when did you start having sex again?

[sunndydays]

I can't find any recent threads on this subject so would like to know your experiences. I had stitches etc and I am petrified of it hurting, I am sure this is a common problem, so maybe you lovely ladies might have some reassuring words?!

EMCS, ds 4 1/2 months, not done it yet. It's been over 6 months all in all, starting to miss it now..

I did it!!! Didn't hurt been 8 weeks though, couldn't feel much :( (sorry tmi) tell me that will get better?!

4 weeks. Was on some kind of post birth high so could have within a week except body was wrecked with stitches. By 4 weeks, euphoria had worn off so i wasn't quite in the mood but I didn't want to leave it too long as I was nervous. DH was very very gentle though and it was good to get the first time out of the way. It was a bit sore after but not really painful. Took another month or two before I wasn't worrying about pain and that is when we started to get back to normal.

From talking to friends I think it can depend on how active you were in pregnancy -dh and I enjoyed sex right to the end so didn't have the awkwardness of having not had sex for a long while, but other friends who didn't really have sex during pregnancy took much longer as I think they had to rebuild a bit of intimacy before they could go for it iyswim. Everyone got therre in the end which is the important thing.

Well done :) it does get better, promise!

i gave birth 4 weeks ago and had forceps/episiotomy which seems to have healed ok, so am planning to give it a go some time between now and my 6 week check. am a bit nervous though!

I had episiotomy failed ventouse and forceps, I was so scared it would hurt and it was a little tender going in but once we were there it wasn't painful at all so don't be nervous, if you are tense it is more likely to hurt

1 week each time, I think its ok as long as you use condoms, we were always really keen to get back in the saddle, felt completly loved up and it jsut seemed natural.

Think it was about 3 months each time. Had stitches with DC1 and was just knackered after having DC2.

about 8 weeks in my case, but DS was very very early so he'd been in NICU and then SCBU for just short of those 8 weeks. I really didn't feel like it while I was trekking to and from the hospital every day. After he came home I think we just went for it due to the relief he was home.

oh my,,4 days?????

it took me 2months,,

at 4 days i didn't KNOW where my v jay was from my head,there was NO way anyone would have been there,and i also had a c section so,,

8 weeks and it was awful so painful!! bad epsiotomy stitches re-tore etc.

finally got back to 'normal' after 9 months ish!! the recovery was quite bad for me tho so iam having elcs in 6 weeks hoping to be back to 'normal' a hell of alot quicker! x