It was my baby's funeral this morning.

[acsec]

I had Mmc in August and the funeral was today.
It was so sad seeing the tiny coffin and knowing that my baby I'd never get to know was inside.
The service and prayers were lovely and I'm glad I was there with DH and my DM.
I'd like to start moving on, but know I still have to wait for the post-mortum results and just feel I can't put things to rest until then.
Just wanted some unmumsnetty hugs really.

acsec I'm so very sorry for your loss, and also to all the other posters too

So sorry for your loss. It does get easier.

So sorry adsec - here to hold your hand and offer up a hug

So, so sorry for your loss. XXX

OP I'm so sorry to you and your family xx

So sorry, acsec , huge (((((hugs))))) to u.

Sorry to everyone else who has gone thru this too to all xxx

Sorry for your loss

Send huge hugs.........

I'm so sorry for your loss. Are you likely to get ashes back or is your baby being buried?

I found I got some peace after our dd2s service. However, I got more peace after our debrief at the hospital. We already knew she had T18 and we lost her to a tfmr as she would not have survived to full term. However, the debrief with the consultant went over everything with us and her full karyotype.

I hope you find some peace today. Try to be kind to yourself

I can collect the ashes tomorrow. My DMS suggested I put them in my baby brother's grave as then I will know where my baby is.
KittyandTeal I think our hospital debrief will help me too. We've been told not to try and conceive again until after it.

That's a lovely idea Acsec. Thinking of you this evening. I hope the consultant appt is helpful in terms of giving you the chance to talk things through. I found ours helpful too and it gave me the chance to think of the things that I wanted to ask. It might be helpful to make a list as it can be a tricky day too.

That's a really lovely idea. I'm sorry you have also lost your brother but it is lovely that your baby is not alone (I say that as someone who doesn't do the whole 'angel babies' thing but I remember feeling I was leaving dd2 on her own)

Have you had a chance to name him? I really hope the pm results come back quickly for you.

We were told there was no reason for us to wait to ttc again (as we already had a diagnosis) however, we chose to wait until after her due date. I will say I had a massive, physical urge to get pregnant and have another baby right away. It was all consuming for a while so don't be surprised if that happens, my counsellor said it is quite a common feeling.