Do I go with the safe or contentious name?

[Rjd13]

A few weeks ago I posted about the name Tabitha. It’s my favourite but the response on MN was mixed and the reaction from my nearest and dearest even worse.

My OH and I had originally picked the name Ivy before we thought of Tabitha, but we’re worried that it’s too common and similar to your Ava’s and Evie’s etc

So my question is do I go with the name that is a bit more unusual but often disliked, or the one that is more liked but also more used? We love both but we are struggling to settle!

Tabitha Jane/Tabitha Rose

Or

Ivy Elizabeth?

I prefer Tabitha.
I really can’t understand why Ivy is so popular because the plant is so unpleasant. It is extremely invasive and difficult to eradicate, breaks down fences and damages walls, the flowers attract wasps and I (and probably many others) are allergic to the pollen. If one leaf breaks off it can grow roots and take off. Plant/flowers names automatically make one think othe orig when you meet someone so surely you want a pleasant association? Plus there is the negative saying of “like a clinging ivy”

I personally love Tabitha. It is beautiful and has character. Others may hate it. You should go with what you want, everyone has an opinion, but yours and your DH's is the only one that matters.

I love Tabitha.

Don’t discuss baby names with wider family before birth!

I prefer Tabitha, and the nickname Tabby is lovely as well. Personally I find the name Ivy quite ugly. (sorry to any Ivys, it just has a rather harsh sound / connotation to me!)

Tabitha Rose is gorgeous and is clearly the name of a fantastically interesting and creative person. Do it!!

I love love love Tabitha and Tabby as nn is super cute. Stick to your guns.
Not so keen on Ivy.

Unfortunately, Tabitha would not be for me. I know 2 people
Who have cats called tabitha, and at a later stage it might get
Shortened to Tabby! (Which sounds even more like a cat!!!
So sorry, just my opinion. I have a niece called Ivy, and didnt like
It initially, but the name has grown on me a bit. Ivy out of the two, if thats what youve narrowed it down to. Good luck!

Ahh people can be mean on here, Tabitha is lovely go for it. Xx