Birth after assisted (forceps) delivery

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Hi ladies. I’m 5 months post-partum to a sweet, sweet boy. I had a 36 hour labour, epidural, 2nd degree tear, episiotomy, major blood loss (2.5L), stitches came undone, restitch, multiple rounds of granulation tissue removal, incontinence, pelvic floor weakness and undergoing pelvic floor physio.. i’m not pregnant and don’t plan on it any time soon as i’m not mentally over this birth. Anyone been through something similar? Anyone had a “nice” birth after an assisted and complicated birth? I would at some point like to have a sibling for my boy but the thought currently fills me with insane anxiety. X

I only went through a few of the things that you did (episiotomy and forceps) but ended up with manageable but permanent problems after delivery. Because of this I went for an elective section with my second. I was scared about having the c-section as they presented me with a list of 'risks' when I said that I wanted one, however, it was the most lovely experience and I healed wonderfully and much quicker afterwards. I know it's not for everyone but it wasn't anywhere near as daunting as I thought it would be and if I was to have a third I would do it all again in a heart beat.

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