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Urgent help needed - after suspecting something was up with my nanny for a while I have now discovered.....

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lisalisa · 24/09/2007 23:12

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Rubybees · 25/09/2007 14:43

Just caught up on this and was going to suggest password LOL

I feel bad now as during the day when the children are napping I'm always on the internet lol (although I am a childminder and have to get my jobs done before and after work lol)

quint · 25/09/2007 14:51

lisalisa - doesn;t sound like a gard job at all - its one I would have loved as a nanny.

The hours are normal for a daily nanny as are the duties.

The thing is do you want to keep her on? If yes then try to get to the bottom of any problems, keep communicating with her, have one evening a month where you sit down and discuss things (or every other month if you feel that too much), if not, well then just get rid.

Hope you manage to work it out

NannyL · 25/09/2007 18:52

Can i just add, as a nanny who has no intention of changing jobs for at least another 3 years, i look at the jobs on gumtree and on nanny job nearly every day!

Also when my just 2 year old is asleep i often go upstairs and play on the internet... in fact there is abutton with MY name on on the PC for me to use! If they checked the history they would see loads of me on nanny job and gumtree etc and looking for jobs!

BTW my bosses are absolutely fine with this, they know and they dont mind! I will also happily sit down and watch some Tv for an hour or so while he was asleep.

(However my jobs are always done and the chidrden eat a homecooked meal for dinner every night, and this comes first)

Ultimatly if you arnt happy with your nanny then maybe you need to get rid of her, but remember unless there is gross misconduct (which it doesnt seem that there is) then you will NOT legally be able to find another nanny to replace her.... (even if you change the hours / job a bit you still HAVE to offer her it first)... you therefore HAVE to follow discilplinary procedure of verbal warning / written warning/ dismissal!

Goos luck

eleusis · 25/09/2007 22:04

NannyL makes a fair point about the jobs. About a year ago DH canme to me and said Nanny is looking at jobs. I found these on the printer. However, the jobs were live out and I happened to know that one of her nanny friends was a live out nanny and not happy in her current job. So,I immediatelt thought that they were probably for friend. And they were. But, I could have easily jumped to conclusions.

wannaBe · 25/09/2007 22:18

think there are two issues here tbh.

The first is whether she's doing the job she's being paid to do, and the second is the issue re internet usage/looking at other jobs.

With regard to whether she's doing the job you are paying her for, if she isn't, then you need to take her to task over this. If washing/tidying etc isn't being done then you need to discuss with her and work out a strategy for these things to be done.

Re her internet use, how many mn'ers log on to here frm work? - a lot. How many people surf the net from their offices - a lot. Ultimately what she is doing is what an awful lot of employees across the country do every day. If she's surfing constantly while she should be with children then I would definitely have words, but surfing while ds is napping is another thing imo, as she is also entitled to a break.

Also re jobs I think looking at jobs is never a bad thing. I could never have seen my life as staying in one job indefinitely - doesn't mean she's unhappy, but maybe something better suited to her might come along and it's as much her perogative to look for other work as it is yours to consider getting rid of her when your circumsstances change.

eleusis · 28/09/2007 12:24

How did the chat go, Lisa?

jura · 29/09/2007 13:48

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lisalisa · 02/10/2007 13:24

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