Wow, a new thread!
seasalt I really hope you can relax and enjoy your holiday. If you're not sick from chicken by now, you'll be fine. Just think, even if you feel rubbish, it's better feeling rubbish in Bali than on the commute to work/ walking to the bus in the rain/ trying to sit through a meeting 
great news on the scans everyone, especially berri
panda your aunt sounds bonkers, what a thing to say!! How did your other family members react to that? Try not to stew over it, it is clearly her issue.
beaut I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Have you managed to talk to your DH? I'm guessing if you haven't told him, you haven't accessed any help before. I really hope you can feel brave enough to tell the midwife (you probably won't be the first person she's seen with this problem) becuase with an ED I think it's quite helpful to have someone to talk to and to have some coping strategies on hand for when things get tough. Would it help you to make a healthy diet plan, maybe with a nutritionist, an just stick to that? Taking the decision-making out of eating is quite good when you're battling with food issues.
As a first timer, I have not thought much about a birth plan yet... kind of sticking my head in the sand! I have a book called 'Birth Skills' by Juju Sindin which a friend gave to me. She also gave one on hypnobirthing which has some hilarious (and amazing) pictures in... think everyone naked, very 70s hairstyles!!