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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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1st month TTC

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Littlebear88 · 17/11/2013 21:04

New member alert!!!
My husband and I have just decided to ttc! We are both youngest in our family although both on mid 20s! We want our children to be close to their cousins who range from 2-5! Just hoping our brothers and sisters won't be judgemental as they were all in 30s when they started having children! We have been on nice holidays but feel that a baby is the next step and we are very excited! Just looking for some moral support!!!

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HippyJess · 27/11/2013 23:58

I am not in any way watching back-to-back episodes of One Born Every Minute. Nope, nuh uh, nothing to see here... Blush

QueenFaerie86 · 28/11/2013 06:58

I'm a week through the 2 week wait, I'm trying not to symptom spot but I've woken up this morning with thrush and I only have ever had it when I've been pregnant! Literally get it from the very beginning! Trying so hard not to get my hopes up but it's a good sign for me! Not very pleasant sign but I'll take it!! Eeeee!

KittyVonCatsington · 28/11/2013 07:01

What an unfortunate 'side effect', QueenFaerie!, but at least it is a positive sign-keeping fingers crossed for you Smile

Lizzie1985 · 28/11/2013 07:59

Hi Ladies. After trying to be patient and virtuous, I caved in and tested yday. A stupid horrid BFN Sad. I just don't understand what's happening to my body. I really thought I had pregnancy symptoms too. And the spotting. Was that my first period? I've been so emotional since coming off the pill too. I don't know whether to start charting temps yet? Ugh. Want to cry cause it's all so confusing and irritating.

ThingsThatGoHumpInTheNight · 28/11/2013 08:40

Hey lizzie don't get too disheartened, its really early days. I had horrid symptoms when I first came off the pill- nausea, headaches, cramps, massively emotional Sad Did a couple of hpts as it made me so paranoid. My first period was very light too, and stopped for about 12 hours in the middle....all very odd. Hoping I back to normal now though and dtd like mad. Try not to streas yourself out as this wont help!

On another issue, way tmi, but what tactics are you ladies using to keep the swimmers going in the right direction? I am doing some hip tilting/bum propping for ten mins or so after dtd then trying to just go to sleep without going to the loo...it seems to be working but then for the first few hours the next day I get a bit of leakage ifykwim? Shock Its not a lot and it doesn't bother me but I just wondered if I am being ott here?

MrsW0931 · 28/11/2013 09:28

Weird you say that ThingsThatGoHump as after we DTD last night (first time since coil removed) that is exactly what i did! Blush Cant harm to try eh?

When did you stop taking the pill Lizzie? Dont be dis heartened like ThingsThatGoHump says as it can take up to 6 months for the pill to come out of your system so its likely to just be that as it sounds like you havent been off the pill for too long? chin up

k4tie84 · 28/11/2013 10:21

Hi ladies. Hope you don't mind me joining in. DH and I are in our first month of TTC after coming off the pill in September. Super excited and its killing me not telling anyone. Next AF is due on the 21st Dec. I would love to be able to give DH a positive pregnancy test as a present on Christmas morning.

My dilemma is that it's obviously the party season and I've got a few Christmas parties and drinks to go to with friends and colleagues. I'd rather not drink much in case we're lucky enough to get a bfp but what excuse can I make? Smile

ReginaFelange22 · 28/11/2013 11:06

Spoke to soon. It's turned up :( not surprised though but glad it's here to make things slightly easier!!

ThingsThatGoHumpInTheNight · 28/11/2013 17:45

Oh no regina....back to the grindstone Wink

KittyVonCatsington · 28/11/2013 18:01

Here's to the next month Regina, lots of virtual hugs Smile.

Welcome, k4tie, come here and talk to us instead-helps if you can't talk to people in real life! With regards to alcohol during the festive season, my thoughts were: get my own drinks and get non-alcoholic beer but put straight into glass or get a half coke without the vodka. To stop people buying drinks in say a round, I'll say, no, don't worry, I'll get my own! Around family during Christmas/New Year, I'll have to get DH on side and get him to sneakily swop drinks or get me alcoholic looking ones. Could end up quite farcical!

Kittyrose1 · 28/11/2013 18:48

Hi all, sorry to hear of the bfns and the arrivals of AF ! How do you ladies keep your mind off of babies?? Or do you? My friends are either pregnant or had a baby a baby at the moment! AF has finished so we are now getting back in action!
Good luck everyone !

Lizzie1985 · 28/11/2013 20:04

Thingsthatghump I finished my last pill 5 weeks ago. I'm guessing it probably was my period. Feeling a lot better today after disappointment yday. I got my basal thermometer today, so I'm kinda hoping once I start charting my temps and CM that I'll understand where I am in my cycle. Kittyrose I'm finding it impossible to keep my mind off babies. I was godparent at a Christening on Sunday and it was hard- I want one so much and don't like waiting!

