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Two years ago today my husband died, today is trifle day.

92 replies

onlyjoking9329 · 09/06/2010 10:21

some of you may remember that Steve died two years ago today.
tonight me and the kids will be raising a spoon of trifle, blowing bubbles and we have some sky lanterns that we are going to write messages on before letting them drift up into the sky.

OP posts:
andiem · 09/06/2010 17:51

OJ I too recognised you from the trifle in the title. Enjoy it and I will be thinking of you tonight x

squeaver · 09/06/2010 17:51

Good grief, two years. That's amazing.

So many people still thinking of you, oj. What a wonderful impact Steve had.

silverfrog · 09/06/2010 17:52

thinking of you, oj,and yuor family.

bizarrely, I had trifle for lunch today - I wouldn't normally, don't know why I picked it, but how apt

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 09/06/2010 17:53

I hadn't remembered the date but for some reason yesterday I really wanted to text you but felt silly. Who is this mad person texting me out of the blue . I did that last year didn't I? Shame I am always a day out .

Thinking of you [smiley hugs]

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 09/06/2010 17:55

exexpat - never too late to do anything that helps.

BudaisintheZONE · 09/06/2010 17:56

Two years. Gosh.

No trifle to hand but thinking of you and your family.

gherkinwithapurplemerkin · 09/06/2010 17:58

Gosh OJ,can't believe its been 2 years.

Enjoy your little commemoration .

MABS · 09/06/2010 18:19

much love x

corblimeymadam · 09/06/2010 18:24

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waitingforbedtime · 09/06/2010 18:27

I wasnt around back then but it sounds like a lovely way to remember your dh.

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onlyjoking9329 · 09/06/2010 18:56

Thanks for all your kind messages, it's odd but as time moves on I'm worried people will forget Steve, I have made lots of new friends over the last two years who of course never knew him.
It's chucking it down here and not likely to stop so looks like bubbles and sky lanterns will have to wait.

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DecorHate · 09/06/2010 19:05

I also can't believe it's two years. People will remember him, maybe not necessarily what day his anniversary falls on, but times they spent with him.
I still often think of a little girl I knew as a child, she was an only child who died when she was 6, almost 40 years ago....

LIZS · 09/06/2010 19:07

wow 2 years on already. Hope today has gone ok and savour the trifle.

nappyzoneloveschinesefood · 09/06/2010 19:09

raises a spoon - blimey 2 years already!

tibni · 09/06/2010 19:10

I remember too. Sending you and your children lots of love on this special day of memories.

Meglet · 09/06/2010 20:53

I remember. Love to you all x

SagacityNell · 09/06/2010 20:57

Gosh 2 years.

Thinking of you all xx

MummyDoIt · 09/06/2010 20:58

I remember your courage, OJ. You coped amazingly well. Your ritual sounds lovely and I hope the rain lets up long enough for you to have your bubbles and lantern. Love to you and the children.

toccatanfudge · 09/06/2010 21:00

Thinking of you OJ

strangely enough we did have trifle today (I never buy trifle usually but picked some up at the shop earlier!).

Hulababy · 09/06/2010 21:00

Thinking of you all x

PussinJimmyChoos · 09/06/2010 21:03

Thinking of you all OJ and sending unMumsnet hugs

Disenchanted3 · 09/06/2010 21:05

Thinking of you, the kids and Steve x

TrinityTrinityTrinity · 09/06/2010 21:05

thinking of you OJ xxx

onepieceoflollipop · 09/06/2010 21:06

I remember too OJ.

Love to you and your family.

I think (iirc) you might like a little glass of rum too, to go with the trifle?

xx

MavisGrind · 09/06/2010 21:07

I remember too OJ and thought of you when I saw trifle in the title.

Can't believe it's two years already. Thinking of you and your family.