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Girls name (we can't agree)

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Dairymilkisminging · 23/01/2025 17:36

Tale as old as time me and hubby can't agree on names he's more traditional I'm more different

Names I like are Nova, Astrid, Ember and Freya.
He likes Melissa, Maree and Aurora.

I appreciate my some won't like my name choices and that's ok.

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MinnieBalloon · 23/01/2025 17:38

You have to find one you both like. You can’t force him into liking yours or strong arm him into picking one he doesn’t like, just like he can’t do the same to you.

So you go round and round until you find one you both like.

In his defence though, you need to actually pick names. “Ember” is not a fucking name 🤦‍♀️

Talipesmum · 23/01/2025 17:41

Ha, I’d say Maree and Aurora are less traditional than Freya and Astrid!

Doesn’t feel like there’s that much difference in name styles. Good luck!

ChestnutGrove · 23/01/2025 17:42

Could you look up a list of top 500 baby names and both tick off any you like and see if any are the same?

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 23/01/2025 17:44

MinnieBalloon · 23/01/2025 17:38

You have to find one you both like. You can’t force him into liking yours or strong arm him into picking one he doesn’t like, just like he can’t do the same to you.

So you go round and round until you find one you both like.

In his defence though, you need to actually pick names. “Ember” is not a fucking name 🤦‍♀️

Oh yes it is! Google Ember Smith of California …

Fontainebleau007 · 23/01/2025 17:46

I like Nova and Freya

What about
Annika
Sage
Piper
Darcy
Wren
Luna
Willow
Maya
Francesca
Arabella
Alyssia

MinnieBalloon · 23/01/2025 17:47

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 23/01/2025 17:44

Oh yes it is! Google Ember Smith of California …

See also: Chris Martin’s kid Apple.

Doesn’t make it a name. Makes it a laughing stock.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 23/01/2025 17:50

MinnieBalloon · 23/01/2025 17:47

See also: Chris Martin’s kid Apple.

Doesn’t make it a name. Makes it a laughing stock.

I know a couple of Apples, as it were. There’s an Ember Jones too, an author!

Dairymilkisminging · 23/01/2025 17:56

Well he called his names traditional. Obviously I'm not going to strong arm him but if people have suggestions in the same kind of style as these would be great.

I like annika suggested upthread. We've tried baby names lists and my list seems to grow and his stays the same.

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TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 23/01/2025 17:56

I have a cat with one of these names. All I would say is that if you are going to call your child something unusual it is handy to give them a more mainstream middle name in case they want to go by that for professional reasons later.

My suggestion is that each of you take your names and rank in order of preference.
Now in alternate weeks refer aloud to your bump as Maree or Nova or whatever. I recommend not doing this in front of friends and family, they won't help.
We went completely off some of our favourite names. It just didn't work for us when we spoke it aloud and we got to a short list we both liked very quickly.

MyUmberSeal · 23/01/2025 17:58

Dairymilkisminging · 23/01/2025 17:36

Tale as old as time me and hubby can't agree on names he's more traditional I'm more different

Names I like are Nova, Astrid, Ember and Freya.
He likes Melissa, Maree and Aurora.

I appreciate my some won't like my name choices and that's ok.

Nova… just makes me think of the festival in Israel and what happened there.
Astrid sounds like a planet.
Ember is sweet.. not common, but not unnecessarily kooky.
Freya… popular but cute.

Not a fan of the names your husband has chosen.

Choosing your kids name is fun, and whatever you go for, you will look back and think you can’t imagine them as anything else. Don’t pay too much attention to what contributors to this thread say. You will work together with your husband and you will find a lush name that you both like.

Dairymilkisminging · 23/01/2025 17:59

Ohhh great idea he's 100% against Nova which is my top name.

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SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 23/01/2025 17:59

Laurel is lovely and quite unusual.
Ismay
Josephine

Everydayflowers · 23/01/2025 18:11

Nova, Astrid, and Aurora all have a space vibe. Luna or Sky? I don't think your names are that different in style really so hopefully you'll find something that works for both of you.

MrsSamR · 23/01/2025 18:19

I agree with PPs that your names are actually more similar than you think!

How about?:

Luna
Alba
Juniper
Artemis
Willow
Persephone
Daphne

KayEmAy · 23/01/2025 19:39

Hmmm lovely mix of names, my favorites are Freya and Aurora so maybe something below would fit on both your lists :)

Felicity
Thea
Odette
Renee
Maren
Sienna
Bailey
Eden
Cassia
Lavender
Belle
Alina
Celeste
Demi
Gia /Gigi
Harlow
Kira
Natasha
Selah

Moreteaandchocolate · 23/01/2025 19:43

Do you like

Kaya, Stella, Aria, Amaya, Arwen, Alba, Cassia, Dana, Etta, Enya, Elora, Elowen, Esme, Erin, Faith, Fleur, Hallie, Iris, Iona, Jemima, Kiera, Leonie, Lyra, Lois, Livia, Mila, Mala, Nyah, Nia, Odette, Piper, Pippa, Romy, Sadie, Saskia, Seren, Skye, Summer, Tessa, Tamara, Thalia, Thea, Taryn, Tegan, Xanthe, Zia, Zara

KnickerlessParsons · 23/01/2025 19:47

MinnieBalloon · 23/01/2025 17:38

You have to find one you both like. You can’t force him into liking yours or strong arm him into picking one he doesn’t like, just like he can’t do the same to you.

So you go round and round until you find one you both like.

In his defence though, you need to actually pick names. “Ember” is not a fucking name 🤦‍♀️

Neither is Maree. Marie is a name though.

Dairymilkisminging · 23/01/2025 19:49

Thank you everyone for the lovely name suggestions some that are getting added to my list.

Hubby dislikes sky he says its not a name. I do like the space/star names

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Sandyview · 23/01/2025 19:55

My husband and I had the exact same issue recently, neither of us were budging and we didn’t like any of each others names. Eventually we has to scrap the lists we had and start again. We banned each other from mentioning the original lists as it was getting us nowhere.
We do now have a name so it did work just took a long time to get there.

Suggestion - Marla or Audra , they sound traditional but a bit different.

UninterestingFirstPost · 23/01/2025 20:03

Maeva
Stella (or Stella Maris)
Elin
Noor
Caiomhe
Iseult
Celeste

DappledThings · 23/01/2025 20:09

Dairymilkisminging · 23/01/2025 19:49

Thank you everyone for the lovely name suggestions some that are getting added to my list.

Hubby dislikes sky he says its not a name. I do like the space/star names

Stella? That's both traditional and not too common now and star related.

Baggyprincess · 23/01/2025 20:13

Nova OK
Astrid not my taste
Ember not my taste
Freya lovely but popularity would put me off
Melissa no
Maree no
Aurora, love it with Rory as a nickname

Dairymilkisminging · 23/01/2025 20:13

Stella makes me think of the larger unfortunately 😅

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shoopshoopdedoo · 23/01/2025 20:14

I don’t think his names are particularly traditional! So hopefully you will find something you both like. Agree that the suggestions of Stella and Celeste seem to fit!

CallingElfRescue · 23/01/2025 20:20

I have a Freya, love it! She's 9 and I can honestly say we've not come across another at school or any clubs/groups we've ever been to with her or her sister. Definitely not too popular where I am. We've come across other Freya's out and about occasionally but mine is the only one at her school! I vote Freya Smile