Kittyrose1 · 28/11/2013 21:21

Lizzie,I hate waiting too and I must admit I like everything to happen in my control and this just can't be controlled so I need to learn to relax! How lovely to e a godparent, was it a nice service?
Are you going to try using the opk or stick to your own temp and cm monitoring ?

ReginaFelange22 · 28/11/2013 22:09

ThingsThatGoHump I done the bum/hip tilt thing lol! Bum in the air, looking like a right idiot but thought it couldn't be a bad thing! I just hope it's easier because the first AF is here and can now count the days etc. Although I also hope I don't go back to 7 day periods, with no let up!

Is the temping side of things easy to keep up with? How does it work?

ReginaFelange22 · 28/11/2013 22:11

Meant to also say that I just went to sleep too! I lay for about 20 mins or more if it was the morning too!

k4tie84 · 29/11/2013 09:45

Thanks Kittyvon! I think it will be harder to fool close friends but I'll give it a go.

I've brought ovulation sticks from amazon and both dh and I are taking pregnacare conception his and hers. I think I'm due to ovulate end of next week.

I'm a big planner and hate when things don't work out how you want them to. Trying really hard not to obsess over it.

When is everyone's af due in December?

ThingsThatGoHumpInTheNight · 29/11/2013 10:23

Hi k4tie I'm due around the 19th or so but only had one AF since coming off the pill. Just had a docs appt for something unrelated and thought I'd mention we are trying as I have a condition which can affect pregnancy and will need to be managed carefully when it happens and she was so lovely, really enthusiastic and reassuring, almost excited Grin so nice to talk to someone about it.

I really hope it happens for us all soon.

Will you all be keeping it completely quiet until the first scan? We were discussing and DH reckons we should tell people who we'd tell if we had any issues anyway...so maybe my sis and the in laws...that would be it and we'd want them to keep it quiet...which I they would...

k4tie84 · 29/11/2013 10:42

Hi thingsthatgobumpinthenight I’m due on the 21st Dec. I've had 2 AF's since coming off the pill so hopefully everything is in working order.

Glad to hear your doctor was so enthusiastic and keen to talk to you about it. Hope everything goes ok.

DH and I have had the same conversation and we have said that we will tell parents and siblings. If we're unlucky enough to have a MC it will be nice to have the support from loved ones.

HippyJess · 29/11/2013 10:46

Morning folks :) DTD with "intent" last night for the first time, even though I missed my ovulation window this month - it was still exciting! Grin

ThingsThatGoHump I'd tell my mum and sister because I'd want their support if anything went wrong anyway (touch wood!), but not sure about PiL... I think I'd prefer to leave them til the 12 week scan but will wait and see how DP feels about as and when I actually get upduffed Wink

Everyone else - my dad, grandparents, friends etc - can wait until the first scan!

HippyJess · 29/11/2013 10:49

That's really good GoHump, glad things are moving forward positively! :)

Glad everything seems to be as it should be and hope you get your BFP soon K4tie :) my AF is due on the 5th and in spite of it being extreeeeemely unlikely I'm harbouring a secret hope she doesn't show up!

ThingsThatGoHumpInTheNight · 29/11/2013 10:51

Grin love 'doing the deed with intent'-sounds like a criminal offence! We aren't close with my parents at all so won't be telling them. My sister definitely and in laws probably-they are great, just a bit worried they would tell DH's siblings (one of whom is engaged to my best mate!) which would then spiral into a lot of people knowing before we wanted them too...difficult... might just wait and see how we feel when the time comes

HippyJess · 29/11/2013 11:31

Stems from the MN acronym SWI - shagging with intent Grin I'm a fan of the phrase!

The whole thing with this baby-making business seems to be 'go with the flow' so that makes sense as a plan :) you don't know what'll happen or how you feel, so just go with it! Sage advice, yes yes Grin

MrsW0931 · 29/11/2013 11:55

Yea i like that Jess SWI from now on for us both now the coils r out! Grin

So i lasted 24 hours before telling DH id had my coil out. lol. I happened to mention in an argument that id got him the beststed present ever for xmas that i was really excited about and so can we stop argueing about silly things and then from that point onwards it was 'tell me tell me tell me' all day long so i gave in (with a bit of bribery for having his bestest xmas present early ofcourse!). He was so excited and it was strangely different when we DTD last night..i dont know how to describe it - anyone else feel like that when they first started trying? Jess, you DTD last night too - did you feel different?

MrsW0931 · 29/11/2013 11:55

I also did another ovulation stick last night, nothing. So anoying having no clue where i am in my cycle cos of not having a period for over 2 years. Im no good at the waiting thing!

k4tie84 · 29/11/2013 12:16

I've brought a pack of 50 ovulation sticks from Amazon and I’ve started testing everyday as all the apps, calculators etc. tell me different dates. on top of that we're DTD as much as possible... I think DH is secretly hoping it doesn't happen to quickly Wink

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