8 days after losing my daughter

[Theoldwoman]

The pain is worse than anything imaginable.

I really send you a hug and I really send you love.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter. My heart goes out to you.

The circumstances of her death and your attempts to save her sound particularly difficult. You were very brave to do that and I hope it brings some comfort in time that you did everything anyone could have done.

This is going to sound random but I suggest you and your other daughter play Tetris if you can. There is evidence it can interrupt the development of problematic traumatic memories. Obviously it’s not going to take away any of your pain. I’m not suggesting that. But it could be some protection for the future.

My stepson died in February aged just 16 so whilst I don't fully understand your emotions (dh does) I can wholeheartedly empathise.

If you want to talk direct feel free to pm me.

In the meantime, be kind to yourself, don't try and hold back on the emotions. Let them out.

Do whatever you need to do to get through this.

Sending love and hugs

I lost my daughter 4 yrs ago ,come xmas eve.
Every day ,I wish she would come back to us xx

So sorry for your loss. Sending love ❤️

So, so sorry dear..I have no more words...I can only think of you

I remember your original post about Ella. I’ve been thinking of you.
It took many years (nearly 20) before my mother was able to talk to me and my siblings about the loss of her son, our brother. The pain is something which I think is actually so vast you can’t really comprehend it/imagine it.
I remember reading about grief as something which remains always vast but your ability to carry it, the pure physical and mental strength that takes, grows. And it will. It is slow. Allow yourself the space. Be kind to yourself.

So sorry to hear about your daughter. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through x

So sorry ❤️ sending love and strength xxx

I'm so so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain of losing your beautiful child

Didn’t want to scroll by without expressing how sorry I am for your loss. Absolutely devastating. Look after yourself and your family. Sending love and hugs across the world.

Thinking of you @Theoldwoman

What an awful thing to happen. I'm so sorry.

I’m so sorry. My own daughter has some difficulties and just that fear is something I wouldn’t wish anyone else to experience. To have those fears realized is unimaginable.

I'm so sorry OP. 🥰

So so sorry for your loss

I'm so truly sorry for your unimaginable loss OP. You're in my thoughts tonight xx

How are you doing @Theoldwoman ? It’s nearly 6 years since my daughter died but I remember the raw, painful early days well. It would have been her birthday on Saturday.

Please PM if I can be a listening ear or you want to talk. As much as life changes forever, your world will grow around your grief, I promise. I’m so sorry about your dd and have been thinking about you since reading your other post.

I’m so so sorry for your loss 💐💐

I’m so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. My heart truly goes out to you.
i lost my daughter at a similar age,14 years ago so i understand the utter rawness of your pain. But one day lets hope we can smile and remember…
Our daughters are watching over us,
Try to make the life we are living worth watching

Hello

Yesterday, we buried Ella. It was a beautiful service with everyone wearing her favourite colour - yellow. Over 150 people came to honour her. At the burial we released 7 white doves. I miss my girl so so much, but she’s not suffering anymore. I’m sad of course, but trying to keep busy to stop my mind wandering too much. X

I’m so sorry, there are no words are there?
i hope you have kindness surrounding you in the days, months and years ahead.
Ella is a beautiful name xxx

That’s very traumatic. I’m sorry. Give her sister a cuddle when things feel unbearable.

I'm so sorry for your loss, I have 3 daughters myself and can't imagine the pain you're feeling :( no parent should have to live through losing a child x

So sorry for your loss OP. Sounds like Ella was very very loved 🌷

So sorry for your loss OP. Can not begin to imagine the pain you and your family are going through.
Sending love and hope that you and your family are getting all the support available to you .
❤️