Am I mad to not tell DH yet?

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I got my BFP yesterday, but I've not yet told DH.

The reason is that I recently had a mmc, which we discovered at the 12 wk scan. Obviously it was very upsetting and I said that if I got pregnant again I wouldn't tell anyone (including DH) until I'd had a scan and knew that there was actually a baby developing. I have decided to go ahead with my plan to save him the stress/worrying of the first few weeks.

I'm going to the GP tomorrow and will request an early scan (she has already agreed to this in principle so hopefully there won't be a problem getting this sorted). Once I've had the scan, all being well, I will tell DH and we can celebrate a bit more confidently.

In the meantime, I've kept my BFP stick and am going to write him letters every now and again to keep him updated on how I'm feeling so that he can read them in retrospect.

Has anyone else done anything like this and do people think it's unfair to keep this a secret from him for the next few weeks?

I'm glad you've told him, bet it's a relief to be able to share your feelings/anxieties?

Here's hoping for an entirely uneventful pregnancy x

I'm glad you told him.

for a completely boring and straightforward preganncy from start to baby being born boringly healthy. :)

Thank you everyone - yes, please be boring! And l-o-o-o-o-ng!

yes, a lo-o-o-o-o-o-o-o-ng and boring 40 weeks!