When I had DD she was lying sideways for most of the labour so could not deliver naturally. Whilst we were waiting to see if she would move they explained what would happen if she didn't move. I already had an epidural so they would top that up. Move me to theatre, give me an episiotomy and try to turn DD with forceps but be ready to do a CS immediately if this failed. I decided if she didn't move there was no way I was potentially having to recover from forceps and CS so I would refuse forceps. She moved herself in the end an I delivered vaginally.
Anyway I'm now pregnant with DC2 and even though im only 12+6 I've been thinking about the birth a lot. I don't expect what happened with DD to happen again but I want to know where I stand with refusing forceps whatever the circumstance? Since DD I've seen a lot about how they aren't used as much and doctors dont have the experience to use them. I also know some countries have stopped using them. Has anyone done this? Will they tell me or will they just use them? Is it sensible to refuse them?