The waiting game!!!

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TWW officially begins!!!!!

AF due 13th May and have no idea of how I'm going to wait that long!

This is our first cycle TTC baby #1 and since we have decided to try I have been very anxious. I just want this to happen, my close family have all had fertility issues and I've convinced myself I will too.

Just thought I'd start thus for support for all wanting some words if encouragement.

Hi everyone,

elle good to hear from you. Do keep us posted on your results - fingers crossed. And you never know this cycle, once is all it takes after all!

Massive TMI ahead!!

I had a very strange cycle and now AF. I experienced a bit of brown discharge when I wiped and a couple of days a tiny bit in pants from about 8-12dpo. I was due AF on Saturday and woke up with minor AF pains and a bit more brown and a bit of red. I was sure this was AF so wore a pad to keep an eye on things and basically just had a bit of brown for rest of Saturday and then on Sunday I had a tiny bit of spotting in panty liner. By Monday I had nothing at all. This is really quite strange for me. I've never really had heavy periods but they'd always lasted 5ish days. Since ive been off the pill they've been 4 days with maybe an extra day of pantyliner at the end. I managed to convince myself that I could still be pregnant so did a test yesterday but BFN.

So just going to put it down as an odd cycle unless anyone has any words of wisdom? This month I'm trying all sorts of random stuff ive read about! Going to get some preseed and drink grapefruit juice for better EWCM. And going to try the SMEP - basically DTD every other day for most of the cycle. Also going on hols in a couple of weeks so really hoping that will help us both to properly relax.

Fingers crossed for us all xx

Elle good luck with your results on Thursday. Gosh you bled for many days! That must be rather horrible and annoying especially with the heat last week. Not quite sure what that could be due to. Hopefully your results on Thursday could give you some answers or at least in terms of what it isnt due to.

soda that does sound a bit strange but think I might have cycles like that b4 I started TTC and just not paid much attention to it. Am afraid I don't have any words of wisdom here.
I'm also planning on trying the SMEP plan. Have sent the link to dp and he said OK. So we'll see. soda it feels like you are living an almost parallel life to me. Really looking forward to our holiday!

clinic appt at 10 tmw morning. Unfortunately DP will have to leave by the latest 10:40. Hope we'll get seen on time.

Thanks gakay. We are synched aren't we?! Let's hope we can be BFP pals too!! Good luck at your clinic appointment, let us know how it goes xx

Elle have you got your results yet?

On my way to work after my appt. I was rather nervous especially after a really horrible meeting at work first thing in the morning before I went there. Then DP was running late - had to try so hard not to snap at him. Then as the clinic was delayed in starting DP had to leave b4 I was seen to go to a meeting

Anyway, the Dr was really nice. She gave me advice thats opposite to what my GP told me. Basically all my concerns were validated including the need for me being on high dose folic acid due to my previous medication hx and also because I suffer from arthritis it puts me at risk of having other autoimmune disease which could have contributed to my prev MCs x2. She was surprised my GP didn't even test for them. Will need to have other scans too but she doesn't think there would be anything structurally wrong. Anyway, if all tests are normal she said she would be happy to apply for ivf funding at our next appt in mid sept! DP will need to quit smoking first though...

Hi girls

I am soooo bored with work - I feel that once you have handed your notice in your should be able to leave then, its pointless cos you never really do anything in the notice period anyway! I don't know what I will do once the hen weekend is done this weekend as I have been filling my time with that...

elle oh my goodness that is a lot of bleeding, no wonder you didn't feel up for DTD this month, I don't think I would either. Bless you. I hope the test results show something when you get them tomorrow.

soda that is very strange too, it is strange how we all seem to be going through similar things with the ttc and our bodies. definitely keep records of it all and can then see if it becomes more of a pattern, but hopefully it is just an "odd" month. Hopefully the holiday will let you relax like you say and give you a break from everything in life, so you can enjoy your time off and being together.

gakay well it sounds like the appt went well - given the circumstances around meetings/DP having to leave, and good that you have some info that will help. Sounds like they will take things positively and good that they will help you in september for the IVF route. Hopefully DP will use it as a reason to stop smoking, even if its only a "short term" stopping,

Not much to report on for me.... I am taking some tablet to delay my AF this month, as I was due on Friday, and well didn't fancy it in the heat in Barcelona. So FX it will all go according to plan on that one.

