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David Walliams

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mrpenny · 10/11/2026 12:16

To Think it could not have been DW??

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Badvocthebad · 11/11/2026 00:16

I'm 54.
Random and regular sexual assault was depressingly normal when I was a young woman.
I've been backed into a stationary cupboard by a boss, grabbed by the bottom, had penises rubbed against me "by accident".
Groping in pubs and clubs was usual.
I stopped wearing dresses and skirts at around 19/20. I stopped going clubbing around the same age.
There was worse, which this case and reporting has brought up again, but I'm so glad that RB has been imprisoned and hope DW follows him.
My thoughts are with his victims 💔

DancingonmyOwn88 · 11/11/2026 00:17

Getsomemeatonyerbones · 11/11/2026 00:10

Yes but even the way he stands, his hands etc, hard to explain. He definitely appears gay

That is a carefully honed act, perfected over many years.

CrazyMidget · 11/11/2026 00:27

nomas · 10/11/2026 15:30

Well the Queen paid Virginia Giuffre £9 million pound because she had sex with Andrew when she was 17 so I don't think men having sex with 17 year old is an unproblematic as you claim.

Clue is in the words 'Abuse of power'.

But Virginia, God rest her soul, was trafficked and forced by Epstein to do that with Andrew, and then paid, turning her into an unwilling sex worker. They threatened her, telling her they knew where her little brother lived, etc. So it's different from consensual sex between a 17-year-old and an older man, even though the latter is, of course, massively icky.

Koalacanth · 11/11/2026 00:33

I wonder if Simon Cowell had any idea Walliams was behaving so badly.

CrazyMidget · 11/11/2026 00:34

Badvocthebad · 11/11/2026 00:16

I'm 54.
Random and regular sexual assault was depressingly normal when I was a young woman.
I've been backed into a stationary cupboard by a boss, grabbed by the bottom, had penises rubbed against me "by accident".
Groping in pubs and clubs was usual.
I stopped wearing dresses and skirts at around 19/20. I stopped going clubbing around the same age.
There was worse, which this case and reporting has brought up again, but I'm so glad that RB has been imprisoned and hope DW follows him.
My thoughts are with his victims 💔

I'm around your age. I stopped going dancing for the exact same reason around age 20. All I wanted to do was dance with my friends, but there was always some creep. I had my bottom grabbed, both cheeks, full-on, and whoever did it knew I couldn't easily whirl round and see who it was, because I was carrying two glasses of Coke. Another time, I was talking to a guy and he bought me a Coke and then just slid his hand onto my breast. Another time, my friend introduced me to an older male friend of hers, and - this is the worst one - he suddenly traced a finger down the centre of my vulva. 🤢 I also had an older teen boy follow me and flash his penis at me, and getting yelled at from cars when walking along was an everyday occurrence. Then there was the man at work who bullied me badly because he, apparently, fancied me. Then there was a family friend who touched me very inappropriately below the waist when I was 11, more than once. There are more street incidents too, like the man who tried to get into my apartment building with me.

If these men could know the depths of the revulsion they inspire in us, they wouldn't be so quick to do it.

Datingwoess · 11/11/2026 00:37

Why won’t be he arrested? He sexually assaulted a teenager and groomed under age girls.

The papers must have good enough evidence to publish these stories!

CrazyMidget · 11/11/2026 00:43

DarkAngel23 · 10/11/2026 22:05

Sadly was seen as my fault 20+ yrs ago. I naively thought having sex with a 20 plus male at 15 must be a good thing and I was just ‘irresistible’. I dont like posting too much details online but fallout was horrendous and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Took me around 10 years and a really good counsellor to realise it wasn’t my fault.

I'm so, so sorry that happened to you. Of course it wasn't your fault! Sending hugs xxx 💐

fridakahlosmoustache · 11/11/2026 00:44

He always set of my creepometer big time. Glad to be vindicated (though I expected it to be young boys).

CrazyMidget · 11/11/2026 00:44

Koalacanth · 11/11/2026 00:33

I wonder if Simon Cowell had any idea Walliams was behaving so badly.

I don't think so. Simon is a straight arrow, and I think he'd have fired DW immediately. He's also an excellent businessman who would never knowingly allow any hint of scandal to tarnish his shows.

Badvocthebad · 11/11/2026 00:46

CrazyMidget · 11/11/2026 00:34

I'm around your age. I stopped going dancing for the exact same reason around age 20. All I wanted to do was dance with my friends, but there was always some creep. I had my bottom grabbed, both cheeks, full-on, and whoever did it knew I couldn't easily whirl round and see who it was, because I was carrying two glasses of Coke. Another time, I was talking to a guy and he bought me a Coke and then just slid his hand onto my breast. Another time, my friend introduced me to an older male friend of hers, and - this is the worst one - he suddenly traced a finger down the centre of my vulva. 🤢 I also had an older teen boy follow me and flash his penis at me, and getting yelled at from cars when walking along was an everyday occurrence. Then there was the man at work who bullied me badly because he, apparently, fancied me. Then there was a family friend who touched me very inappropriately below the waist when I was 11, more than once. There are more street incidents too, like the man who tried to get into my apartment building with me.

If these men could know the depths of the revulsion they inspire in us, they wouldn't be so quick to do it.

