In the middle of a medical abortion, in so much pain :(

[NoraJune]

I'm getting so much pain, like contractions. Feeling really upset too. Thought it would be easier than this. Anyone else been through it

Do you know you definitely don't want to see the foetus? I think it's a good idea to be really sure about this as you may see something. It is possible and you may also feel compelled to look unless you force yourself not to. This is why I mean you need to be sure sure before it happens. I had a medical evacuation of my miscarried baby at 14-16 weeks. The pain is great but I doubt it will get any worse than you are experiencing now. Soothing thoughts your way. Emotionally it is very painful no matter how right the decision is. Allow yourself to grieve.

I totally understand those sad feelings, be kind to yourself

You've had some wonderful advice but I just wanted to pop on & offer my support.

Hot water bottle & a cup of tea, glad your DH is with you.

God love you, I'm cyber-here for you too. All good advice been given.

No problem OP - handholding is what we're here for.

You poor thing. I have had one of these and found it very painful indeed. I think the pain is harder to bear because of the stress and sadness.

Northernlurker puts it so well. It is a sad thing, and natural and necessary to be sad. I felt sad for a long while, and then was OK, without regrets.

I hope the pain eases soon and that you feel some much needed relief when it is over.

Let us know how it's going Nora. Hope you are ok.

Sending lots of hugs and hope you feel better physically and emotionally soon

Northernlurker you sound lovely; sure you've really helped. Will you be my surrogate mum please?

Hi Nora

I miscarried at 6,8 and 17 weeks.
I had very heavy bleeding and cramps at 8 weeks but i didnt actually see anything other than clotting. I did at 16 weeks but i was admitted to hospital.

Take the codine and have a hot bath. Try and get to bed and have a lie down. Have you got anyone with you for support.

Still in a lot of pain. The bleeding is getting heavier and have started passing small clots. Just sitting in the bathroom with my hot water bottle and feeling very sorry for myself.

:( sorry. I hope the pain is over for you soon.

The worst will be over soon

Make sure you take your pain relief every 4 hours so you build up a reserve.

Nora, just wanted to offer some late night hand holding. Hope the pain will end soon and definitely keep up the painkillers tonight x

Still handholding Nora.

manicmummy - if you need a surrogate mum I'll do my best Thanks for asking. I do have three dds though - maybe you should talk to them first

I'm still here, Nora.

I think it's gone

Sorry if tmi but I was sat on the loo and I felt it come out of me.

Couldn't bare to look at it. I could even bring myself to flush the loo, dh had to do it.

The pain has subsided.

Can't believe what has just happened. It was my choice I know but it is horrendous. I thought I'd be relieved but I'm devastated

I'm going to take a sleeping tablet and try and sleep.

Thanks all for being here, you are angels xx

Goodnight- the worst is over now. Get some rest, plenty of painkillers and TLC. Sorry for your loss

Thank you, night

I hope you and dh can get some sleep. Lots of rest and warmth needed for you both now.

Goodnight, Nora. I hope you sleep well.

Hope you are doing ok this morning.

Echo - hope you are OK.

Hope you are taking it easy today. x

Hi just wanted to see how you are today. Have been thinking of you. Sending hugs