Too wimpy to post in actual AIBU but...
DH and I are really struggling to agree on a name for our very soon to arrive DS.
We have one name that we both really like - goes well with our surname and chosen middle name.- top 20ish name but not overly used where we live...all great...except...
A good friend of mine called her DS this who was still born at 24weeks gestation. I've tentatively brought it up with her & she said about how she has no ownership of the name & although she may feel sad it could be sort of nice. But I really don't know if she is just being nice!! 
I would really hate to upset her & her family, and worry that our mutual friends might think I was a bit of a dick choosing the same name. But I really really like it! I really don't know what to do ð??? so oh wise mumsnet - be brutal...would it be ok and almost 'in honour of' or is it a total no go?