Feel like I chose the wrong name!

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All the way through my pregnancy my favourite name for my daughter was Iris. All the letters I wrote to her whilst I was pregnant are addressed "Dear Iris" and we found out halfway through that it was my husbands Nans name too! Towards the end of my pregnancy I had totally overthought it and all of a sudden couldn't stop thinking of Isis when I heard Iris and suddenly the fact that it was a family name became a negative too!! Then when she was born she didn't "look" like an Iris. My hormones were all over the bloody shop so I couldn't decide on a name and it became so stressful as it's all anyone asks you. Finally we decided on Violet which was a bit of whim and I was deciding between the two right up until the morning we registered. Long story short she's now called Violet and half the time I'm not even sure if I like the name as it reminds me a bit of old ladies! And the worst part is that I'm now pregnant again and would love to use Iris if it's a girl but then that would be two flower names which is surely a bit twee?! How do I stop obsessing that I've named her the wrong name and, if I do have another girl, is Violet and Iris too much of a theme?! Help!

@Scaredykittycat I agree with you but then again I found choosing a name when I'd just given birth almost impossible! I was hoping she would "look" like a name but the pressure of choosing a name for her forever plus the fact babies don't really actually look like a name because they are just babies really threw me and I found it very stressful! I think next time round we will try and choose one and then stick to it!

I don't think there's a probable having them as sibling names ....... except that you sound as though you regret not calling DD1 Iris so it's "her" name. Could you use Iris either as a backdated middle name for DD1 or the new baby?

@ParisJeTAime thank you ☺️. I don't seem to have any other symptoms I don't think but I am a worrier and an over thinker! Perhaps the pregnancy hormones are making it worse though?!

@Lucylivesinamushroomhouse thank you ❤️

@BathroomWork she's nearly 1 now. I did briefly consider it but I don't think my husband would let me plus I think my whole family would think I was mad. I think it probably is her name now- whether or not I'm totally in love with it! 🤦‍♀️

@SlopesOff I think I do know what you mean a bit. I think when she was born Iris felt harsh for a newborn somehow although when I hear it said I do love it still.

Iris is my favourite girl's name. I would use it for definite if you have another DD

@FluffyEggsontoast thank you that's lovely to say! Idris is a lovely name although I definitely think of Idris Elba when I hear it (not necessarily a bad thing though of course 😉🥰)

My daughters have floral names they are Flora and Primrose. If we had a third girl I'd probably go for another floral name. I personally love it and it reminds people of pretty flowers. I do get the odd eye roll but to be fair it's none of their business. If you love the name that's all that matters xx

@GU24Mum we did consider Iris as a middle name but we had already chosen a middle name that has a lot of family significance so didn't want to give that one up and I think generally you don't use pne middle name let alone two?! Also I think I was put off by it being two flower names together

@Justwatchthewildflowersgrow oh wow those are both such beautiful names! I've just added Flora to my (extremely long) list actually! And Primrose is so pretty. What do you call her for short?

She's usually Primmie until she's naughty. Flora gets called Flo or Florry and for some odd reason Dora but I don't know why. 🤔 X

I think names with a link are lovely. Violet and iris are beautiful together. We would have gone with two themed names - we have a willow and our son was going to be Posy.

Violet is a gorgeous name and will
Go really well with Iris

Both lovely names, and both have a bit of sharpness about them, which not all flower names do (eg Lily). I couldn’t chose between them, so if you have another girl I would crack on and call her Iris. (You might have to write her pre-birth letters as Dear Violet though, and change the dates 😁

Violet and Iris go well together!

Violet and Iris make lovely sisters' names and I don't find it twee at all. It also doesn't mean that future names have to be flowers. Anything in the very long list of vintage chic works well with them, eg Mabel, Edith, Ada, Ida, May, Lucy, Florence, April, Polly, Nancy, Esther etc etc.

I like Violet and Iris together. It's fine that they're both flower names.

I know two families who had pets with human names, then when first babies came along, they used the pet's name for the baby! Eg, dog was called Tim, then they named their first son Tim because they liked the name so much.

Our family had three sisters - Daisy, Rose and Flora. I think it is adorable and sweet.

@LudoTrouble funny you should say this I've been wondering whether I could do the same as I've named all my cats over the years with names I actually love for babies!! We've got a Betty and an Olive and a Delilah! Delilah and Olive in particular I love...Betty I think is so cute but not sure if she would thank me for that one!

@Justwatchthewildflowersgrow lovely! Dora because it rhymes with Flora?? X

@GeorgiaGirl52 they are lovely together. I do love flower names!

@partyatthepalace hahaha that's a great idea! I'll just swap them round and hope they never notice 😂

My two girls have botanical names. Nobody has ever called it twee I wouldn't care if they did I like the name Iris too. If my new baby is a girl that's the planned name.

I think Violet and Iris are very similar names. Don’t change your child’s name, you are over thinking it.