Things are so hectic at the moment, and I've had such a bad cold past week, I am shattered, but need to suck it up and get on with the hen weekend this weekend! Might wfh some days next week to help me get things sorted out/relax.

Sending you all hugs

Hi everyone!

Very new to Mumsnet and trying to conceive so stay with me - not sure I know all the acronyms yet?! I got married in June and came over the pill immediately - I think I ovulated for the first time last weekend (the ovulation test key came back positive, very hot and very low energy). I've read lots of conflicting articles online and feel totally lost as to what my husband and I should be doing and when?! I really don't want it to be a long drawn out process but know I have to be patient and try and get a handle on timings over the month! Any tips, advice would be really appreciated :-) Thank you xx

Haha!! Clearly didn't "come over the pill" but "came off it" oops!! X

Hi claire - welcome. Hopefully you'll find some support and words of wisdom here! And congratulations on the wedding!

We're all at different stages of our trying to conceive (TTC - you'll learn!) journey. I'm on month 4 now. I think it can take different times for people's cycles to go back to normal after coming off pill. I'd been on for over 10 years but my cycle went back to normal first month. Hasn't made any difference in me getting pregnant straight away though!

If we all had the magic advice to get pregnant and hurry the process along then we probably wouldn't be on this forum

If you are using ovulation sticks and having sex around that time then you're doing what you can really. A lot of us use Ovia which is an app - you input any symptoms and it helps predict when you might be fertile. That can help too although it does get a little all-consuming. And try not to go too mad and don't lose heart if it doesn't happen straight away! Although that one is probably easier said than done! And good luck! Hope that helps xx

gakay glad your appointment went as well as it could and that they'll support you in IVF. That must be a relief if it comes to it. Hopefully you won't need it. I've decided, synched as we are (!) that we're both going to get our BFPs after our holidays later this month. So that's that!

bourbon great to hear from you. Enjoy the hen weekend!

Hope everyone else has fun things planned. I'm going wedding dress shopping with my mum - can't wait!

So results in PCOS diagnosed. Not ovulating. Told to lose weight already on that when we decided ttc. GP said 6 months if not pregnant with me trying to lose weight she will refer me to gyno for treatment to make me ovulate. Gutted just doesn't cover it. Why did there need to be a problem??? Sorry for the selfish post just can't think about anything else right now

Ah elle I'm so so sorry. I don't know what to say really. I hope you're as ok as you can be and your DH is being supportive. Remember there's loads that can be done though so please try not to lose hope xx

Elle I'm sorry about the diagnosis. That's really difficult news to take in. You are not selfish at all. Here is where you can vent freely. I don't want to trivialise it but want to remind you it is a common disorder with effective treatment and I've read many success stories here with women conceiving successfully and very quickly with treatment as well as success stories without treatment! I know it is extremely frustrating to have this complicating the picture but it's not without hope. I really don't know what to say but hope to let you know we are here to support you x

bourbon enjoy your weekend in Barcelona! I love Barcelona - it's such a beautiful city. Hmmm, what to do to fill your time when you get back... are you having a leaving do? Do you need to do handover notes? I'm so good at procrastinating when I have work to do but don't know how to fill time when there's nothing pressing…

Hello Claire I agree with what soda has said. I'm sure you already doling all the important things like folic acid and cutting down alcohol etc. And havimg regular intercourse. Think the most consistent advice I've received is DTD every 2 to 3 days but I always worry about missing the most important day. I'm going to try thr SMEP plan this cycle which requires more frequent DTD. I think in the first few cycles it may be better to do what feels right for you both and not go OTT cos you never know how long it may take so obsessing too early may not be helpful.

soda I hope you are right. 1 more week of work before holiday. Can't wait! But it also means having to clear a few things before I go on leave which is going to make next week stressful...

