Message from Amanda1

[Rhubarb]

I really wish I didn't have to post this. I received an email this evening from Amanda, here it is:

"I went into labour last Thursday evening and Rebecca Alice was born at 825pm. I had to have an emergency caesarian because of my placenta problem. I came home this afternoon.

There will be no birth or death certificate as she didn't live outside of me. Because I was less than 24 weeks it counts as an early miscarriage and not a stillbirth. No record of her life.

I wondered if you could post something on the Feb 06 antental thread for me please. Or start a thread in the antenatal section just to let them know. I probably won't be on mumsnet for a while until I get my head and life back together."

Any messages of condolence will be passed onto her.

So sorry to hear the news Amanda.

Very very sorry to read this Amanda. Thinking of you.

Thinking of you.

CX

Really sorry Amanda - I've lost your email address; I'll CAT you

You've been through so much recently Amanda and I am so sorry to hear this on top of everything else.I do hope you have someone looking after you and dd.Take care.

Dear God, some people have more than their fair share. My thoughts are with you. xxx

You poor thing. Hugs to you and your family. So sorry xxxxxx

Amanda-I'm so, so sorry ((((xxxx))))

Amanda, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My thought and prayers are with you. I hope you find some strength through all of this. Look after yourself and take your time. I'm sure Rebecca Alice is watching over you. All my love, XXXXX

so sorry to hear this awful news. Thinking of you and your family.

MP X

How awful.

Amanda, I'm so sorry.
xxx

Rhubarb, please tell her to get in touch with SANDS, as soon as she feels able. The no birth or dearh certificate thing is so, so hard for those of us whose babies die just before 24 weeks, but SANDS supports women whose baby dies post 20-weeks and she will find sympathetic help there and a total recognition of Rebecca Alice as a stillborn baby, NOT as a "late miscarriage".
The hospital can and should be helping her too. Thanks to excellent campaigning over the years from SANDS, undertakers will organise a funeral for babies like Rebecca with the utmost sensitivity and gentleness, I know because they did this for us. And they don't usually charge either.
Please give her my love too Rhuby and tell her she can CAT me any time if she thinks it would help to talk. I am so very sorry to hear that she has this worst of bereavements to contend with on top of everything else, and my heart goes out to her and dd1. XXX

Oh Amanda. I am so so so so sorry for your loss. I am so sorry I didn't see this thread til now.
I hope your as well as can be expected. Please try to keep strong. I stand by what I have always said to you, you are a strong person. Try to keep being strong, but you go and scream at the world if you need to.
You picked a beautiful name.
I am sending you the biggest hug from the otherside of the ocean.
My thoughts are with you. I hope you find some personal peace soon
Lots of Love Gravity xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I've emailed her about this thread, so I hope she looks. That's all I can do really, she probably needs the space right now.

Rhubarb - thankyou for passing on Amanda's terrible news - are you ok? not a nice thing to have to pass on

Oh, how awful . I am so, so sorry.
There may be no birth certificate, but Rebecca Alice did live and was loved and will always be remembered.

I'm so sorry, Amanda.

(((((((Amanda))))))))

Thinking of you and your family.

SJ xx

So Sorry Amanda. Thoughts are with you.

Love to you and your family Amanda and so sorry about lovely, weeny Rebecca Alice x E

Amanda so sorry

Terribly sad news Amanda. Thinking of you x

Amanda, I am so sorry to learn this and amthinking of you.

oh how dreadful, thinking of you & your family amanda, x