Urgent help needed - after suspecting something was up with my nanny for a while I have now discovered.....

[lisalisa]

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why not discuss with her a new schedule.

spell it out - 2 loads a day etc etc.

and put a blocko nt he internet.

I'd say give her her notice (assuming you've got a contract that allows that). If that was my cm, I'd do the same. However, if you've got issues at work, would a warning do the trick for the time being. Certainly would be fairer to talk to her in those terms. Why's she looking for another job? Might be interesting to try and find out.

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Pull the plug on the internet and remove the SKY card. She may get the hint. Hope you get it sorted out.

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Password protect the PC. And don't create a user account for her.

Can't you put a log-in password on the computer?

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Um - pass! It'll be a Windows thing (I know it's possible but I have a man to do all that for me )

Ah - is it in settings? When you click programs in the bottom LH corner, settings is one of the options - maybe through control panel?

We've got a new one with Windows Vista - in control panel there is a section called User Accounts and Family Safety. Passwords are set in there I think.

It's going to depend on what version of Windows lisalisa is running.
We have XP and have set up a master Administrator account with full permissions, plus personal accounts including one for dd which only allows In the Night Garden
Passwords needed for all these

Go to Control Panel. Click on User Accounts. Where it says "Or select account to change", click on your account. There it gives you the option to create a password.

If you're in XP then control panel, 'user accounts'

BUT- if you do this, she will know you've rumbled her and it may force her hand IYSWIM

Um well, my first reaction was, put a password on the PC.

But then I remembered how our excellent nanny nearly quit after about 18 months basically cos she was bored out of her mind.
(we did give her a rise too, different situation to yours cos she really was good) but main thing was to talk it over, find some ways to make it more interesting for her (which actually meant she was doing an even better job with DD).

If your nanny and DS2 have good relationship, well it might be worth putting in a bit of effort to try to sort things out.

start menu (bottom left corner)
control panel
user accounts
set it up from there.

how on earth does she manage to do those hours? what abut her own childcare? irrelevent i know, dont answer!

I would be really upset if I were in this situation- she's there to care for your children.
Though I am obviously addicted to being online....

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you'll need to improve your typing first though

erm, its late, please take that the right way...
Good luck Lisalisa

8am-6.30pm I don't see as being overly long hours for a nanny. It's 10.5 a day. I do a 10 hour day, and I consider that short for a full time nanny position. I feel that 11 hours per day is more typical. Anyone agree?

Can you follow disciplinary procedure - such as for neglect of duties, internet access (if that is stated in contact as being restricted). Clamping down the the lack of doing the duties you expect to be done, I feel would be your first step - with the nanny. And securing your laptop is certainly worth doing, even if just to prevent your 2 year old from using it (without permission).

Oh no, Lisa! Could you offer her a four day a week job and put DS2 into a childminder on say Mondays. She could still come over and do whatever her morning routine is (get him dressed, fed, etc.) then she could have the whole day off and you or DH could pick him up from childminder in the evening. That would cut her hours down to basically four days, give her some time to do her own stuff. But, on the other four days she needs to really keep up with x, y, and z.

This of course assumes that there is one day where the other kids are in full time school.

As for laptop, take it with you in the morning. Just say you put some work on it last night and you need to take to work with you today.

Or... just be honest. "I know you've been looking at jobs on gumtree. If you are unhappy I'd rather you told me why and maybe we can work something out where you can be happy. DS is really attached to you and I don't want to lose you, but this laundry over here and those toys over there are the reason I wmploy a nanny so they do need to be done on a daily basis." Or something like that.

BTW, my nanny works 12+ hours every day. But, she is live in and doesn't have any kids. So I guess that makes it a bit easier.

Internet isn't really the problem here, is it though? If she is that uninterested in your other children and never does the washing etc. then it doesn't sound like the right line of work for this woman.

If Ds2 is attached to her he will benefit from still having her to visit or look after him occasionally but honestly, she is taking the piss, and he will be fine if she isn't aound all the time, presuming he is attached to you and DH as well.

Try not to worry about the next step, but you have to ditch her I think!

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