Thanks so much everyone! Just come back from a meal and found out my best friend is pregnant!! So happy for Her but slightly sad :-( Daunting x

Thankyou Gakay - the cutting down on alcohol is something I probsbly need to take a bit more seriously and every 2 or 3 days is really good advice. Then I supoose you don't have that weird OTT over "the" week! X

Morning all, thank you for your kind words of support. I have spent the weekend just trying to take it all in. I have been researching PCOS and it seems there are many things that can be done. I had no idea that it was as common as it is. So this is the first day of the rest of my life. I was already trying to lose weight and had started running, so have stepped that up a gear now. The GP said losing 10% of my body weight is the target to aim for and this should hopefully make me spontaneously start ovulating again. So that is just over a stone to lose but I aiming to lose 2 stone anyway. If that does not work then the GP will refer me for treatment and that seems to have a high success rate....so all is not lost, even if it feels like it in my head at the minute. DH has been great and is really supporting me, he is going to lose weight as well with me!

I hope you all had a good weekend xx

claire welcome, all the advice you have received on here is spot on. I have found this a great place to vent and ask questions and everyone is very supportive (something I have found invaluable!)

All the best to you all....lets have a BFP soon to cheer us all up! xx

Happy Monday everyone!

Just got my peak on opk this morning! My cycle is getting shorter - only CD9 today. Am glad in a way as am doing a 24h shift this wednesday (when I thought I would be ov) and was worried we won't catch the egg...

Claire I know the mixed feeling. Am glad you could feel happy for your friend.

Am going to meet my friend who's back in town for holiday tmw evening. Am slightly dreading it. She's the one who was actually happy about my MCs last year. Hope she won't goes on and on complaining how all her fds except me are either pg or have DC. I might actually walk out if she does.

Hope everyone's had a lovely weekend.
I did a bit on wedding venue research. Looks like most places are available on our date now just need dp to propose...

Happy Monday! I got my wedding dress at the weekend! So excited! Was really worried I wouldn't have much choice Bd wouldn't find anything I loved with the day being so soon but it's perfect! Big weight off my shoulders. It's lace, fitted with a slight fishtail shape and got a lovely neckline. Hooray! gakay - hope DP proposes to you soon!

elle - really glad to hear you're feeling more upbeat about everything. As you say, there is lots that can be done and it seems to be pretty common. When I was trying to lose weight a year ago I found the 5.2 diet great as it meant I wasn't on a diet the whole time! Good luck!

gakay what are you doing, you're getting us out of synch??!! Ha! I'm also on cd9 but haven't even started using OPKs this month yet - I tend to get my positive about cd16. Ovia is only predicting my fertile time to start this weekend. Hopefully I'll be peaking when I'm on hols which will be handy! Hope it's not too difficult seeing your friend tonight.

claire I've found it hard to cut down on alcohol - I really don't want TTC to affect my life too much as I know how much being pregnant and then having a baby will affect things! I try to be fairly normal with socialising for first 2 weeks of my cycle and then for the last 2 (ie when I could potentially be pregnant) I'm much more careful. And then I get really drunk when my period arrives....

Elle looks like I missed your post yday. Am glad you are feeling more hopeful and your DH is supportive. It's good that your weight loss target is higher than the one recommended by your GP. I've been telling myself to start exercising for a year now but still not motivated enough. Am feeling really bad about it.

soda well done for finding your wedding dress. It sounds lovely! Don't think I'll do anything with wedding dress for now as I still hope I'll get pg soon...

Think I've ov'd now as there seems to be a temp shift this morning. I'm starting to get worried about how my follicular phase seems to be getting shorter and shorter. Have just read that it's associated with low pg rate. Well, the percentage of viable pg rate is shockingly low at single figure
And it is also associated with low ovarian reserve...

I feel your pain with the cycles gakay although we seem the have opposite problems - I have a long follicular phase (it seems to vary between 18-20 days) but then a short luteal phase. Ovia says my LP is 11 days which I've read is very bad because it wouldn't give any time for the egg to implant. I don't temp so don't know for sure when I ovulate but I know that AF has so far arrived on the 14th day after my first positive OPK. I always get a positive for 2 days so I think Ovia is assuming I ovulate the next day. Hmmm. Luckily my school friend (doctor who specialises in fertility) is coming to stay with me tomorrow for a couple of nights so I will be quizzing her! I've warned her that listening to me is payment for having her! I'll update you with any advice she has. For now I'm starting to drink a glass of grapefruit juice starting tomorrow (supposed to help with EWCM). Haven't ordered pre-seed yet but planning to as well.

