Nervous nutjobs pregnant with no.2

[winterpansy]

Hello,
Just set up this wee thread for the nutjob graduates. I am hoping all our lovely thread dwellers will be on here very soon.

We should do some stats. I'll kick off:

winterpansy 1 DS edd January 5th
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Ahhhh apprentice so there maybe some method in yhe madness on the folic acid thoughts then. ...hmmmm. oooh im such a Google freak, I google anything me!! Hee hee I guess you'll find out on your scan!! Whens your first one for? Twins run on both sides of our family and am a bit panicky as when I did POAS a day after af was due the result came up straight away as soon as I had literally finished POAS!! So you're not on your own on the panic thingy! !

Am hoping the midwife will ring tomorrow, really want an early dating scan because based on tge docs edd I should be 8 weeks from tomorrow I think?! So not sure!!

Any good plans for the weekend ladies? (Did I already ask that? !!

abi if you wanted to get inside my head just check out my Google search history. Currently all about pregnancy qs and home improvement . It's a great reassurance/panic inducing device how did we manage without? Twins on both sides huh. We do too , dh dad a non id twin and mums cousins but I think so distant surely not...Well will find out on august 26th. You?

Eeek thats not that far away excited for you! ! Erm I think my partners bro was one of a twin from what mil said but the other didnt make it. My mum was one of a twin again the other didnt make it, and 4 years before my mum was born my nan miscarried twins, so although not all made it through there is definitely something on both sides, there is probably more sets oftwins if we bboth looked further back too! But still need my booking appointment with m/w yet so until she gets in touch no early scan as yet!!

Feeling hungry and sleepy all at the same time, is that even possible?! Lol!

Bart how you feeling lovely?

Pregnacare made me feel sick too-solved by taking before bed. Would that work?

abi bub ...wow...strong genetic chance of twins then? exciting! But so sad about the lost twins though. Sore in my left abdomen tonight and no flutters. ..might just be uterus stretchy pains. Thankfully got the mumma here totally providing domestic and baby minding back up. smidge I'll try the horse biscuits at night. I just have an aversion to them now I think

Had another bad day again. Up loads during the night to pee. Then up from about 6am with the sickness. Dh got up with ds at 7 so I was in the ensuite for an hour crying ti myself and feeling rotten not wanting dh to go to work, then managed to get another hours sleep. And dh decided to work from home anyway so I was very relieved. So I've spend half the day laid on the sofa, and the other half being moderately ok. Managed to keep lunch the small bit I had and tea down. Had a mad urge for tiger bread and tomato ketchup just before tea and it was lovely! Lol. Spoilt my tea somewhat though. And dh and ds brought me some lovely flowers from the shop to help me feel better. Very sweet of them.

I've turned the house upside down looking for my sickness bands that I had with ds. I can picture them somewhere although we've moved hous 3 times so really could be anywhere so I will have to get some more. I don't recall them working all that well with ds but I'm willing to give them a go again. Ginger biscuits seemed to help last time, and this time I can't even face them.

And I've not had my pregnacare vitamin today. Just thought I would test it and see if I feel any different tomorrow without it.

Glad you felt a little better abi

Bart baby sorry to hear you 've been feeling miserable. Your dh sounds like a diamond though x

Oh bart hun I did wonder how you you were getting on, you poor might. I like you don't cope too well with the nausea and sickness :0 ( im willing to give most things a go to not feel wretched tbh!! The anti sickness bands so far seem to be helping, its not getting rid of it totally but it is masking it because before I was too afraid to eat anything and these bands mean I can still eat some things without hurling! The morning is still worse for me atm. I only took my multivitamin (which has 200 mg of folic acid in) not the folic acid and that seems to have reduced it a bit too. Sweet things in the morning are a no go. They do suggest rather than ginger biscuits which are quite sugary to try a lemon and ginger tea or a ginger infusion, maybe worth a try? I find rich tea can help. I am deffo veering towards savoury more. White bread is better settled than brown too if that helps. Do invest in the bands and make sure they're on the right point, I think it may subdue it a bit. Its no fun fir sure, I was finding it really disrupting my day to day stuff, which upset me more as I have little chap starting school in sept and I need to be functioning properly for that!! Biggest hugz to you. x

Midge I thought that but it just makes me feel sick first thing when I wake!! So going to just take my multivitamin which has 200mg folic acid in and then its topped up with cereal and wheat products during the day that way its not all at once!! But thanks for the suggestion!

