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In the middle of a medical abortion, in so much pain :(

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 20:49

I'm getting so much pain, like contractions. Feeling really upset too. Thought it would be easier than this. Anyone else been through it

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:01

They did tell me it would be painful. They said it would be like early labour pains as my uterus will contract to expell the baby. They gave me some codeine to take. I think everything is happening as it should. Im feeling so sad Sad

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Ivortheengine8 · 22/06/2011 21:02

I did quite a few years ago when I was in my early 20's. I remember it was really painful. (I had the pills) It is like contractions.

Expect a lot of heavy bleeding too afterwards for a couple of weeks. It often came as a surprise to me to do carry around some thick pads.

I don't really know what else to add, just wanted to reply and say I had been there.

Northernlurker · 22/06/2011 21:05

Oh you poor lamb Sad. I hven't been through it but we will all hold your hand a bit if you like?
So basic stuff - have you actually taken the codeine? Don't try to be a hero, take the drugs. What about a warm bath or a hot water bottle?
Are you warm enough generally. Pain and distress are very shocking and you need to keep warm and keep hydrated. A cup of tea would be a good idea tbh.

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:06

Thanks, I have started bleeding really heavily. I'm scared that I'll feel or see the baby when I pass it. I'm so scared.

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winnybella · 22/06/2011 21:07

How many weeks are you?

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:07

Think I'll go and get in bed.

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:08

About 8 weeks

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WhipMeIndiana · 22/06/2011 21:08

sorry to be gruesome when I miscarried @ 10 wks I passed three quite big clotty/lumps ;-( it'll be over soon, have a nice cup of tea and get a hot water bottle, is someone there with you?

winnybella · 22/06/2011 21:08

Don't be scared. Heavy bleeding is normal. Do count how many pads you're going thorugh, just to be sure.

winnybella · 22/06/2011 21:10

Yes, I think it tends to be more painful at later date- I had one at a bit over 6 weeks and it wasn't painful. I did pass something on day 2- placenta, I think, definitely didn't look like a foetus. Don't look if you don't want to.

CandiceMariePratt · 22/06/2011 21:10

I did a few years ago and it was painful. Are you at home? I was in hospital for mine and they offered me stronger pain relief. Maybe an on call Dr could come and give you something if you are at home? Take are x x

Northernlurker · 22/06/2011 21:10

Look this is a scary thing but you've made the right choice for you and you are going to be ok. Everything that's happening is what needs to happen.
Is anybody with you? Can you call a mate to come round if not?

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:11

My Dh is here and is being really good.

Good idea about hot water bottle, dh is going to fill one up for me.

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FriggFRIGG · 22/06/2011 21:12

it'll all be over soon love.have a cup of tea.x

Ivortheengine8 · 22/06/2011 21:14

Nora, you might feel the urge to go to the toilet when you pass the fetus. If you do feel something pass in the toilet, tell the nurse straight away and get back into bed. You don't need to try and figure out if it was or not because that will be up to the nurse to determine.

Northernlurker · 22/06/2011 21:15

Oh good that he's there. Right well just keep breathing in and out, take the drugs, use heat and either move about or keep very still depending on what seems better for you.

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:15

Thanks all, I definately need hand holding.

I know I'm doing the right thing and I just need to keep telling myself that because at the moment I'm really upset about what I'm doing.

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:17

Going to take some more painkillers and get into bed with hotwater bottle.

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toddlerwrangler · 22/06/2011 21:19

I just wanted to offer a cyberhug for you. :(

Northernlurker · 22/06/2011 21:20

It's ok to be sad. I think sometimes we beat ourselves up so much and convince ourselves there's no right to be sad and upset about our choices.

Well what I think is that sometimes making the right decision means choosing something that really hurts. It's the right thing but that doesn't stop it being hard and painful and just generally miserable to endure.

Being sad about something recognises it's importance to us. This is one of those times that none of us want but we all have. You will get through it, you will be ok and being sad now is part of that process towards being ok.

hester · 22/06/2011 21:22

Oh you poor love. I had an early miscarriage and was shocked at how much it hurt; I expected it to be like a period but it was much worse.

Is there someone there with you? Do you have painkillers? A hot water bottle?

mumatron · 22/06/2011 21:27

Oh you poor thing.

I've been where you are and I too was suprised at the amount of pain and bleeding.

Get plenty of rest and take the painkillers.

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:28

Northernlurker, thank you for that kind post xx

I am in bed now, have had some codeine and have a hotwater bottle.

Just need it to be over. I'm dreading passing it.

I never though I'd be doing this. still sad for the baby I'm losing.

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NoraJune · 22/06/2011 21:29

Thanks for hugs and hand holding x

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