Cousin's dd has the name we love :-(

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It's a popular name. We both adore it and are really struggling to think of another "the one" name. My cousin's dd (10) has the full version of the name but is always known by a nickname. I've seen her dd maybe 5 times since she's born due to distance.

Would it be "allowed" to give our dd2 the same name?

I assume they will share the same grandparents?

Of course..... She is 10, does not live local and no-one has "dibs" on a name anyhow... go for it.....

Cousin's DD might feel it is special that you chose her name too.....

No! They'd share the same great grandmother.

I think this is fine. I know 2 sisters (living in differnet countries) who called their sons the same name and this did cause tension, but cousins fine I think esp as you dont see them that often. My DH's cousin called her son the same name as one of their other cousins, and no-one in the family batted an eyelid (and age gap was such that cousin whose name was used was closer in age to the child than the parent if that makese sense).

My son has the same name as my cousins son. We hardly ever see eachother though (like not even once a year). I didn't even think it'd be a problem, to be honest, and it's not! I guess it depends how close you are and how often you see one another.

I had 3 cousins called Michael!

Use the name if you love it...

Definitely. Especially as she's ten.

Personally, I wouldn't use it. I'd be unhappy if my cousin used my daughters name.

Use it, I have a big extended family.
Lots of the cousins children have similar/same names or versions of names.
No one should care really.
These kids are not going to be in each others company regularly.

Of course you should use it, no one "owns" a name.

I wouldn't use it. We name our children so that they can be identified easily - there are thousands of lovely names to choose from, is there really no other name you love?

"I had 3 cousins called Michael! Use the name if you love it..."

Not sure how having 3 cousins called the same name implies that it is a good idea ?!

I would say use it if you really love it - especially as it's a relative you hardly ever see. If nobody ever used a name because a distant relative had already done so, I would have run out of names - and actually not used a couple of them at all .

Use it.

My cousin just named his newborn DD2 the same as my 7 yo DD1.

I find it nice tbh. My DD is very honoured as shethinks it is because she is such as fab girl.

He sent us chocolates and toys with the baby name card. Even better.

it's your cousin's daughter's name?

use it!

Of course you should use it. My brother and I have daughters with the same name and we live relatively close and see each other often. It has never been an issue.

I would use it.

If I had a son I always planned to name him after my grandad. When I met DH his brother and cousin both had my grandad's name! We named our son after grandad regardless and it's never been an issue. We've seen the cousin about twice in the last 20 years! And DH's brother is known by a short form of the name. It's never caused the slightest confusion.

I would have deeply regretted not using the name as it meant so much to me and I'm glad we went ahead.

When DS2 attended a drama group years ago there was a bloke there who had 2 daughters by different women - both daughters had the same name! Apparently the second wife had always set her heart on the name and she refused to let a little matter like a step-daughter with the same name change her plans! The first wife was outraged!

My cousins dd has the same name as my daughter, it's never been a problem.

I have two cousins (both on dad's side) with the same name. They're not close in age and barely see one another, and no one in the family has ever mentioned that they thought it was strange! If you love the name then go for it!

Yeah, my ExH had a sister and a stepsister with the same name. Never caused an issue. I think you'll regret it more if you don't use it.

My DS and my cousin's DS have the same name. I forgot all about it because he doesn't use his first name. We don't see each other that often ( but more than you see yours) and there is a 14 year age difference. Whenever we do see him, he always mentions that they have the same name in a good way. I think he quite likes it- he thinks that my DS was named after him!

Its fine, I would use it.

I think often in families the same name is used a lot, I like it. My cousin has the same name as my mother and another aunt of hers. My father and his second cousin have the same name. My middle name is both my grandmothers middle name, DH's Grandma's middle name and my MIL's name. I would use it, particularly as you would choose a different form.

Thanks for the positive responses

Personally I wouldn't but I don't think it's a big deal if you decide to use it.