Edited

Yep.
Sounds all too familiar 💔
So sorry you had those experiences

fridakahlosmoustache · 11/11/2026 00:46

Getsomemeatonyerbones · 11/11/2026 00:10

Yes but even the way he stands, his hands etc, hard to explain. He definitely appears gay

On wiki, it quotes him as saying he's bi.

realsavagelike · 11/11/2026 00:57

CrazyMidget · 11/11/2026 00:34

I'm around your age. I stopped going dancing for the exact same reason around age 20. All I wanted to do was dance with my friends, but there was always some creep. I had my bottom grabbed, both cheeks, full-on, and whoever did it knew I couldn't easily whirl round and see who it was, because I was carrying two glasses of Coke. Another time, I was talking to a guy and he bought me a Coke and then just slid his hand onto my breast. Another time, my friend introduced me to an older male friend of hers, and - this is the worst one - he suddenly traced a finger down the centre of my vulva. 🤢 I also had an older teen boy follow me and flash his penis at me, and getting yelled at from cars when walking along was an everyday occurrence. Then there was the man at work who bullied me badly because he, apparently, fancied me. Then there was a family friend who touched me very inappropriately below the waist when I was 11, more than once. There are more street incidents too, like the man who tried to get into my apartment building with me.

If these men could know the depths of the revulsion they inspire in us, they wouldn't be so quick to do it.

Edited

I'm in my early fifties. Distinctively remember going to a theatre performance in a miniskirt when I was around 13 and trying to yank it further down my legs the whole time because I could feel the persistent stare of the adult male sat in the row behind me. Felt so vulnerable and yucky.

CrazyCatMam · 11/11/2026 01:00

Saw a clip where Matt Lucas says to Russell Brand & David Williams that they're the gayest straight men he knows. They both laugh about it and call it 'the perfect smokescreen'.

Datingwoess · 11/11/2026 01:09

Anyone think Simon C is next?

GarlicNothing · 11/11/2026 01:16

PropertyD · 10/11/2026 16:47

I agree. I have read the Guardian article and the girls being quoted were being invited to his house, came back a number of times, took up his offer of staying with him.

I do wonder if there is something far worse that Walliams is worried about. He was an older man looking for young dates. The 15 year old is another matter but probably quite hard to prove after such a long time.

I haven't read the whole thread - and probably won't unless further new breaks - but the article gave me pause for thought.

Firstly, systematically grooming under-16s until they're legal is revolting. I was shocked at my own initial reaction, which was 'well, that's not so bad'. Actually, it's pretty bad in itself and I do hope our attitude is going to change. What it is, is picking out school children as potential sex targets and putting some effort into making them available as soon as they hit 16. .

Second, pulling up a 15-year-old's top to suck at her nipples is a serious sexual assault. She makes it clear she wasn't on board for that: it's very aggressive.

Third, employers don't pay a five-figure sum to a staff member to shut her up about creepy suggestions. It indicates he did assault her, badly enough that going to the police would've ruined his image.

Then there's the whole background business of de-bagging and fingering young men on stage (and video) plus the massive amount of 'hiding in plain sight' remarks he's made on film and in print. I suspect the journalists know there is more - which would explain his barmy injunction attempt. The girls' published stories might give other victims courage to come forward.

We'll find out in due course, I guess.

RaspberryCoffeePot · 11/11/2026 01:39

mrpenny · 10/11/2026 12:16

To Think it could not have been DW??

Lucy Beaumont spoke out against him and said she fears she will lose work because of it. He was getting people to sign NDAs so they could speak to no-one about the abuse. Not even a therapist. This is appalling. So he can traumatise women and then make sure they get no help. Vile and disgusting. Please people, let us start getting behind people like Lucy Beaumont who bravely spoke out. Let's change the culture once and for all. Powerful men need to be stopped from abusing, and people who speak out need to be supported and encouraged. Change the culture NOW !!!!

Clonakilla · 11/11/2026 01:49

Great interview with Lucy Beaumont. Brave woman. And how sad the person who originally confided in her felt he couldn’t raise it or didn’t know how via the employer.

RaspberryCoffeePot · 11/11/2026 01:50

JustHereForTheShitsAndGiggles · 10/11/2026 12:59

Do you mean JR? I heard (from a policeman) years ago that he was the next one to be exposed.

Surely not him...if i've got the right person. He doesn't seem sleazy enough. Brand and Walliams seem.obviously sleazy.

RaspberryCoffeePot · 11/11/2026 01:54

NooNakedJacuzziness · 10/11/2026 13:01

I foresee a new reality programme in the making “I’m a nonce get me out of here”

😂

Koalacanth · 11/11/2026 01:57

RaspberryCoffeePot · 11/11/2026 01:50

Surely not him...if i've got the right person. He doesn't seem sleazy enough. Brand and Walliams seem.obviously sleazy.

How old were he and his wife when they started dating?

RaspberryCoffeePot · 11/11/2026 02:04

Electricsausages · 10/11/2026 13:28

@PinkFrogss we have just said the same, let’s hope they put him away with Brand

Yes. They can abuse each other.

RaspberryCoffeePot · 11/11/2026 02:09

fridakahlosmoustache · 11/11/2026 00:44

He always set of my creepometer big time. Glad to be vindicated (though I expected it to be young boys).

Yeah, I kind of did too.

TouchMyBumThisIsLife · 11/11/2026 02:11

Dead thread.

RaspberryCoffeePot · 11/11/2026 02:16

Sartre · 10/11/2026 19:39

It doesn’t sound suspicious at all. I do not get those vibes from Matt whatsoever. I’m worried about Noel Fielding who I’ve always liked.

He strikes me as easily led, laughing at didgy jokes bit not really as a predator....although he does seem very immature with a look that's way past its sell by date...and llooks awful on a mzn who,'s getti ng fat