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My wonderful Dad has passed away...

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 19/08/2009 19:31

Today at 10:05am after a battle with lung cancer, my wonderful Dad passed away. He was 77 and had fought since October last year a battle we knew he wouldn't win.

Dad was so handsome in life, but looked thin and tired in his sick bed, but his handsome features returned after death. I wish I could share that face with you all.

I know I'm rambling now, so I'll leave it there until later on.

I am sad and upset, but the broken heartedness I have felt over the last few months has gone ~ at least for now.

Thanks for reading.

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foxinsocks · 19/08/2009 19:32

I'm so sorry Solo x

LuluMaman · 19/08/2009 19:35

I am very , very sorry to hear of your loss. How wonderful you last memory will be of him looking as handsome as he did before he was sick.

wishing you strength at this difficult time

TalkIsCheap · 19/08/2009 19:36

I am so sorry for your loss

sybilfaulty · 19/08/2009 19:37

I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you and your family strength in the weeks to come

differentDM · 19/08/2009 19:38

Solo, I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad that he doesn't have to stand the pain any more or that you see him in that pain.

I know what you mean about his face. My dad's was the same. The lines of pain smoothed away and just the expression of peace.

God bless x

dizzymare · 19/08/2009 19:39

I'm so sorry to hear this Solo

Therevchasesducks · 19/08/2009 19:40

so sorry for your loss.
I lost my Dad recently and it is so hard, sending you love

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 19/08/2009 19:46

I am so sorry.

TrinityRhino · 19/08/2009 19:46

so sorry to hear of your loss

he is no longer suffering

I wish you all the strength at this awful time

xxx

EachPeachPearMum · 19/08/2009 19:49

So sorry for you loss Solo.

elkiedee · 19/08/2009 20:48

Sorry Solo

Jumente · 19/08/2009 21:12

oh darling I hoped this wouldn't be you

I'm so sorry he's gone, what a brave fight though.

Take care of yourself now won't you xxx

LedodgyDailyMailstinksofpoo · 19/08/2009 21:13

So sorry. x

LilRedWG · 19/08/2009 21:59

I am so sorry SOLO. Few words will help you, but please know that we are all here for you.

xxx

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 19/08/2009 23:44

Thank you all for your kind words.

I have had 2 experiences this evening with 'smells' and after the first one, something brshed down my arm whilst I was driving.

I'm extremely tired now having been awake since 10am on Tuesday with just one hours sleep between 2 and 3:07 this morning...if I've made any sense at all here

LilRed, how are you coping? I do think of you from time to time. I do hope you are well.

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cathcat · 20/08/2009 00:36

I'm so sorry.

bellavita · 20/08/2009 01:11

I am sorry for your loss

LilRedWG · 20/08/2009 12:28

SOLO - when you feel ready, please feel free to come and chat on this thread here. Also, if you need to chat offboard you can email me at [email protected].

I also had a couple of times when I could smell my Dad at the bottom of our staircase. It was wonderful and comforting.

xx

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 21/08/2009 00:49

Thank you

LilRed, I will ~ thank you.x

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DrNortherner · 23/08/2009 18:05

Really sorry to hear this solo. My lovely dad died in April, there are many of us on mumsnet on this awful, relentless journey of grief.

Sending you lots of strength.
xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 23/08/2009 18:14

So sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad.

Remember even though he isin't physically here he will never leave you - he will always be helping you and looking after you xx

anastasia74 · 23/08/2009 20:17

So sorry for your loss.
I lost my Dad recently and it is so hard.

It has helped me tremendously talking about my feelings and getting support on here.

It does help to know you are not alone.

Sending hugs.

SalVolatile · 23/08/2009 21:58

Hi Solo, the loss is a terrible shock, even when you think that - rationally - you are expecting it. I am sooo glad your dad looked peaceful after death as that will be a great comfort to you, believe me. >

GivePeasAChance · 23/08/2009 22:05

Solo - sorry to hear what happened to your dad. Cancer really is a cruel and heartless disease.

My dad died from cancer just a month ago..........and it ravaged him too. I can remember him the way he was now though which is nice.

I guess you will have the funeral to contend with this week. I found the thought worse than the reality............I hope it goes OK.

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 23/08/2009 23:57

Peas, the funeral wont be until the week after next and Mum wants it to be on the Friday I say earlier in the week as the Dc's will be going back to school on the 7th/8th. My Ds will be starting secondary and I think it will be very raw and fresh in his mind if it is just 3 days before school...

I couldn't remember what Dad sounded like yesterday and that just broke me up. Why couldn't I? we talked every single day; long conversations...
I saved a couple of answer phone messages from earlier in the year and played them last night...God, I miss him

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