Should a 3.5 year old be expected to wipe their own bum?

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I'm sure there are plenty who can but surely at this age it's fine for them to need a bit of help?

Ds's nursery have asked me to make sure he can do it. I know that we need to ensure he can before reception starts and I understand why it would be easier for nursery now and will try but he's so little - is it normal to expect a 3 year old to do their own?

Oooh, good for your patch66

DD (3.4)can clean herself after a wee but not after a poo. I had to ask them at nursery to make sure she was clean as her bum was really sore and they had no problem doing it.

She starts pre-school this week and they asked me if she needed any help. I told them that yes, she would need help cleaning up poo andh they seemed fine with it.