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Struggling with death of niece.

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Buttons23 · 05/12/2015 12:02

Last night I lost my 7 month old niece to meningitis. I saw her on Thursday to take her Christmas presents and she was in perfect health. Laughing and playing with my 2 year old son.

Then Friday morning she got rushed into hospital with suspected meningitis. Transferred to a London hospital in intensive care where myself, my mum and her husband met my sister and the baby.

By 10:45pm she had died. We know the hospital tried their hardest to save her and that she fought her hardest, in the end her heart just started failing.

I am so glad I was there, no one else could initially be in the room, so I was with my niece for 45 mins and helped staff wash her and change her into a babygro. I sang to her and spoke with her and held her, something I'll never forget.

Now we have all been sent home without that perfect baby girl. It doesn't seem real, it happened so quickly and it just doesn't seem fair. All the horrible people out there and a 7 month old baby died.

Am home now and managed to sleep for 2 hours. Watching my son who is just so oblivious and unaware of everything, happily playing. I just feel so numb. My niece was perfect in every way.

Just needed to write it down.

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emummy · 05/12/2015 12:08

So so sorry OP, what an awful thing to happen. Hope you and your family get lots of support and comfort to help you through. Thinking of you all

Fyaral · 05/12/2015 12:11

How awful. Very sorry for your whole family's loss.

Branleuse · 05/12/2015 12:11

im so sorry OP Sad and your poor sister :'(

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ImperialBlether · 05/12/2015 12:12

How awful. I'm so sorry for you all. Flowers

BastardGoDarkly · 05/12/2015 12:13

Awww man, I'm so so sorry x

chandeliertinseltwirler · 05/12/2015 12:13

OP Flowers I cannot even begin to imagine.

MsMermaid · 05/12/2015 12:13

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family. Flowers

TheWitchwithNoName · 05/12/2015 12:13

So sorry OP, how devastating Flowers

Pancakeflipper · 05/12/2015 12:14

How horrendous for you all. Oh my heart goes out to you.

WimpyArseWanks · 05/12/2015 12:15

So sorry Op, life can be so cruel. Flowers Sad

GladysTheGolem · 05/12/2015 12:16

So, so sorry for your loss. Flowers

P1nkP0ppy · 05/12/2015 12:22

Heartbreakingly tragic.
So, so sorry Buttons Flowers and hugs x

Chillyegg · 05/12/2015 12:26

So sorry for your loss my love
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Leviticus · 05/12/2015 12:31

So sorry for the loss of your beautiful and perfect niece. Deepest sympathy to you and your family.

BumWad · 05/12/2015 12:33

I am so sorry 🌹

JimmyGreavesMoustache · 05/12/2015 12:34

How awful, I'm so sorry
sending love x

ggirl · 05/12/2015 12:36

God how awful , so sorry x

PicnicPie · 05/12/2015 12:40

How devastating. So very sorry for you loss. Flowers

YesICanHearYouClemFandango · 05/12/2015 12:43

Oh my god that is utterly horrific. I'm so, so, sorry for you all. There are no words really. Sending you love and strength Flowers

jamesdeandaydream · 05/12/2015 12:43

I'm so, so sorry. I have no idea what to say. This is the worst thing I've ever read on here, I can't even imagine what you're all going through. Flowers

FeedMyFaceWithJaffaCakes · 05/12/2015 12:45

Oh OP sweetheart Thanks
Lots of love, light and healing thoughts to you and your family.

hownottofuckup · 05/12/2015 12:46

So sorry for your family's loss Flowers

confusedandemployed · 05/12/2015 12:48

Oh God. I cannot comprehend the awfulness. My deepest, deepest sympathies to you and your family Flowers

lisbapalea · 05/12/2015 12:49

I am so so sorry, what a horrendous thing for you all to go through. I will be thinking of your family.

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