Afternoon all

gakay i have started the NHS couch to 5k run app and I am really enjoying it and I have not done any exercise for about 10 years. it really does break it down to a manageable run. I start week 4 (out of 9) tonight and will be running for a total of 16 minutes, the longest yet, up from 9 minutes last week. It has loads of walking in it so that it is achievable. I do it 3 times a week and it lasts for 30 minutes so really fits in well with life. Fingers crossed your short FP is nothing to worry about, hopefully Soda's friend might be able to cast some light on it!

Soda* well done with the dress, i found it quite easy, as soon as I saw my dress I knew it was the one, in fact I only tried a few different ones because my mum made me, but I knew it was the one and it was!

All the best to you all x

soda isn't it frustrating that our body can't work like textbooks and us not being able to control it? I'm trying to tell myself that everything will be OK in the end and one cycle of ridiculously short follicular phase (9 days!) doesn't mean every cycle will be the same.
Oh yes please wrt getting advice from your friend. That's so convenient to have a fertility Dr fd!
Think I might start having pineapples as read somewhere it helps with implantation. Can't believe I'm in tww already!

Elle well done for doing the NHS couch thing. My fd started summer and she has just completed a 10k marathon a little while ago. I've never been a runner… I blame it on my flat feet and bad knees... but they are probably just excuses...

I feel extremely anxious today for some reason; my heart is racing and keep feeling like about to cry. Perhaps I'm getting stressed about clearing all my work before I go on leave. And am doing a 24h shift again today

Hi everyone,

Sorry that this isn't the right place but could I post this here as I'm new to number and need some help and advice please?

So for a few days I've been getting symptoms for pregnancy and periods... I was in work last night and thought I'd take a test as my period didn't come and it was 2 days late... It was negative....

The first day of my period was on the 11th June 2015 if this helps anyone? My periods are usually regular and I don't usually feel like this before my period.

I had my implant out in May 2015 and only had it in for a year.

Should I wait a few more days to do another test? Yes I'm TTC with my partner.

I've been experiencing nausea (which had increased since yesterday it's getting worse but I haven't been sick yet), fatigue, getting warm quickly, breasts ache, back ache, missed period this will be the 4th day if I don't come on today, mood swings and I've just started to get aching pains in mostly my right breast but in both of them too!!

I'd appreciate all the help I get, thanks you xx

Welcome Nicola
Do you know how sensitive your tests are? It may be that the one you used isn't sensitive enough to pick up low hcg in early pg. I've read that some women didnt get positive results until several days after their AF was due. Having said that, also prepare yourself for the arrival of AF. Test again with FRER. Sometimes Pre-AF symptoms can be awfully like early pg symptoms, esp if your AF is late. Fx for you that you'll get your BFP

Hi everyone,

So I quizzed my fertility doctor friend last night about everything. She was really reassuring - she's been doing a lot of research in her work about ovulation and she said it really doesn't matter when in the month it happens. She said my short LP was also nothing to worry about. Basically she says ovulation varies widely from woman to woman but can also be different every month for 1 person. Having regular, normal periods is usually a fairly certain sign that you're ovulating and she said beyond that stop worrying! She also said try to avoid using OPKs and don't just focus on DTD around them - make sure you're doing it throughout the month every 2 or 3 days. (May ignore this advice - I love my OPKs!)

Also asked her about my random brown spotting last month and she encouraged me to take another pregnancy test. Got myself all excited because I actually threw up this morning completely randomly! But BFN. She said it could just be body adjusting to being off pill or a sign of infection like thrush. I'm due for a smear test too so she told me to get that done.

Hope this is all useful for people!

gakay hope you're feeling ok today and less anxious. Huge FX for you during this TWW.

Hi nicola - I'd just keep testing until you either get BFP or AF arrives! Good luck!