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People dislike our names we have picked.....

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MrsGiraffe12 · 30/04/2014 13:12

Am not going to put them on here as I got a lot of backlash when I did a few months ago.

Am now 21 weeks and at work during the week a colleague asked what we are planning on naming baby. We haven't found out the gender but have a definate boys name (obviously I know this could change when baby arrives if he's a boy) and we have a couple of girls names.

But when I mentioned the names to a colleague I got a "face" pulled and then "that's really unusual" for the boys name and for the girls names we have "they are all really common".

Similar reaction from my dad and DHs parents too.

Why can't people leave alone and just smile and leave it be :-( it's now making us doubt our choices which makes me sad.....

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Busymumto3dc · 30/04/2014 13:13

It's your baby your choice

Once he or she is hear and you announce their name people generally say it's nice even if they don't like it

iK8 · 30/04/2014 13:15

Rule. #1 never discuss baby names prior to birth in RL with anyone who does not have a say in the baby's name.
Rule #2 never start a thread in baby names without posting the names Wink

Follow both of those and life will be grand.

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MrsGiraffe12 · 30/04/2014 13:23

iK8 I know, I should post the names. I guess as no one here knows me in real life there's no harm in sharing:

For a girl we've narrowed it down to:
Daisy
Sophia

and for a boy we have:
Rio

Our eldest DC had a name in the top 5 of the boys bounty babe names app

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skinmysunshine · 30/04/2014 13:24

When I was expecting DS I asked DH not to discuss our names with anyone. Of course he discussed out preferred boys name with his brother. Who made some throw-away comment about posh public-school boys which completely put DH off.

Busymumto3dc · 30/04/2014 13:25

Sophia is lovely. Daisy reminds me of a cow.

Rio is unusual but not too out there and I actually quite like it

Wishfulmakeupping · 30/04/2014 13:30

Yes 2 family members pulled a catbum
Face in response to our planned dd's name. We didnt care and went on to use it anyway because we love it and it suited her which is the main thing but we learnt that lesson well- never tell people your name ideas!

Blueberrybaby · 30/04/2014 13:30

Don't discuss! Or only discuss if you have the courage to stand by your decisions. Everyone has an opinion. Sophia is nice. Don't really care for Daisy...i like flower names but can't get past the cow links. Rio is fine, although it is very modern to me and Rio de Janiero will be in the spotlight a lot what with the World Cup this year and the Olympics in 2016.

skinmysunshine · 30/04/2014 13:32

I know a 5 year old Daisy. She is the coolest kid and great fun.

NotMrsTumble · 30/04/2014 13:36

I second not telling names until baby is born, it invites comment (well, strictly speaking, you're not asking for the person's opinion, but you can bet you'll get it!)

A name announced at the same time as the birth will generally only be met by positive feedback as people are generally just happy for you on the arrival of the baby.

If asked I just said we hadn't really thought too much about names and were waiting to find out the baby's gender (knew with both ds1&2) & what they looked like before choosing a name (names picked well before the birth). Sounds a bit contrived but saved loads of "ooh, I don't like that one, my idea is better" conversations.

FWIW, since you've listed them, I think all your name suggestions are lovely.

AWombWithoutARoof · 30/04/2014 13:41

Nothing wrong with either Daisy or Sophia, only you know whether having a popular name is a negative for you.

Rio is unusual (although I do know a Reo), but not weird or laughable. It sounds like you really like it, so stick to your guns!

Some people don't have the wit to realise that they're not being asked for their opinion!

ReluctantCamper · 30/04/2014 13:42

yep, I'm 21 weeks atm. when people ask about names I just vaguely mention some that we've discounted and leave it at that. it's hard enough picking names, don't need extra input from non-stakeholders!

ajandjjmum · 30/04/2014 13:51

I like all of the names you've mentioned.

You really have to put others thoughts to one side - I remember my DM hadn't used to like the name we chose for DS. She loves him to bits, and needless to say, it's her favourite name in all the world now!! Grin

curiousgeorgie · 30/04/2014 13:54

Everyone hated the name I chose for DD2... Including DH. But I totally loved it so negative comments didn't faze me. That's how I knew it was the right one.

Your names are all lovely though Smile

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 30/04/2014 13:58

I love your names! Daisy was on our shortlist for DD & Sophia is very pretty Smile.

I only know one Rio in RL and he is a lovely lad of about 11. Stick with your names! Grin

UriGeller · 30/04/2014 14:00

Our DD's name is very, very similar to my DF's ex-wife!

the whole family have had to untangle their knickers about it because we love the name and it really suits her.

Don't listen to anyone else's opinion. Its your beautiful baby.

starlight1234 · 30/04/2014 14:03

I like all your names... but don't tell people ..people are far more polite once he/she is here

Ludways · 30/04/2014 14:04

That's why you simply need to pick names you love and go with them, too much thought and caring what others think can just drive you crazy and you'll never decide, lol

NigellasDealer · 30/04/2014 14:07

Those are lovely names, tell anyone to get lost ok?

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MrsGiraffe12 · 30/04/2014 14:23

It's just frustrating as even though DS is nearly 6 we still get people saying "oh his name is common" etc. so looks like no matter what we choose people won't be happy except us. Urgh. Thanks for all the input though :-) x

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NigellasDealer · 30/04/2014 14:33

lol I used to call my exh Rio short for Mario, spannish version of his real name...:)

Cezella · 30/04/2014 14:55

I like them all OP!

RedPony · 30/04/2014 15:41

I think your name choices a lovely Smile don't let anyone else's opinions bother you as it's your baby so your choice

sonlypuppyfat · 30/04/2014 15:53

Rio is dire, sorry.

GlaikitFizzog · 30/04/2014 15:59

Ach, people are weird sometimes and speak before they think.

There is nothing wrong with any of your names, they are names at least and not just inanimate objects. Next time someone asks, straight faced say "we were thinking of Table for a boy and Balloon for a girl." Then change the subject as they gawp in horror!