A friend of mine recently had her 3rd dc. She had an epidural with her first 2 dc's and had positive birth experiences. Her plan was to have an epidural with this one too.
However, despite hours of contractions, when she got to the hospital she was told she was not in labour (2cm dilated) and so could not yet have an epidural. When her contractions ramped up the midwife told her she was probably now in labour but she could not have an epidural because there were no rooms availible on the consultant unit (she was admitted to the birth centre on the same site).
The midwife then told her she needed 4 things to meet the criteria to get an epidural.
To be in 'active' labour
Have a room availible on labour ward
An anaesthetist availible
A midwife to give you 1 to 1 care
She ended up giving birth without getting an epidural, is quite traumatised and feels very let down and annoyed that no-one ever told her that an epidural may not be an option for her on the day. She was aware she may not get one if she had a speedy delivery but she was in angony for hours . Most women I know have always just been smiled at by midwives and told 'Yeah, you can get an epidural whenever you like!'
Now, I understand the need for all of these things to be in place before getting an epidural but why aren't women informed of this antenatally and just lied to?
I've encouraged her to complain but she say's 'Whats the point, its done now'. I wonder how many other women this has happened to and also don't bother to complain because its over/ they are too traumatised/ to exhaused looking after a new baby.
Is there a conspiracy to withhold the truth so that women won't/can't complain and demand better services?