Apprentice, gotta love the mumma's help, its a godsend when they're available to help isnt it!! Ahhh yeah that's probably uterus stretching as baby will be putting on weight and length quite rapidly now, I vaguely remember that with ds!! A week Monday your scan isnt it hopefully that week will go quickly!!

Well ive still not heard from midwife yet and I left another msg on answer phone! ! Getting a bit impatient now may have to ring docs to see whether she's on holiday. According to the Secretary at the doctors she said the doctor normally can provide a pink slip for a request of early dating scan so that gets the ball rolling? ! It would be nice to know whats going on! !

How is everyone else? Where are all the other ladies about? All ok I hope!! :0)

I've got some of the travel bands. £1 in Savers! Total bargain. Not sure if they're in the right place yet I will check online when I get home. But so far I'm sat having a hot chocolate in Starbucks with ds and don't feel too bad.

Spent a lot of the morning retching. Not being sick much but I think there isn't enough in there. So fx for the bands!

Nice one Bart, things are looking uou thenhopefully. Having a fly forty winks in front of Thomas after a mainly productive day toilet training (apart from the shit on the carpet). I'm fucking suck of the sight of Thomas but it seems to calm ds down

Oh Bart that seems a positive thing :0) yayh I really hope they work out for you, they have stopped me from being completely scared of food, im still cautious but feel a bit better. The other thing I found online was sparkling plain water. Got some value stuff thr other day, used it today and it has been a god send! ! It sayd on my bands that you place the dot bit three fingers down measuring from your first crease on your wrist, it should be in between the two tendons that run down your arm. I hope that helps, its called the Nei Kuan point I think!

Apprentice sounds like you've had an interesting day fir sure!! Glad the toilet training is on its way and progressing well! :0) I hope its all sorted in no time. The only confort I can give you is that it seems like total pants when you're doing it but when you look back you'll think actually that it wasnt as bad as you think it nay have been!! I thought it was horrendous at the time, but looking back I can only vaguely remember parts of it now!!

Hows all the other ladies on here doing?

Well managed to get a hold of the midwife today who had started doing things on my behalf yesterday. Which benefitted me greatly today because it meant I could ring through and book my early dating scan today! Its for this Thursday coming, which is fab! So hopefully will know more then!! She also booked my booking in appointment for this wednesday coming which is fabby!! Im still getting some nausea but trying to manage it as best I possibly can. Feeling quite tired lately so alll fun and games!

Quick question sorry if tmi, ive started getting sone dark hairs round my nipples just odd ones, I dont remember having those when pg with ds, anyone else? ?

I am so random!!

Hi abibub. Good to hear nausea is improving and hopefully same for Bart. Hope booking scan goes well also . I am always so impressed at your lengthy and thoughtful replies! Another weekend of pooper scooping birthday party and playdate . Mums been a star but energy is coming back. The title to this thread is so appropriate. Met my sil yesterday, I let my mil tell her as suspected negative reaction. She spent the first five minutes telling me about her new outfit before acknowledging the pg and even then it was v brief, didn't even ask me how I was keeping/scans which I'm sorry I think would be the expected response. She is clearly disapproving (dh is 47 and it's his fifth our dc2 though) or jealous (our dc are same age ) . That and a couple of other conversations have got my back up. People can be so judgy and I don't have time for it. But then I do think are we crazy for having a second. Panic! dh and I have terrible relationships with our sisters and it's hardly selling the idea of sibling friendship. sorry just needing to rant and could do with some kind words from you ladies. xxx

Hey apprentice!

That sounds so insensitive of your sil. Just goes to show that you know what she's like if you're needing support from mil to tell her the information. If someone was telling me that news I would be over the moon and asking all about how they were doing! I just dont get some people! And it really doesnt matter how old DH is and how many kids in total he has, the main thing this is your second child together, and you are both over the moon about having another and you will love this child just as much as any of your other children and thats all that matters! ! The concern you have about sibling relationships will soon pass im sure because you are both aware of it it will be something you will concentrate on making sure its alright!

Bart, how you feeling lovely? And how about the other ladies on this thread?

