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Tearing: first vs subsequent babies

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Blondemother · 23/04/2018 15:49

If you have given birth more than once, was there a difference in terms of tearing?

If you tear with the first baby is it likely to happen again or be easier on your body second time round?
If you escaped intact with the first baby did the second do more damage?!

Keen to hear your experiences Smile

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newmumwithquestions · 23/04/2018 15:52

I tore both times (sorry, suspect it’s not the answer you want). But in different places if that makes any difference?

PenApple · 23/04/2018 15:54

Dc1: Tear & episiotomy with a whole heap of stitches and hospital time.
Dc2: tiny tear which didn’t need stitches
Dc3: no tears at all

I think you are generally more likely to tear with first babies before you are, erm stretched 😬

n0ne · 23/04/2018 15:56

No tears either time, even with very quick pushing phases (4 mins and 8 mins). But then I birthed in water which I think keeps the skin elastic.

Balancingact12 · 23/04/2018 15:59

2nd degree tear both times. 6lb and 9lb baby but didn’t seem to make much difference either way Hmm. Stitches and recovery both fine both times

Fluteytootey · 23/04/2018 16:00

Tears both time sadly. 3rd degree and then a 2nd in the same place. No more babies for me!

mustbemad17 · 23/04/2018 16:03

Tore both times - both babies 7lbs 14oz so no difference there, altho second time required less stitches. Be interesting to ser what happens this time 🙈

Dreamingofkfc · 23/04/2018 16:04

Didn't tear either time, did perineal massage from 34 weeks every evening so that defo helped

DancingLedge · 23/04/2018 16:06

Small tear and stitches first time.
No tears with 2 or 3, even though one of those was a bigger baby and got a bit stuck.

HLBug · 23/04/2018 16:25

3rd degree tear first time (smidgen away from being 4th degree and nothing left) and, as a result, C Section the 2nd time as I sure as hell wasn't risking another tear like that again!!

LBOCS2 · 23/04/2018 16:28

2nd degree tear both times.

First time it was a very medicalised birth, epidural, pushing on my back. Tore up and down, was stitched up under local by a consultant.

Second time it was an incredibly calm water birth. Tore, stitched up in surgery under general whilst they were sorting out my PPH.

EverythingNow · 23/04/2018 16:29

1- 3rd degree tear and episiotomy
2&3 2nd degree tears.

I don’t think I have very flexible skin though given the amount of stretch marks I have!

Qwertyuiopa · 23/04/2018 16:56

First time - 3rd degree tear, 8lb9 baby
Second time - 2nd degree, 8lb11 baby (with a bigger head!). Second labour was much easier despite the tear and I went home the same day.

Recovery was similar for both and was painful but fine really. Wouldn't put me off doing it again :)

lonelytigger · 23/04/2018 20:58

First baby - a teeny tiny tear that didn't need any stitches but I felt like a half dead jellyfish after a car crash for ages.
Second baby - nothing at all and I pretty much felt completely normal straight afterwards but then had absolutely awful contraction pains when breastfeeding for the first week or so.

I think mine was down to the position (on my knees holding onto headboard/raised back of bed) and listening to midwife with baby 2 as towards the end of pushing she literally said "ok if you don't want to tear just do lots of little pushes now" and it helped - even though he came out with his hand first!

zozozoo · 24/04/2018 04:22

This is interesting for me... I tore with dc1 and 2 with stitches required both times. Think they were both second degree tears but it's many years ago now. Both healed up well. Am currently pregnant with number 3 and scared that scar tissue won't stretch as well... does anyone know if that's a thing?

ShamelesslyPlacemarking · 24/04/2018 04:34

Mild 3rd degree tears both times (bad enough to require stitching under a spinal block, but not bad enough to cause any further issues).

My midwife did say she wouldn’t recommend a vaginal delivery again because of the risk of worse tearing. She was very pro-vaginal delivery, so even though I’m not planning a third, I took her advice seriously.

Wildling · 24/04/2018 04:38

I tore with my first, long time ago so I can't remember exactly but it took me a few months to heal. I didn't tear with my 2nd and he was 9lb so a lot bigger than my first!

I was on my back with my first, panicked and tired so pushed as hard and fast as I could to get him out as fast as possible once I felt the ring of fire... I was kneeling in the birth pool with my second and I swear that made a huge difference! I also had a really great midwife who guided me with the pushing too (and I listened to her!).

QuilliamCakespeare · 24/04/2018 04:51

2nd degree tear first time, no tears the second time. Second baby was almost a pound bigger too!

Nomad86 · 24/04/2018 13:29

Dc1 tear and episiotomy. Dc2 one stitch needed. Not sure if it helped but dc2 was a water birth.

Tigerpig · 24/04/2018 19:29

DC1 I had a big episiotomy. Healed beautifully, they are not necessarily a bad thing.

DC2 just a graze.

I think that second time round everything has already stretched!

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Blondemother · 24/04/2018 20:35

That’s what I’m hoping tigerpig!

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grannycab · 24/04/2018 20:46

tear the first time, none the second

PurpleTraitor · 24/04/2018 20:50

No tears the first time, baby in a good position. No tears the second time, baby in an awful position. Didn’t massage anything before or after, and have enough stretch marks to circumnavigate the globe, so not sure if any of it is related or pure luck!

corrianderisthedevil · 24/04/2018 21:01

Tears and lots of stitches first time.
Tears but no stitches second time
No tears third time.

Good luck

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Blondemother · 24/04/2018 22:28

Seems like, as with most things baby related, it’s a crappy lottery.

Thank you for sharing!

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DramaAlpaca · 24/04/2018 22:30

Episiotomy with DC1, a tear with DC2 requiring stitches, and just a graze with DC3 that didn't need stitching.