TTC #2 and turning into a nut job!

[gemmeg]

Ladies, bring me back down to Earth before it's too late! I'm TTC #2 and its only the 2nd cycle and I'm already doing my own head in not to mention my OH.....we're not the kind of couple to have regular sex when not TTC (much to my disappointment ) so it's a real effort for DS to, erm, pull his finger out as it were and DTD every other day. With DS1 I had no idea about CM and OPKs and just used an ovulation calendar for timing but this time round I'm in danger of falling into the OPK trap! I'm aware of my constant whittling and DH even said that he hopes I get pregnant this month so he doesn't have to listen to me begging for him to do it just one more time! Anyone in the same boat?

[2beornot]

Hi pettypru!!! Of course you can join , the more nutters the better!!!

DH and I are currently dtd every other night and I'm starting to panic that its not enough. I've not even ovulated yet!! I really feel like its going to work this month (by which I mean I really want it to work).

I will be gutted if it doesn't work this month, because that means there will be no 2013 baby for me.

[gemmeg]

Great, another nut-job for our club! Welcome prettyprudence .

2be....I think every other night is def enough. It gives you both a chance to recover and is a little less exhausting esp if you want to keep DTD over a longer period of time. We conceived DS by DTD every other day. 4 times in total.

Think I'm going to have to adopt that tactic as AF was late this month so I'm not sure when I will ovulate. Think it would be best do DTD over a longer time period....just got to get DH to agree....

[winterpansy]

Hello fellow nutters!

Glad to hear every other night can work - we've dtd on cd9, 11, 14 so far and my app tells me I'm due to ovulate this Sat so we'll try for a couple of times before then too. It's exhausting already! I hear ya 2be!

Hi and welcome pettypru I'm on cycle 1 of ttc dc2 (have a DS 21 months already). I'm currently on cd15. A parisian baby would be lovely! You'd have to name it something French

gem Good luck with coercing DH!

[2beornot]

Quick question then: when can I let DH off the hook (or rather when can it be just for fun again?!). We plan to dtd on cd 7, 9, 11, 13 & 15. Started early because although I'm usually a 28 day regular, for some reason it was 24 last month. I presume that's ok?! It's hard because with DD1, I'm sure a few times was enough (and I was completely oblivious to CDs, ovulation timings and everything!)

[pettyprudence]

2beornot maybe add cd17 just to be on the safe side?

Gah started poas already and I know its completely pointless as only 9-ish days past ovulation and they are really cheapy sticks of ebay (which are supposed to be early response ones but totally aren't!) MUST NOT TEST AGAIN UNTIL MONDAY repeat to fade

[gemmeg]

I know what you mean 2beornot! With DS we did it about 3-4 times, had no clue about CM and CDs- just used a ov calendar. We conceived cycle 2. Back then though I had a reg 28 day cycle now I'm all over the shop!

[winterpansy]

Omg..just found ewcm and got really properly excited about impending ovulation.
Sad or what...


Have texted DH to let him know to be primed and ready tonight

[Tinyflutterby]

How is everyone getting on? I started using the OPK's this week and so far am feeling more relaxed about the whole thing, as it gives some 'control' to the situation. It is too difficult to dtd every other day as my cycles are so irregular that we run out of steam before I've even ovulated and then it becomes a chore and hearing 'do we have to?' doesn't really do much for the mood! So plan for this cycle is just to wait until I get a +OPK then go for it!

[2beornot]

Hi tiny!

We're just getting our heads down and dtd as often as we can! Today is day 14 so should be Ov day - although I'm not sure it's happen yet. That said I don't really know my signs, but def no ewcm. Lets hope it happens soon, because like you said we don't want to run out of steam!!

[winterpansy]

Hey there!
I used some cheapy opks and they are all invalid. Must have been a dud batch.
Off to Boots soon to pick up some dear ones to give us some piece of mind that we are definitely dtd at the right time. DH was feeling a bit sick last night so we didn't get it on. Tonight though!

[nomoreminibreaks]

Hi everyone!

It seems to have come around again really quickly but it's DTD week at ours too. Haven't done any OPKs yet but will probably start after the weekend. DH has been informed he's on duty so I should probably shave my legs

[gemmeg]

So ladies, I have just purchased myself some clearblue OPKs off amazon.....I know, I know, I said I wasn't going to bother but the ones I had before were just some cheapo ones and as I was 3 days late this month I thought I'd give them a go. Won't get back home to DH till right near the time I think I ov so I've informed him that we're cracking on with the business as soon as I get back and fitting as many in as poss....he took it well . Good luck to all this month!

[2beornot]

Am I the only one not using OPKs? You do realise if it doesn't happened for me this month then I will be blaming you ladies when I rush out and get them for next month?!

[winterpansy]

I'm very excited about the opks! I was sucked into buying a pack of 20 for £40 in Boots (it'll be amazon if I need them again!!) and used them yesterday and today! AND...got my first smiley today and then rushed down the stairs to jump on DH as DS is down for his nap so we're doing at the right time at least!. Ah, yes...I swore I'd not get this carried away for a few months at least but damn, I want a bfp

[winterpansy]

Just reading back there - there are quite a few of us who will be testing around the same time. Hopefully luck comes in numbers!