So the nausea not completely under control, was doing well, but over the weekend and yesterday ive fekt awful. Im not sure I have got the right point in my wrist using the bands, and I keep getting nervous about what to eat!! Im finding it really difficult to know what to eat normally im good at going with my body's instincts but atm im not sure! So just thinking of things I can have. Im more of a savory person and sweet doesn't settle very well in the mornings for sure. People have suggested things like rice cakes and pretzels as nibble type things. Ive had two slices of dried white toast which is ok, am getting hungry again. Any ideas lovely ladies? Feel very sleepy again!

How are you all feeling? x

Sorry I've been a bit absent ladies, I've just been feeling so bloody awful! I don't think the bands have made a difference really, I've worn them constantly since I got them, but forgot to put them back on today after my shower and feel no different. I might just give up on them as they irritate my wrists.

It's almost impossible for me to eat anything on a morning abi I've tried ginger biscuits, cereals, crackers (dont like rice cakes though) i managed 2 small pains au chocolates yesterday mid morning but the thought of them made me feel ill today. the only thing I've been able to manage today was an ice lolly, and that didnt stat down. And I managed and quite enjoyed a cup of soup for my dinner, but that didnt stay down either!

I mentioned it to the midwife at my pre booking session thingy, and they said to take the tablets the doctor prescribed. They checked the name of them aswell and said they are totally fine! Why couldn't the doctor just say that last week rather than umming and ahhing about them?! So I will take one tonight and see if they help tomorrow.

Good luck for your appt and your scan this week abi I'm glad you are managing to control the nausea a little.

apprentice I wouldn't worry about your sil too much. As long as you and dh are happy that's all that matters. Sod the rest of them! How many weeks are you now?

Hello sickly ladies. I'm pretty lucky by comparison just mainly dry retching and mainly morning . I do know that yogurt and yogurt drink seems to help . Milk. Jacobs cream crackers and Philly. Jamaica ginger. And lots of toast. Thanks for your feedback re my SIL. Valued your kind words, usually tougher but pretty weak at dealing with crap with hormones. Also bc things have now deteriorated so much with one of my sisters since April (the only aunt who we thought had a good relationship with and who showed an interest and had been v good to ds) there's a lot of sadness that I can't share the news with my own two sisters. The other sister has a longstanding dislike of usand was so uninterested last time abnounced pg. However our kids are blessed with amazing grandparents siblings and surrogate aunts uncles and really ...sod toxic /uninterested sisters. Time to focus on our babies now. btw twelve weeks scan next Monday

Sorry to hear about the nausea, bartbaby apprenticemamma and abibub . Wish I had some suggestions/advice but it sounds like you have tried so many things :-( Hoping the meds work, bartbaby.

Just waiting for my 20w scan now-feeling very impatient!

I'm so jealous of you both having your scans shortly! I'm only 7 weeks so still have ages to wait! I still don't think it seems real until you seem the little bean there on the screen. (Although it is hard to miss with the sickness!)

We've got a weeks holiday away though in September so hopefully the time will pass quicker

oooh smidge are u going to find out what you are having?

Hey ladies!

Bartbaby the nausea for me is horrid in the mornings. I tried plain white bread toast dry and it did help a little but I got hungry then nauseous really easily. Im gonna try rice cakes tomorrow morning see if that helps. Apparently pink grape fruit it supposed to help a good amount bc although its citrus it actually turns the acidity in the stomach to alkaline making you feel less nauseous. So may try that after dry toast or rice cakes when I've managed to buy some the nausea is actually stopping me from getting on with things which is really frustrating. So sorry to hear you're having such a tough time with it the sickness you have my complete sympathies. I really hope that the tablets work for you, will you let me know how you get on with them? Fx tgey are just what you need. I think im going to ask for a prescription of those as I am really worrying about when it comes to getting ds ready and to school in 2weeks time when he starts primary. :0/ they might just be what I need. I hope that the hols away in september is just what you need! :0)

Thanks midge! Its just trying to work out whats best and it doesn't help when you're afraid to eat most things just for the pure fear you're gonna bring them back up again!! So exciting about the scan for you, when us it? Did you say you were going to find out what flavour?

Apprentice, so excited for your 12 week scan!! Hopefully your dry wretching etc will soon end!!

Hey, does anyone know where all the other ladies on the thread have gone? ??

x

pregnancy such a waiting game Bart . I'm looking forward to the scan though apprehensive about the Nuchal testing as we r older. I'm really wanting to find out what having though...it's killing me the not knowing. I'm happy either way...ok ...secretly might prefer a girl ever so slightly ... How people keep it a surprise till the end is beyond my impatient ways !!

