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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

Bereavement

My wonderful Dad has passed away...

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 19/08/2009 19:31

Today at 10:05am after a battle with lung cancer, my wonderful Dad passed away. He was 77 and had fought since October last year a battle we knew he wouldn't win.

Dad was so handsome in life, but looked thin and tired in his sick bed, but his handsome features returned after death. I wish I could share that face with you all.

I know I'm rambling now, so I'll leave it there until later on.

I am sad and upset, but the broken heartedness I have felt over the last few months has gone ~ at least for now.

Thanks for reading.

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 10/09/2009 00:06

Thank you. I'm very proud of Ds.

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etchasketch · 09/09/2009 12:29

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Gemzie1 · 09/09/2009 10:10

I'm really sorry to hear that. You're having a rough time at the minute aren't you?

Take care x

SOLOisMeredithGrey · 09/09/2009 09:30

Thanks Gemzie. My Dad was my seveth loss either directly or indirectly since December. Three out of four of my best girlfriends lost their mums. My MIL went, two cousins and finally Dad...It's a very sad time all around and I'm sorry for your loss also. If you and your Dad were half as close as me and mine...

And I just found out one of my cousins Grandma's has passed away too.

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Gemzie1 · 09/09/2009 09:14

I'm am so sorry for your loss.

I lost my dad in July and reading your words brought tears to my eyes. I miss him so much.

Reading the threads on here, i can't believe how many people have lost someone recently and that so many people are feeling what i am feeling.

Love to everyone who is in the same situation x

SOLOisMeredithGrey · 08/09/2009 23:24

Thanks marmaduke. It was an absolutely first class funeral. Very original and very classy. I managed to write and read my eulogy to Dad without crying, though it was a close thing. Ds read a poem out and had flooded eyes and running mascara everywhere from friends and family. It was lovely.

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 31/08/2009 20:22

LittlePushka, I'm so sorry that you will join us in this sadness soon...it is not a pleasant experience watching someone fade and die, but the relief is wonderful. I know that sounds awful, but you will I'm quite certain understand me when the time comes. I didn't ever in my wildest dreams think I'd feel like that, but I did and do. It is still a sad ending to a life, but they stop suffering the moment they give away their last breath and that certainly gives me a sense of peace. My Dad suffers no more. thank God for that.

Saucepanman. Thank you. I wish that each and every MNetter could've met my Dad. He was a truly gentle gentleman, quiet, unassuming. Deeply private and extra ordinarily sensitive. He shed tears at news reports about our troops being killed and Baby P; he cried buckets over him. My Dad really cared about people. You'd have loved him.

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Saucepanman · 31/08/2009 01:25

Solo I have only just seen this and felt compelled to post- I am so sorry about your Dad. You speak beautiful words about him and your love and bond is evident. Wishing you peace, thank you for sharing these words about him with us xxx

LittlePushka · 31/08/2009 01:15

Dear Solo and Peas and everyone,

I expect to lose my Dad from cancer imminently. Like anastacia and others, it gives me HUGE comfort to read threads such as these (though I rarely post on them),...so thank you for sharing your thoughts.

SOLOisMeredithGrey · 28/08/2009 21:22

Hi elkiedee. I'm ok thank you. Yesterday was a bit tearful, as was Wednesday, but I am ok. Loads to do.

I actually had some time for me last night and was lucky enough to get involved with a paranormal investigation. Mum had the Dc's and I took lots of pictures and got lots of orbs! really good fun.
We want to see if Dad is still around, so will take some photo's in the house.

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elkiedee · 28/08/2009 10:41

Morning Solo, how are you feeling today, or whenever you read this?

SOLOisMeredithGrey · 27/08/2009 00:34

Thank you.

Marmaduke, he was a very kind, patient and gentle gentleman. Really lovely. Not a single person that ever met him didn't fall in love with him IYKWIM.
It's strange and terrible, but he was always a very slim built man and at the time that photograph was taken, he was very frail and had lost a huge amount of weight...it was impossible to consider that he could lose any more weight, but he did...he was just skin and bones at the end ~ it really pained me to see him that way, but he couldn't swallow; even water was difficult for him to swallow, so food was almost impossible and became totally impossible in the last week. So sad

I really appreciate the support and kindness on this thread ~ thank you all. I'm just sorry that I don't feel very supportive in return at the moment. I do wish you all well though.x

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abra1d · 26/08/2009 16:52

I am so sorry.

bellavita · 26/08/2009 16:48

Your post has brought tears to my eyes.

for you and your family.

Bless your DS, what a big day for him...

SOLOisMeredithGrey · 26/08/2009 01:11

Dads funeral will be on September 7th ~ the day Ds starts secondary school so it will be a very mixed bag of emotions for him that day. He'll go in for a couple of hours and then he'll sport his brand new school uniform to the funeral and I know my Dad will be watching and will be so proud of his youngest Grandson. Dad was thrilled to bits when Ds got into a grammar school.

I miss my Dad so much

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SOLOisMeredithGrey · 24/08/2009 00:11

Thank you BIWI.

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BecauseImWorthIt · 24/08/2009 00:04

So sorry.

The memory thing will change, and you'll find that you can remember what he looked like/sounded like.

Take care of yourself.

SOLOisMeredithGrey · 23/08/2009 23:57

Peas, the funeral wont be until the week after next and Mum wants it to be on the Friday I say earlier in the week as the Dc's will be going back to school on the 7th/8th. My Ds will be starting secondary and I think it will be very raw and fresh in his mind if it is just 3 days before school...

I couldn't remember what Dad sounded like yesterday and that just broke me up. Why couldn't I? we talked every single day; long conversations...
I saved a couple of answer phone messages from earlier in the year and played them last night...God, I miss him

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GivePeasAChance · 23/08/2009 22:05

Solo - sorry to hear what happened to your dad. Cancer really is a cruel and heartless disease.

My dad died from cancer just a month ago..........and it ravaged him too. I can remember him the way he was now though which is nice.

I guess you will have the funeral to contend with this week. I found the thought worse than the reality............I hope it goes OK.

SalVolatile · 23/08/2009 21:58

Hi Solo, the loss is a terrible shock, even when you think that - rationally - you are expecting it. I am sooo glad your dad looked peaceful after death as that will be a great comfort to you, believe me. >

anastasia74 · 23/08/2009 20:17

So sorry for your loss.
I lost my Dad recently and it is so hard.

It has helped me tremendously talking about my feelings and getting support on here.

It does help to know you are not alone.

Sending hugs.

shabbapinkfrog · 23/08/2009 18:14

So sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad.

Remember even though he isin't physically here he will never leave you - he will always be helping you and looking after you xx

DrNortherner · 23/08/2009 18:05

Really sorry to hear this solo. My lovely dad died in April, there are many of us on mumsnet on this awful, relentless journey of grief.

Sending you lots of strength.
xxx

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