Nervous nutjobs pregnant with no.2

[winterpansy]

Hello,
Just set up this wee thread for the nutjob graduates. I am hoping all our lovely thread dwellers will be on here very soon.

We should do some stats. I'll kick off:

winterpansy 1 DS edd January 5th
gemmeg
nomoreminibreaks
mummytothearkbuilder

Hi gemmeg it's quite reassuring to hear you also haven't got full blown sickness too!! I find if I don't eat regularly then I feel a bit queasy - mid morning and mid afternoon but that's it. I was so worried I posted in the pregnancy section today and there were quite a few replies from people saying they didn't have any symptoms so I'm trying to be logical!! X

Hi ladies!

The bug has now passed... on to DH! I'm back to just the pregnancy nausea now, which is a relief following the weekend. Thanks for the support though, I needed it!

Mummy I know Friday must feel like a long wait but I bet it'll be fine. Really you're just having the same as your first pregnancy and that all turned out well so fingers crossed! Think of all those women who don't find out until they're 5/6/9(!) months pregnant - they couldn't have had any symptoms either. I know it's not always as simple as 'thinking positive' but logic says it should be ok.

Morning all!!!

Mummy - thesis the stage when I start to get nervous too. The minor nausea I've felt has gone and I've stopped feeling pregnant. I keep telling myself that I haven't had any anti-pregnancy symptoms either, ie. no AF, no pains but its hard isn't it?

One thing I seemed to have developed is a pain that runs from my left bum cheek down my leg. Bit of googling suggests it might be something called Pelvic Girdle Pain. Has anyone had this before?

2be I had that with DS so it does exist. I've been getting it now too after exercise (who says sport's good for you?!).

I haven't had it 2be but my friend had something similar in her pregnancy.

I am literally counting down the hours to Friday - I've had no pain or bleeding so things must be okay - surely xx

Hi all. Was on the previous nut jobs thread and got my BFP earlier this week.

Yay smidge welcome!! I'm not sure about the others but I am just as much of a nut job since getting my BFP xx

Posted too soon! Mummy try not to worry, as 2be says no anti-preg symptoms either. Hope you're feeling better nomore?

Welcome asmidge! Yes feeling better thanks, in fact today I've hardly felt anything and was slightly nervous about that!

I should probably say - I started a thread the other day about one to one midwives - available on the NHS they offer one midwife all the way through pregnancy (including appointments at home and scans), birth (home birth or they will support you in hospital) and 6 weeks after. Here's a link to their website

I'm signed up as they've just started here but wanted to spread the word. I had a difficult birth and PND with DS and feel really positive that I'll have someone who understands what happened last time and why I'm already anxious about this pregnancy. She's going to bring me some books on hypnobirthing to see what I think and has said we'll spend time dealing with my anxieties. It sounds too good to be true!

Oh nomore I will take a look - I also had PND with DS - no bonding issues at all between the two of us it was just the massive amount of pressure I put on myself to be 'perfect' - it is something I am worried about with this pregnancy too (something else to worry about!!) xx

I meant to say mummy they're not everywhere just in certain places but I don't know where! I was just told about them by a friend.

Had a look nomore and don't think they are in my area - I'm in Cambridgeshire - it does look like an excellent service xx

Hi asmidge!! Pleased we've got more nut jobs joining!!

I haven't heard from midwives yet - do you think I should chase? Doctors appt was last week and she said they would contact me, I'm 9 wks on Friday.

Wow that looks like a great service-am going to look and see if they're in my area (Notts); also had and and pnd with my first...

2beornot - yes, I'd give them a ring x

nomore you mentioned hypnobirthing....I practised that with DS and I had a fantastic birth experience. Completely drug free (they don't really do drugs here in Austria anyway) and all managed with proper breathing and visualisation techniques. I bought the Maggie Howell book & cd and recommend it to anyone who's expecting. Even if you're not into the whole hypnobirthing thing, the book itself is really interesting (I'm a geek like that) and explains how it has come to be that many women are so afraid of giving birth. It's very empowering. I went from terror to excitement just by reading the book and using the cd.

Thanks gemmeg. I have to admit I didn't like the look of hypnobirthing when I first heard about it - it sounded a bit lentil-weaving for me! This time I'd like to be more open minded, plus I'm bringing all the fear from the first birth with me and so techniques to deal with that will come in handy. I'll certainly look into the book you mentioned if its not one of those the midwife brings.

mummy any news?

I'm going to phone doctors tomorrow - don't have number for midwives.

Hi ladies

Scan tomorrow morning and we are petrified!! I am fairly certain it is too early to see a heartbeat - I think with my long cycles and hormone levels at the lower end of the scale I am expecting my dates to go backwards slightly. I am so scared x

Mummy don't be scared! I'm no expert but there's no reason to think that anything's gone wrong is there? If you didn't have many symptoms with DS then all you've got so far is a very similar pregnancy. Might not be any use but try to stay positive xxx

I can understand why people are put off hypnobirthing nomore. The name makes it sound a bit airy fairy but actually it's more about learning deep relaxation techniques through correct breathing and using your mind to see pain in a different way.

Good luck for tomorrow mummy! I was only 5 wks 5 days when I had my scan and saw a heartbeat. How far along do you think you are?

I've felt completely wiped out today and proper queasy. My OH is in bewilderment as I've turned down his every offer of a brew....just do not fancy it at all which is so weird for me!

Thanks guys - so nervous!! Don't know how I will sleep tonight!!

gemmeg I have long irregular cycles so it can be hard to date my pregnancies - not sure how far I am anywhere between 5-6 weeks - I think I'm closer to 5 than 6 though. I guess we will see tomorrow.

I wish I had learnt a few more relaxing techniques for my labour with Noah - it was 36hrs and I ended up with an epidural and an assisted delivery with 7 additional people in the room - it was all totally necessary and for the sake of Noah but I always wonder whether a more relaxing labour would have meant I was less likely to get PND - basically because I had an epidural I felt like I had failed straight away (I harped on all through my pregnancy about not having drugs!!).
Xxx

Sorry mummy thought it was today (is it too early to blame baby brain?). Good luck for tomorrow. I'm sure it will be fine and you'll hear a lovely little heartbeat!!

I'm generally quite calm and level headed and coupled with a cooperative baby meant it was a lovely experience. Is it weird to be looking forward to doing it again?!

1hr and 10mins to go - I am petrified. I just want everything to be okay :-(

Fingers crossed for you mummy