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name after hubbys squezze?????

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cath100 · 05/05/2011 20:48

a few years ago my hubby had himself a little fling, i forgave him and am now pregnant. he want to name the baby after his mum, but the problem is that the shortened version of that name is the same as the girl he had the fling with...
i dont want to be moany BUT...

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OnlyWantsOne · 05/05/2011 20:49

But you don't want to use the same name. I'd feel the same.

ongakgak · 05/05/2011 20:49

HELL NO!

welliesandpyjamas · 05/05/2011 20:50

That'd be a no, I think.

OnlyWantsOne · 05/05/2011 20:50

FWIW my DP's ex fiancé and Norge are both Cargerine - and I made it clear to him that I didn't want to use the name for that reason.

OnlyWantsOne · 05/05/2011 20:51

Norge.

MOTHER.

Sodding iphone.

OnlyWantsOne · 05/05/2011 20:51

Catherine.

Bugger.

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cath100 · 05/05/2011 20:52

lol, i knew i wasnt lossing the plot!
how do i go about this then, its tradition to name the child after the grandparents!!!!

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MollysChamber · 05/05/2011 20:54

I think he lost the right to name his new baby after his mother when he cheated on you with someone else with the same name.

You are not being moany. Not sure why you're even discussing it. No, no and thrice, no!

If he can't see why then he is a total dick.

Bohica · 05/05/2011 20:55

Do the grandparents to be know about the fling? If they do then its totally acceptable imo to tell them the real reason.

ongakgak · 05/05/2011 20:59

yes, I second to telling them if you are bucking with tradition and they are not satisfied with any old bollocks you tell them.

How about Catherine as a middle name? I don't think I would mind that as middle names are never used really.

MollysChamber · 05/05/2011 21:04

Can you not name her after your mum? Why do you have to use his mothers name?

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cath100 · 05/05/2011 21:05

molly you are soooooooo right, grandparents do know, but they cant see what myproblem is with the name.

trying to be 'inclusive' but this is just silly!

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MollysChamber · 05/05/2011 21:10

Put your foot down. You have every right too.

Melly19MummyToBe · 05/05/2011 21:10

Or why do you even need to name the baby after grandparents anyway? What if you hated both of your mothers names??

UrsulaBuffay · 05/05/2011 21:11

It's a fucking ridiculous idea & that's the end of it.

SamsGoldilocks · 05/05/2011 21:12

just tell him when the baby is born that ' Talullah Princess girlypops' is just the most adorable baby you've ever seen and insist she can have no other name. At that point he will not be able to refuse you.

Disclaimer - perhaps not Tallulah Princess Girlypops really but.....

Melly19MummyToBe · 05/05/2011 21:13

What if it's a boy?

MollysChamber · 05/05/2011 21:18

If it's a boy you should name him after one of your exes Wink

MollysChamber · 05/05/2011 21:18

The best looking one Grin

MelinaM · 05/05/2011 21:27

Absolutely not!!! Stand firm and say no!!!!

PonceyMcPonce · 05/05/2011 21:33

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MrClaypole · 05/05/2011 21:36

I'm named after one of my father's affairs (in my mother's defence, the affair was a family friend and she knew nothing about it till I was 3!)

I have hated my name ever since I found this out!

Don't do it OP!

emmanumber3 · 05/05/2011 23:05

Definitely no - no questions! Do you really want to be thinking of "the other woman" when using your precious baby's name?! Certainly not. In fact it's making me quite cross on your behalf that your hubby sees no problem Angry.

Tallulah Princess Girlypops it is then Grin.

fruitychicken · 06/05/2011 13:23

Totally agree!! No way. I couldn't even have named our DD after any of my hubbie's exs, nevermind if the name in question was from an affair!! Is the woman in question ever likely to know your baby's full name? Not that it changes my opinion. Just curious!!Whatever the outcome, just enjoy your baby!!

MsChanandlerBong · 06/05/2011 13:27

Oh OP please don't do it, and don't let your MIL make you feel bad about it either.

She probably feels disappointed that the tradition can't be followed, but she should be more disappointed in her son and his previous actions.

He is very lucky that he still has you in his life, tell him not to push his luck!

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