So I took my tablet last night, still felt a little sick when I woke up numerous times in the night to go pee. I still feel sicky this morning, but its the manageable nausea, not the uncontrollable cant get anything done or move out of the bathroom one. So it's great so far! I've even managed half a pain au chocolate for breakfast and some exotic juice. I only have one before bed so I hope it lasts all day. I feel so different it's really brilliant so far.

abi aswell as these I've seen the names of a few others mentioned on the April thread (have you been on there at all? The ladies are lovely and most of them are feeling pants with the sickness aswell) so I would definately ask your midwife. Is it today you see her? Maybe they can give you a list of some of the ones that they think are ok for us to have. I think they know what they are talking about with this kind of the thing more than general gp's do.

apprentice I'm sure everything will be ok for you at the scan. Everything about pregnancy is worrying. First it's the ttc, then once pg it's hoping it sticks, then hoping it develops ok, then hoping the birth is ok. It just doesn't end I think I would secretly like a girl aswell, so that we have one of each. But I'd be happy with a boy aswell. It would be nice for ds to have a brother and hopefully be interested in similar things. And I've got this feeling that it will be a boy. I've even referred to it as a he without realising a few times. Do you have any feelings what you think? I know it's impossible to really know. But with ds I sort of felt like it was a boy. When we first started the scan the woman said she thinks its a girl but would go back and check at the end, and it just didnt feel right, then when she checked and it was a boy, it did feel right. Although I don't think I got that feeling last time until a week or so before the scan so might still be a bit early for us yet!

Hey!

Bart thats great that you are starting to feel better!! I hope it continues to get better and better! I am so asking for them as I just cant function!! I was sick this morning and I hadn't even eaten anything so was horrid :0 ( just wish the feeling would stop. Yes, tis today, Looking forward to my booking appointment this afternoon! Then I can see if I can get these tabs too!! I will have a lookon the april thread in a bit maybe, but it would be lovely to have sone of the usuals on here too!!

Hows the other ladies doing? x

Hey

Hows everyone getting on? Still got nausea, have got antisickness tabs but reluctant to take them if I can help it because I just want to see how I go, does that sound silly? Had midwife appointment wed it went well got my notes all set up, and she is lovely and very efficiant! Went for early dating scan yesterday and awwwwwww! Only 1little bean thank goodness I secretly hoping for a pink bean rather than blue but will probably end up having blue!! Im 8+6 today so we were spot on even though cycles were up the shoot!?! Also managed to book a 12week scan too for sept 16th for combined!! It was so cute to see little bean at that stage. Ds was so excited he grinned and did an excited body shake! ! And we saw the heart beat bleeting away was sooooo cute! Makes it all the more real!! :0)

How is everyone? x

Hello everyone!

How are you all doing? abi sorry to hear you are still feeling sick. That's really crap. Yay for a great scan! The time until your 12 week one will fly in.

bart hope the tablets continue to help make you feel better. Very jealous of your holiday!

smidge How did your 20 week scan go? I had mine this week and found out we are having a DD. So excited! I always pictured myself with 2 DSs but now we will have one of each which will be just lovely. The scan was so clear and I actually shed a little tear after (I am not usually very emotional!). Everyhing looks perfect and dates are matching so now it's full steam ahead to get DSs new room ready as I am sure the next 19 weeks (or less..DS was nearly 3 weeks early!) will fly by.

Good luck for mon apprentice. Sorry to hear you are having family issues but soon you'll have your hands too full to even think about it all.

Hi to everyone else - hope you're all blooming and blossoming!

Hello winter! !! So glad to hear from you!! :0)

Thats wonderful news about your scan and that you're going to be having a DD Eeeeeeeek! I would love a DD this time thay way we would have one of each too, but i bet we will end up with another boy! How was your nausea this time compared to the last time with ds? I only ask as apparently women suffer worse nausea with dd than ds earlier on! Im so excited for you!!
The nausea is worse in the mornings for me, but hoping that it will be the first trimester where I have tge worse of it. I cant have milk very well at the moment so dry toast and rice cakes in the morning and not really sny milk at all at the moment which I really miss!! Hoping that will subside soon :0/

How are you all doing? x