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First baby and requesting homebirth - how did you go about it, what was your experience?

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iampgatlast · 09/01/2008 10:53

hi i am 21 and expecting my first baby on 29th of this month.

i have been trying to plan for a home birth since 28 weeks but i kept getting told i needed to wait until i was further along so here i am 37+1 and saw my midwife yesterday. She asked me why i wanted a homebirth and that did i realise that my only pain relief option really was gas and air and i have to make sure this is really what i wanted as i have to consider the cost involved in transferring to hospital in an ambulance i found this very patronising and i feel she only spoke to me in this manner because of my age.

i now have to wait to speak with another midwife and she may not see me until 38+2.

i just wondered what your experience was of actually getting the ok for your homebirth?

i am under no illusions that the birth is going to bloody well hurt but i have my tens machine, considering a pool and i will have gas and air, how did you cope with the pain at home?

i guess i am just looking for a little bit of reassurance as i have my heart set on having my baby at home ( i am aware that if the pregnancy doesnt stay problem free i will end up in hospital and also during labour if there are complications i will end up in hospital) but the feeling i got from the midwife was she just looked at me as if to say i wont be able to manage.

look forward to hearing your responses xx

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1dilemma · 14/01/2008 23:47

Are you in London? My midwives only ever visited when they could 'slot me in' too, they are fantastically busy, but they do manage to slot people in on Christmas Day too not many jobs do that (I was even ofered an induction on Christmas Day bet they didn't get many takers for that!).
If you want a homebirt I'm sure you'll get one

1dilemma · 14/01/2008 23:55

sorry about the spelling read the rest of the thread now glad you got what you wanted good luck.
sweetkitty where abouts are you? I'm surprised that your comm. mw hadn't done a HB loads here in SW London

1dilemma · 14/01/2008 23:55

sorry about the spelling read the rest of the thread now glad you got what you wanted good luck.
sweetkitty where abouts are you? I'm surprised that your comm. mw hadn't done a HB loads here in SW London

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