presents that they would if their birthdays was in a different month. I know that sounds graby but that's just how it seems, although I never say anything and we're all always greatfull. So yes it's stressful but I don't really know any other way and it definitely not a massive problem. I do know alot of people who have christmas birthdays who celebrate late November and that seems to work well.
If it was me though I couldn't help thinking that the month I skipped would be THE month

Addtothechaos · 16/03/2017 07:20

Hi op I've already got 2 dc , one a spring baby and one summer and was aiming for a Autumn baby next (like you can really 'aim' for anything in monther natures control ha ha!)
Anyways we started ttc in Jan and first month I had a chem pg and second month it didn't happen so I'm sat here now wondering the same thing! If we went for it this time the edd would be 22nd Dec!

The general consensus on this thread seems to be go for it but I'm still thinking should we wait a few weeks or not...!? My dh has his bday yesterday and said it would suck if baby bday was Xmas day! Have you decided yet?! It's hard isn't it! X

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HazyDays81 · 16/03/2017 08:44

Hi Addtothechaos,
I've been thinking about this a lot! Part of me thinks just go for it & see what happens but tricky as DH really doesn't want a Christmas baby. In fact when I got home from work yesterday (he'd been looking after our boys & he'd had a bad day) he said he doesn't think we'd manage with a third! Though I know he does as we've both always wanted 3. I think if he's so against a Christmas due date then I'll have no choice but to wait a bit. Like you, when we started trying in Sept I thought how perfect a summer baby would be but then had 2 chemicals. So that plan went out the window. Let me know what you decide to do.

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ferriswheel · 16/03/2017 08:52

I have three children. Two have the same birthday, exactly a year apart. Honestly, it is obviously your choice, but if for whatever reason you don't ever have a baby, I'd suggest you regret missing the opportunity to try. And, if you have been ttc for six months already then the chances are it might not happen anyway. Good luck.

CuppaSarah · 16/03/2017 11:17

I have a Christmas eve baby and it is genuinely magical and amazing, even our extended family love coming together on Christmas eve to celebrate it.

And the Christmas Dinner in hospital was AMAZING

Addtothechaos · 16/03/2017 19:30

Hi hazy sorry I've not responded quicker! Been a busy day in work! I think it's hard when you already have children because you see Xmas being about the ones you already have. I hate the thought of me having to go into hospital just before Xmas and missing my two opeing presents etc on Xmas morn! But then I know its for something magical and everyone will be happy still as its obv not a sad situation to be in. If i could guarantee that (my imaginary baby!) was born a weeks before or a few days after Xmas day then I'd probably go for it tbh! It's just the thought of a Xmas day baby that makes me feel like we should wait!! How old are your dc if you don't mind me asking ? Mine are still little in pre school and infants X

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HazyDays81 · 16/03/2017 20:06

Good to hear from you Addtothechaos. I have 2 DS age 6 & 3.5 so feel like we're coming out of the early years & they're growing up fast. Would love to give them another sibling & be a family if 5 :) Yes I agree you don't want to miss out on Christmas with the DC you already have, it's such a magical time. I keep thinking what a wonderful Christmas present a baby would be but like you would prefer it not to actually be on Christmas Day. I keep going round in circles with this!

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Addtothechaos · 16/03/2017 20:31

It's putting all of your plans and dreams on hold for the sake of avoiding one day out of the whole year! I think we will probably end up waiting a month tbh unless we get carried away with a spontaneous 'sod it' moment! unlikely though. Yor dc are pretty much the same age as mine. I have a 6yo dd and 4yo ds and like you feel we are coming out of the baby/toddler stage. I want to do it all just one more time and have that little 'gang' of children! X

Good luck whatever you decide op. If we end up with Xmas babies then we will be grinning from ear to ear I'm sure X

bakingmad83 · 17/03/2017 07:13

DS was born on NYE a few days after due date. While I would prefer DC#2 to have a birthday outside xmas/new year, it's taking longer this time to conceive so not missing out on a month. Fingers crossed you get your bfp soon :)

TurquoiseDress · 17/03/2017 08:36

It has never crossed my mind to avoid certain months for the EDD

My pregnancy last year was due mid December- it never occurred to me that the date wasn't a great one.

Anyhow, that all ended in MMC so we've been TTC since July with no luck. I would take any day of the year as a due date!!

It is such a personal thing though, do what's best for you. Bear in mind though that babies can come v early too so the best laid plans etc can be scuppered!

NotQuiteJustYet · 17/03/2017 10:31

I think the only month I would be keen to avoid would be an August birthday. I remember kids struggling being in classes with other kids virtually a full year older than them, having said that I'm an April baby so I wasn't that far off being the youngest in my class.

Going off my ovulation prediction for this month, if we're successful then my EDD would be 25th of December!

finova · 17/03/2017 10:34

Sept to Dec benefit from 5 terms in nursery.
(Have a Dec baby)

Laurabeee · 21/01/2026 00:50

I just wondered what happened next. Did you skip March? Or did you end up having a Christmas baby after all? Having a similar dilemma as worried that my older two children will miss out if I have a newborn at that time.

Lgn90 · 22/01/2026 09:14

We put off trying for our second to start in May last year rather than end of March/beginning of April because of a possible Christmas due date and I really regret it now as 9 months later I am not pregnant - had a 10 week miscarriage just before Christmas. I will not be skipping that time this year!

Laurabeee · 22/01/2026 11:34

I am really sorry to hear that. Fertility is so unpredictable. I hope it happens for you very soon. you must be totally fed up.

I had 3 miscarriages within 6 months and then had my first child. With my second child it happened really quickly. I should really wait a year until after my section to go for a third but age wise time is running out for me.

Jennifer89 · 23/01/2026 13:50

I find Christmas stressful at best of times but still wouldn't skip a month personally. A baby due close to Christmas also sounds quite magical. Pros and cons to different birth months.

TurquoiseDress · 23/01/2026 19:31

I think it’s just better to crack on with trying to conceive and not worry too much about potential due dates/clashing with Christmas etc

You never know how long it may take!

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