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It was my baby's funeral this morning.

38 replies

acsec · 16/09/2015 12:42

I had Mmc in August and the funeral was today.
It was so sad seeing the tiny coffin and knowing that my baby I'd never get to know was inside.
The service and prayers were lovely and I'm glad I was there with DH and my DM.
I'd like to start moving on, but know I still have to wait for the post-mortum results and just feel I can't put things to rest until then.
Just wanted some unmumsnetty hugs really.

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AutumnAttic · 16/09/2015 12:44

oh darling. Have an enormous hug.

PolishRemoverOfNail · 16/09/2015 12:45

oh acsec Flowers

I have no idea what you are going through but am here for hugs or hand holding x

petitdonkey · 16/09/2015 12:45

Sending you huge hugs - I can't imagine the pain you are in. Would you like to tell us about your baby?

acsec · 16/09/2015 12:46

*mmc obviously, stupid autocorrect!

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QOD · 16/09/2015 12:47
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lougle · 16/09/2015 13:10

I'm so sorry.

Bakeoffcake · 16/09/2015 13:12

You poor love. I'm so sorryFlowers

tribpot · 16/09/2015 13:12

So very sorry. A day no parent should ever have to go through :(

Merrybertie · 16/09/2015 13:15

Have a massive hug, don't care if it's an unmumsnetty one or not. I've been there and buried my DS who died at 22 weeks gestation and it is horrible and heart breaking watching a small coffin with your child inside it. I hope you get answers from the PM soon.

31weeksgone · 16/09/2015 13:17

Hugs for you. I'm so sorry. Flowers

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 16/09/2015 13:19

So so sorry to read this Acsec - and you too Merry

Many ((((hugs)))) and Wine and Thanks for you both.

SteampunkPrincess · 16/09/2015 13:19

Just hugs x

purplepandas · 16/09/2015 13:36

Sending much love. I hope that there was some peace for you today. It's not a day that you forget. I will always have a strong memory of my DH carrying DD1's coffin into the service almost six years ago now. Thinking of you and your lovely baby over the coming days. Flowers. Happy to chat if you ever want to at any point.

acsec · 16/09/2015 16:58

Thank you, everyone x

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RaspberrySwitchblade · 16/09/2015 17:00

Thanks for you

sorry for your loss

homeaway · 16/09/2015 17:02

So sorry for your loss.

xxreeldancerxx · 16/09/2015 17:02

Big hugs to you and anyone else who has been in this terribly sad situation. Can only imagine the pain you are feeling xx

HumphreyCobblers · 16/09/2015 17:04

I am so sorry you lost your darling baby. Sadly I know that pain of seeing that tiny coffin. My DH carried our baby into his funeral too, like purplepandas I will never forget how I felt at that moment.

Now, ten years later, I take great comfort in my memory of the funeral we gave him. I feel we did our best for him.

HumphreyCobblers · 16/09/2015 17:05

sorry, I meant to add that I am sure one day you will feel that too OP.

paulapompom · 16/09/2015 17:06

So sorry Flowers for you and everyone affected xxxx

Tinktheterrible · 16/09/2015 17:08
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spiderlight · 16/09/2015 17:09

So sorry for your loss, acsec. My heart truly does go out to you.

Aramynta · 16/09/2015 17:09

Lots and lots of ((((hugs)))) for you.

Let yourself grieve and be kind to yourself, too.

Thanks
Penfold007 · 16/09/2015 17:10

Huge hug. I'm so sorry for your loss.

SmugairleRoin · 16/09/2015 17:11

A day no one should have to go through.
Much love to you and yours! Very sorry to hear that.
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