What to do? and how can I stop myself from getting irritated with this? EVERY SINGLE TIME I tell her she has to go to the loo when she needs a poo, she has to ask for help with wiping.
Tonight, while I was settling ds, she:
wiped her ass with a towel. A proper big cream coloured towel that we'd just used in after bath.
Had poo on her hands
Had left a tiny bit of poo on the carpet in her room
had poo on her knickers
had poo on the pillow case - tiny bit, i guess she had seen her hands were dirty and thought it was fine to wipe them on any fabric handy
had poo on the mattress sheet - tiny bit, see above
left a pooey tissue on the floor of the loo
I cleaned her up, changed sheets, took away dirty clothes, picked up tissues etc.
I was furious and disgusted. I tried not to show it but she knew. It's just fucking gross! Why does she not see that this is totally inappropriate? This, from a child who doesn't like getting syrup on her fingers when she has pancakes!!!! Seriously!
Am planning to call doc to refer her to incontinence clinic or whatever it is called but I honestly do not know how to stop her beginning to poo in her knickers (she does this quite often) or how not to get irritated about it. I have told her it's disgusting and it makes me feel sick but she does not seem to try to stop or avoid it.
Which parent succeeds in smiling and saying never mind dear? Do you not feel utterly revolted having to deal iwth this sort of thing?
So fed up. Sorry for rant, am very tired and really wishing I did not have children tonight.
And no, I have no sodding partner to help me out with this, because he's never at home to help.