Cousin's dd has the name we love :-(

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It's a popular name. We both adore it and are really struggling to think of another "the one" name. My cousin's dd (10) has the full version of the name but is always known by a nickname. I've seen her dd maybe 5 times since she's born due to distance.

Would it be "allowed" to give our dd2 the same name?

I discovered that a cousin i hadn't seen in 30 yrs has a daughter with the same name as one of my dds - same lastname too, not a big deal IMO. I was given the same name as my parent's friend's daughter because my parents loved the name when they heard it - it was never an issue then either. No-one owns a name.

My cousin and her mother have the same name, they were known as "little x" and "big x", same thing in DH's family with his Mum and a young cousin, who although late 40s is still "Little M"

There were only four names used for men and boys in our family until recently. As helly suggested.
I suspect that the ten year old in yours will be rather chuffed to have a little 'samename' in the family. Nice family bond.

Of course you can use it. Best wishes to you and the new little one.

If this was me, I would use it, especially as you said it was a popular name. If the name wasn't popular I wouldn't use it though.

In this case I would go for it.

My aunt and uncle (brother and sister) have both got 2 sons each with the same names and a daughter each with the same name, I also have a cousin on my mums side of the fam as one of my other cousins name. I don't see the prob, no one ever got confused over names or anything

Very close family aswell

My dad is called David and I also have three cousins and an uncle called David. Again though, run of the mill name so not a big deal.

I would use it - the cousin's dd uses a nickname anyway and you rarely see them. And as whitehair said, I bet the 10yo will be chuffed - at 10 I would have been over the moon to have a cousin named after me even if they weren't really

The thing about the bloke's 2 dds with different mums is a bit weird though

My cousin named her DD the same name as our DD, and there is only 6 months difference in their age. My cousin must have been gutted we got there first but liked the name so much she used it anyway - we are not particularly close but I've never had a problem with it. It is a very lovely name after all

I can't see the problem. I it's your cousin's dd then they'd be second cousins. If they were first cousins it might be a bit odd.

FWIW I have the same name as two of my second cousins who I rarely see and it's fine especially as we all go by nicknames which are different.

Just thought my sister shares a name with my dad's cousin and noone has ever given it a second thought as far as I am aware!

Yes, use it

My daughter has the same name as one of my sisters, one of my cousins, one of my aunts, one of my grandmothers, one of my great aunts and several more distantly related family members.

And there is another girl in her class at school with the same name. No one minds.

Do it. I have two sets of cousin brothers with the same names. They are each other's cousins too, not my maternal and paternal cousins.

I inadvertently gave my 2 dc two of the names of a group of 4 siblings, the children of a longstanding family friend. I didn't even realise for a while. Apart from a little light joshing in Christmas cards, no one minds.

My brother called his son the same name as my cousin's son. It was also our grandfather's name, our father's middle name, and my brother's middle name though, and it happened to be going through a massive resurgence in popularity at the time the babies were born so I can see why they both chose it. I am not aware that anyone found it particularly weird or out of order.

I wouldn't do it personally but it depends how much contact they are likely to have with one another I suppose.

DH's cousin 's LO was given the same name as my DS1, born only weeks before. I admit I was very slightly when I first heard but then quickly realised it didn't matter a jot. It's never been an issue and actually the little boy's GGM was extremely pleased as its kind of a family name & she was very touched that we both chose to use it.

I wouldn't have any issues at all with using it.

It also wouldn't bother me in the slightest if a cousin chose the same name as one of my DC.

Go for it.

Why u unhappy that they usin that name?? If u wanna continue to be petty they had that name first and therefore "using" a name they love! She is ten!

Name sharing isn't a big deal! Nobody owns any name!

Pick a new one or be happy with the one u decided

My stepdd has two brothers with the same name, a half brother (mine and her fathers ds) and a step brother (her stepdads dd). She also has a step sister and cousin with the same name. She loves it as for her it brings the two families together in her mind.

Not the same really, lol, but use it!!!

Bit harsh thistlelicker! I think the OZp is trying to gauge more whether other people would find it strange that they're using a name that's already in the family!

I wouldn't find it odd at all, OP, especially if it's a pretty popular name. It's not something I'd do personally but I wouldn't be annoyed if 10 years down the line my cousin used one of DC's names.

Well if u look at it from the cousins point of view..... Would they be happy knowing there name is being used by a cousin down the line??

A family member of mine had a "list" of names she liked, ended up calling her dd a different name to what was on "list". Another family member found out they were having a dd and first family member tore them to shreds!!! It's a name, it's no big deal! Call children the names u want to! This I can't call a baby because they child has it is totally unnecessary !!!

Use it!