Pregnant again after 2 consecutive TFMRs

[BeccaAnnJones]

Hi there

I’m not sure if anyone’s been through this but wanted to reach out just in case.

In November 2017, at 21 weeks gestation, I had an induced termination due to spina bifida on the back of the skull, preventing the brain from forming normally. Our beautiful baby girl came into the world on Nov 9.

Two months later, I fell pregnant again. Then at 21 weeks again we had our second induced termination as our little boy had a severely enlarged kidney and severely enlarged ventricles on the brain. We had a post mortem which confirmed this but also confirmed that our baby had a small chin and a slightly curved palette but no cleft palette. The post mortem confirmed that they didn’t see it as being chromosomal.

Although our consultant said it wasn’t necessary, we requested genetic testing. However, after one period I have since fallen pregnant again and I’m now 11 weeks pregnant. So genetic testing might not be possible.

My 12 week scan is next week and I’m absolutely terrified.

I keep having outbursts of uncontrollable tears and anxiety

This pregnancy wasn’t planned and DH basically did the deed without realising eventhough I told him not to. I’m so scared that I’ve fallen pregnant so quickly after a tfmr again.

I’m so scared that history will repeat itself for a third time. All I want is a healthy baby. I don’t have any living children and it’s what I want more than anything else in the world.

Has anyone else had consecutive tfmrs and have gone on to have a healthy baby?

Thanks

Bec x

Thank you so much for your kind words and I’m so sorry about your loss 2 years ago.

A huge congratulations on your current pregnancy and I’m positive that all will be well. It’s meant to be ❤️

Sorry to ask but Did you have an amnio 2 years ago? Xxxxx

No I didnt. we terminated on basis of CVS results. But I would have had one if there was a fighting chance the results may have been different.

Oh @Becca I’m sorry to read you have yet another hurdle to jump. But I’m sure that this will be something you overcome.
Stay positive.
You’re in my thoughts and hope you are well 💐

It just feels like it’s never ending; bad luck after bad luck.

Thank you so much for your kind words though ❤️ Xxxxx

@becca how are things and how are you? x

Hi! Not great, have our 19 week scan and amnio tomorrow at 3pm.

So so scared that issues will be spotted again on the ultrasound and also so scared of the amnio. I would love a healthy pregnancy ❤️ Xxxx

Thanks so much for your message @eatmycheese xxxxx

Will be thinking of you. Wishing you and your baby the very best 💐🤞🏻♥️

@BeccaAnnJones how are you?
I hope that the scan went well x

Hi @eatmycheese

Thanks so much for checking in.

From what they can see the baby looks normal for 19 weeks. They can see 4 heart chambers but couldn’t have a proper look at one of them. They said it may be to do with the baby’s position. Going back next Wednesday for another look. The brain and spine and kidneys looked normal too.
They did the amnio, they said it seemed straightforward. The liquid was darker than normal but they think it may be to do with the fact I’ve bled in this pregnancy.
The results will come back next Friday at 4pm via a phonecall which I’m dreading.
The results yesterday were the best we could ask for at that stage.
Currently resting up in my parents’ house.

Just totalling dreading the amnio results at the end of next week. As so many issues don’t show in the anatomy scan so those results will be the decision that we’re so nervous about; as it will result in terminating from Nov 26 😞

Bec
xxx

Thinking of you Bec. The scan results sound very promising to me. Fx for amino results xx

Thank you so much @funkypuzzle Crossing everything ❤️ Xxxxx

@becca hi there
I’m going to stay positive for you. The scan sounds as though it went well. That’s great. Hold onto that my lovely
And I have never had an amnio but goodness I expect your heart is in your mouth and you can think of little else.
Stay strong. You might not think you are but you are. Keep going. I’m rooting for you and your lovely baby.

I hope you are ok this evening.
Will check up on your thread towards Friday 💐

Thank you so much @eatmycheese it means the world ❤️

I’m too scared to feel any hope. I did that in previous pregnancies and felt like I jinxed myself. Trying to get through each day until Friday at the moment 😞
Thanks so much it really does mean so much xxxx

No experience becca but thinking of you and wishing you well.

Thank you ❤️ Xxxxx

@BeccaAnnJones I know tomorrow is a big day for you and your beautiful baby.
I just wanted to write and let you know I'm thinking of you and keeping everything crossed that the phone call with the results is a happy one.
Keep going x

Thank you so much @eatmycheese it means the world that you’ve messaged.

I’m so unbelievably scared and anxious. I’ll update you afterwards ❤️xxx

Our little girl is perfect! No WWS, no downs, no Patau’s or Edwards syndrome. We’ll have the results of the full chromosome testing at the end of next week which looks for duplications in chromosomes which may result in learning difficulties etc. So one more hurdle to go Xxxx

I’m thrilled for you. That’s just fabulous news. You deserve this happiness after so much heartache.

And a baby girl on the way! Have you started talking names? We’ve got two boys and a girl so I remember this part very well!

Hope you can relax and start enjoying the rest of your pregnancy
Please keep us posted. I’m going to raise my glass to you tonight ⭐️❤️🥂

Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

Haven’t even thought of names yet! Need to start thinking 😊

Please enjoy a big glass or two for me!!! 🥂

Thank you for being so lovely and supportive, means more than you know! ❤️ Xxxxx

That's wonderful news! I'm so happy for you.
As you know, I totally understand the anxiety. But this sounds really good!

Thank you so much ❤️ Xxxxx

Im so thrilled for you Bec that is truly fantastic news..my goodness what a relief and a blessing. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. ❤❤💐🌈

Thank you so much @funkypuzzle ❤️
All my love xxxxx