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My lovely husband died today. He was 31.

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gillybean89 · 01/01/2023 20:18

My sweet, kind, wonderful husband died this morning. He was on his way to meet me and our children and was involved in a car accident. He was 31 and we have 2 DC aged 5 and 2. I am broken and lost and don't know where we go from here. He was my best friend in the whole world, my rock, my voice of reason, and the best dad I could have wished for for our children. Life is so cruel.

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danni0509 · 01/01/2023 21:21

I’m so sorry x

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 01/01/2023 21:21

My heart goes out to you and your children. Life can be so unfair. Sending my condolences

anewbook · 01/01/2023 21:21

So very very sorry for your loss x
💐

BuckarooBanzai · 01/01/2023 21:21

I'm just so sorry for your loss. I'm so glad you have support around you.

BabyFour2023 · 01/01/2023 21:22

I have been on a few of your previous threads and I’m devastated to read this tonight. Thinking of you and your children tonight @gillybean89 and sending the biggest hugs and huge amount of love. I’m glad your mum is staying.

hope too that it wasn’t your DHs colleagues who attended him today but if so; that they too have support.

How utterly devastating for you, I hope you manage some rest tonight.

GhostBridezilla · 01/01/2023 21:24

How truly awful. I am so sorry for your loss 💐

JackieQueen · 01/01/2023 21:25

I'm so sorry for your sad loss 💐

DownInTheDumpster · 01/01/2023 21:26

I’m so sorry @gillybean89

justmewithmylifetoday · 01/01/2023 21:26

Oh my gosh what a shock for you all. So sorry for your loss. Life is so unfair at times.

honeynougat · 01/01/2023 21:27

Hi Gilly, I'm so sorry you're in this awful situation.

My husband died age 33, just a few weeks ago. We have children, one a similar age to yours.

I joined the group WAY, that I've seen suggested on this thread and there's also a Facebook support group you can only join if you're a member of WAY. There's also a sub group called WAVY (windowed and very young) for under 35s for when you're ready.

I'd also be happy to talk to you as someone who's still in the early days but just a little bit further along, if you'd find that helpful Flowers

PermanentTemporary · 01/01/2023 21:27

Gillybean I'm so very sorry to hear this.

SaltedCaramelIcedLatte · 01/01/2023 21:28

I am so sorry for your loss x

BoreOfWhabylon · 01/01/2023 21:29

Oh my goodness, I am so very sorry for your dreadful loss Gillybean.
You and your children are in my thoughts Flowers

SuzyQ12 · 01/01/2023 21:29

Oh this is heartbreaking, I'm so sorry for your loss, he sounds like a wonderful man, husband and father

quietlycontent · 01/01/2023 21:31

Sorry for your loss that is so sad. I hope you can get the support you need in the short term sending you ❤️

NoWordForFluffy · 01/01/2023 21:31

I think this is local to me too.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Flowers

peachescariad · 01/01/2023 21:33

I don't know... I have no idea how my mum; who was 6 months pregnant with me and had my brother who was 3, carried on when my dad had a massive heart attack aged 32 and died instantly ...this is back in the mid 60s.
The resilience of the human form will never cease to amaze me.

Festivez · 01/01/2023 21:34

I am so sorry for your Loss Op 💐

GraceL365 · 01/01/2023 21:34

I am so very very sorry for what has happened. So dreadfully heartbreaking and even more so at such a young age and with children involved. I am thinking of you x

glasshole · 01/01/2023 21:35

I am so sorry to hear this, your and your poor kids and family. Your husband sounded like a wonderful man. If you would like to talk about him, tell us how you meet or any funny little stories about him I'm sure we would all love to hear about him. If not just know that he loved you all and you will get through this, no matter how unlikely it seems.

gogohmm · 01/01/2023 21:37

So sorry op, I read about this earlier today.

WAY (widowed and young) can offer you targetted support and please reach out to your community who will want to help you. So sad

MadisonAvenue · 01/01/2023 21:38

I’m so sorry for your loss, life is so unfair.

Tickledpickle · 01/01/2023 21:40

Oh op, I’m so very sorry xx

OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside · 01/01/2023 21:56

I'm so so sorry to read this / sending big virtual hugs to you and your children.
Sometimes there are no words 😶 xx

ShinyPikachu · 01/01/2023 22:02

I'm so sorry. Flowers

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