I've just heard that my 41 year old friend passed away today , leaving her husband and 12 year old. I'm in shock at her death but also want to support them- any words of wisdom? They are very private people, she told me that she had cancer but asked me to keep the news to myself. I had no idea she was so ill, I imagined that she'd start treatment, not that that I would get such a sad text from her DH. I just can't take the news in.