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8 days after losing my daughter

50 replies

Theoldwoman · 14/11/2024 12:42

The pain is worse than anything imaginable.

OP posts:
healthybychristmas · 14/11/2024 12:49

Oh how terrible for you. I'm so sorry. 💐

AgathaMystery · 14/11/2024 12:50

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you much love - there are hundreds of women here who will support you and listen if you want to talk about your girl xxx

IfYouLook · 14/11/2024 12:51

I am so sorry for your loss. So sorry. I can’t imagine the pain.

Wayk · 14/11/2024 13:00

I am so so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself. Seek help from GP. Cry it will release some pain. Thinking of you. No parents should bury their child

raspberryripplecheesecake · 14/11/2024 13:59

I am so, so sorry, my heart is going out to you and sending you love xxx

KylieKangaroo · 14/11/2024 14:31

I am so so sorry for you. You must be in the most awful pain x

roosterroo · 14/11/2024 18:41

so sorry for your loss, be kind to yourself x

MamaBobo · 14/11/2024 18:47

So sorry for your loss. It’s against the natural order of things, to lose a child, no matter what their age. My brother died when he was just 17 and my parents were crushed. The pain is beyond imagining but it will eventually ease a little, and then a little more. One day it will be bearable. Meantime, be kind to yourself. Do whatever helps you through the day. Let yourself be sad, angry, rage at the world, remember your daughter in all her precious moments. Just keep going.

Cece92 · 14/11/2024 22:09

I am so so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Sending you love and hugs xxx

DeliciousApples · 14/11/2024 22:47

❤️

Pigeon123456 · 14/11/2024 22:49

As a bereaved parent myself, I am so deeply sorry.

Raindropskeepfallinonmyhead · 14/11/2024 22:55

So sorry op.
Would you like to tell us about her at all? Xxx

GoldenPineapple15 · 15/11/2024 18:18

I lost my daughter 4 years ago . Here if you need to talk. I am so sorry x

MrsJRHartley · 15/11/2024 18:20

I'm so sorry. I lost my daughter too. Tell us about her if you'd like to x

DressDilemma · 15/11/2024 18:23

I am so sorry xx

momtoboys · 15/11/2024 18:27

I am so very sorry.

Magehemela · 15/11/2024 18:34

Take each day, or each hour or minute, as it comes OP. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.

My son died seven years and there is no greater pain. Sending you so much love 💙

WeeOrcadian · 15/11/2024 18:35

I'm so sorry for your loss OP

If you'd like to tell us about her, we'd love to hear xx

AutumnLeaves24 · 15/11/2024 18:39

Big Hugs.

I'd love to hear about her, if want to tell us.

try to drink (not alcohol!) and at least nibble on things. Getting ill won't help you xx

LostittoBostik · 15/11/2024 18:43

I'm so sorry. The pain must be so awful.

You're in my thoughts this evening.

Would you like to tell us anything about your wonderful DD?

Marblesbackagain · 15/11/2024 18:43

So sorry op. Do you want to tell us a little about her or would you like some ideas for support?

Gettingtoooldfforthis · 15/11/2024 20:02

Thinking of you and trying to send a little support xx

Theoldwoman · 16/11/2024 13:00

Hi everyone

I have another post about her too, under a different name. It seems I have one username on my iPad (this one) and a hardly ever used one on my phone. When I first posted about her I was on my phone.

Some of you may have read my other post.

Ella was 21 years old, living with an eating disorder for 5 years. We are still waiting on the Autopsy results so unsure but she passed away suddenly on the 6th after being home from work for an hour. I found her collapsed on the toilet floor and did CPR along with her sister, paramedics arrived and worked on her for 40 minutes to no avail. She was gone when I found her.

Its a very difficult time but I’m trying to keep busy, keep my brain healthy so my brain can do the hard work to process all what has happened.

I would love to chat to those that have unfortunately found themselves in this horrible situation but honestly I’m very grateful for any support.

i am in Australia so times I post might be off for you.

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Lisanoonan · 16/11/2024 13:07

I send you love. Keep going!

BackinBlack24 · 16/11/2024 13:07

Oh OP I'm so very sorry I can't even contemplate your pain , I hope you are having counselling xxx