[2beornot]

Do we need a catch up?

Cycle: #3
Dtd until: Sunday (cd17)
AF due: 22nd

Anything else to add?

[pettyprudence]

Cycle 1
Only dtd twice (as in used the proper finishing method....)
AF due Monday 11th

I keep testing but I know its pointless and a waste of sticks!

I am using cheapy opk's - used them before with no problem. In fact they highlighted that I was testing and dtd at the wrong time! Now probably isn't the best time to get a bfp though as trying to buy a house and will have a lot of work to do so the less pg I am when we move the better!

[winterpansy]

My stats:
Cycle no.1
Ov today - cd19
Dtd cd9, 11,14,18,19 (well early hours of 19 )!
Af due 26th - by MyDays app.I'll prob test on Fri 22nd...just to see!

[lucieloos]

Hi there

Hope you don't mind if I join you! Feeling a bit fed up at the moment. This is our first month of TTC and I am on CD10. Want to DTD lots this week but its such a struggle getting DH to participate! Thought we would do it last night and tried to initiate but he was tired and not interested. It's so frustrating, he was even more keen than me to start trying and really wants a baby but doesn't seem too bothered about putting any effort in. Every night I feel like I am pestering him to DTD and it's getting me down.

I haven't actually spoken to him and told him this is the week we need to be uping our game if we want to be in with a chance. What does everyone else do? Do you tell your DH when it's the week or do you just take it as it comes and hope for the best?

It's just difficult as most other friends I have spoken to their partners can't seem to get enough and want to be doing it all the time anyway. Would make life so much easier!

[nomoreminibreaks]

Cycle #2
Ov due 12th based on MyCycles (or 16th based on last cycle)
AF due 27th (or 31st based on last cycle)

I have this daydream where I can announce we're pregnant at DS' 2nd birthday party on 31st as it's only close family there... Wouldn't admit that anywhere else!

No DTD yet! Always too tired but need to get on with it tonight. I just tell DH he's 'on duty' tonight and we try not to take it too seriously. He even rolls over in bed and says 'So...Would you like me to impregnate you??' Romantic!

[gemmeg]

Welcome lucieloos:-) I know exactly where you're coming from. I'm always envious of those couples who take this whole baby-making thing in a relaxed manner as they generally DTD a lot throughout the whole month. I tell my DH when I want us to do it, then he tries to rearrange everything (which really annoys me, doesn't he understand the biology!!) and we usually DTD 3 times within my fertile period. Of course I'd be happier with more but I don't want to push it. I also feel as though I pester and I have to remind him that another baby isn't just for me, he wants to have one too! Does your DH understand that there really is just a limited time when you can conceive?

Ha ha nomore!! My DH does the same!!

[ASmidgeofMidge]

Can I join? TTC #2... dd is 5 and I'm 33, as is dh. With dd we hit 'the jackpot' straight away, so am trying not to be too impatient. I think we have dtd at the right times this past month (but more on that later-I don't think I understand all I need to re cycles n stuff) and am coming to the end of 2ww. AF due tomorrow and have to say it feels like it . I think as was so quick last time I've set myself up for things moving rapidly ths time too, although intellectually I know things are different - older, not just come off pill with 'fertility surge' etc. Have had some weird symptoms this month - itchy nipples and 'stitch' type pains, but feel v irritable and crampy today

[ASmidgeofMidge]

Is anyone else using the Pink Pad app for iPhone? Any good? And how does one use these ovulation predictor thingies? Haven't bought any and am not sure if it's worth investing?

[Mummytothearkbuilder]

Hi ladies, I'm ttc number 2 as well. I have a DS who is 4 in April and had a miscarriage on 15th feb (at 6 weeks). I have long and irregular cycles so never know when AF is due or when I am going to ovulate. My plan is to DTD every other night and test for ovulation everyday - fingers crossed!!

Good luck everyone! X

[gemmeg]

Hello ASmidge don't know about the app but can help a bit on the opk front. They basically work by detecting LH in your urine. When you get a +opk this means a surge in this hormone has been detected and you should ovulate any time in the nxt 24 hrs. You test everyday at around the same time in the days leading up to when you think you may ovulate (there are usually instructions telling you the best time to start testing. They're rather like a pg test). 2pm is supposedly the best time but it tells you all this in the instructions. If the test line is the same strength or darker in colour than the control line then you have a + and should crack on with DTD. If the line is fainter or non-existent then it's -. I bought some cheap ones last month but didn't get a + even though I was sure I was ovulating. I then read that you can miss the surge if you only test once a day but i really didnt want to be POAS all day long! That said, I've invested in some clearblue as I had an irregular cycle this month so wanted to try them out. Until I get a +opk I can't be sure if they're worth it. I think if you have a reg cycle though then they can just make you obsessed.....but hey, that's why we're all here, right?