Struggling to find a middle ground on names

[Babysie]

DH and I are excepting our first baby together, a little girl. We both have children from a pervious relationship and our naming styles aren’t similar at all. My children are Charlotte and William. His children are China, Caspian, Maya and Tristan.

So far names he really likes are
Nova
Alba
Aurora

The names I really like are
Anna
Sophie
Georgia
Grace

So far the only names we’ve both even said maybe to are Isla and Freya but neither of us love either.

Any ideas?

Iris
Ruby
Lyra
Theodora
Megan
Poppy
Greta
Jennifer
Erin
Mabel
Zoë
Clara
Joanna
Irene
Astrid
Julia
Claudia
Morwenna
Miranda
Eliza
Beth

Any good?

Are you both choosing purely on sound, or does meaning, association etc come into it?

Well, I prefer your list to his!

But here's my shot at some girl's names that might bridge the gap

Tallulah, Lula, Annabeth, Amber, Natasha, Xanthe, Giselle, Cleo, Azariah, Tabitha, Imogen.

Darcy
Paige
Marnie
Josie
Millie
Maisie
Emma
Clara
Brooke

Gracie instead if Grace?

Maeve/Maeva
Gwen
Eliza
Thea
Elsa
Saffron

Someone said each write a list, amalgamate it then go through and each strike out one until you have a short list. Then can discuss the shortlist. Maybe that would help?

I much prefer your list.

Sophia instead of sophie? Susannah?

Thanks everyone.
The issue is I prefer timeless names that are traditional and classic and he really really hates that type of name. He likes his kids to have lesser used names (in 2000 when his Maya was born it wasn’t very popular at all, even though it is now).

Well I prefer your list apart from Alba is quite pretty. Alba Grace is nice

Or Aurora but call her Rory

DP and I couldn't agree at all on names - well actually he wouldn't even have a sensible discussion.

However once she was born we agreed really quickly on a name neither of us had thought of before. She just was this name. So you don't have to have a name firmly in place before she's born.

Then you could think of hyphenating, eg Sophie-Nova, Grace-Alba, Anna-Meg ? I know of 2 families who left the naming of a child to their existing children with great success. maybe something to think of as your blending families ??

Georgia
Kaitlin
Celeste
Camille
Rowan
Robina
Thalia
Matilda
Tilda
Beatrice
Claudia
Clementine
Robin
Tallulah
Krista
Zara
Sadie
Alexis

Laurel
Ebony
Sacha
Rhiannon
Nina
Saskia
Tayah
Astrid

Can you find some older style names that are still less commonly used that you might both like.

Things like:

Tabitha
Tessa
Adrienne
Meredith
Saskia
Clarissa
Marianne
Lara
Asha
Carla
Georgia
Georgina
Kathryn
Inara

You need to suggest something less traditional for him to like it. He needs to suggest something less unusual for you to like it. Once you both accept that level of compromise needs to be made you'll find it easier to come up with suggestions. Isla and Freya are both lovely names. Keep going with more in that area.

Esme
Erin
Amber
Eloise
Lara
Phoebe

China? Poor kid. Might as well have an India too?

In fairness she’s 26 now and loves her name!
India is actually a pretty commonly used name no? If he didn’t have a China already I’d consider India!

I really like his boy names. I think you need to find a crossover genre:

Xanthe
Isolde
Marnie
Hebe
Meriel
Mirabel (nn plum)
Perdita
Olympia
Verity
Adelheid (Germanic Alice nn also Heidi)
Guinivere
Genevieve

Oh I do like Olympia, maybe a nickname like Ola would win him around!

Claudia. Classic but not very common.

that is very different!! How about

iris
lyra
cora
lena
nora
estelle
eloise
thea
mabel
arabella
rosa
ada
lila
phoebe
matilda
sadie

Every single one of his names is currently more popular than Anna and Georgia! Aurora is in the top 50…

If he wants names that are lesser used, all he has to do is get up to date with current name trends and he should come over to your way of thinking.

What about Adeline, Marianne, Sylvie, Alma, Tessa? All more traditional names but not popular at the moment.

You could look at the ONS 2023 stats from 200 onwards or something to see if you both like any?

I think Aurora (Latin for dawn, daybreak), from his list, is the best match with yours and Grace would make a good middle name with that.

Adelaide
Dorothea
Adela
Cecelia
Astrid
Ottilie
Clara.
Beatrix

Classical but still a bit edgey

Sylvie
ottilie
tessa
joanna
melissa
matilda
lucinda
imogen
enya
tabitha
louisa

Of the names on the list Anna and Sophie are my favourites.

Maybe:
Seraphina
Flora
Leia
Lydia
Marianne
Persephone
Jessamine
Phaedra
Athena
Daphne
Phoebe
Julia
Helena
Calliope
Nancy
Octavia
Aurelia
Florianne
Delphina
Leda
Morwenna
Ida
Iolanthe
Miriam
Silvana
Sylvia
Faye
Antonia
Leilani
Alondra
Maeva
Estella
Judith
Cassandra
Petra
Simone
Primrose
Tess